Keeping in touch with friends

[Outcast]

How often would you want your friends to keep in touch with you?
Everyday? Every other day? Once a week? Twice a week? Once a month? Once a year?

Are they the ones usually calling you first? Or are you always the one calling them up? Or is it balanced?

[Sweet Pea]

outcast said:

How often would you want your friends to keep in touch with you?
Everyday? Every other day? Once a week? Twice a week? Once a month? Once a year?

Are they the ones usually calling you first? Or are you always the one calling them up? Or is it balanced?

i dunno. it just depends. at this point in my life we're all busy with jobs, kids, etc. we probably call each other up about once a month more or less. i try to reciprocate, so if they call me i try to be the next one who calls, emails, IMs or whatever. tend to talk to online friends alot more, probably because they're alot more available.

[strawberrysweetie]

outcast said:

How often would you want your friends to keep in touch with you?
Everyday? Every other day? Once a week? Twice a week? Once a month? Once a year?

Are they the ones usually calling you first? Or are you always the one calling them up? Or is it balanced?

I think you've asked some really good questions. But, I agree with Sweet Pea that it does depend...on a variety of factors, really.

One of my biggest problems is taking the initiative to call someone up and invite them to do something. I normally wait for someone to call me instead. One of my reasons for this is because I'm just simply not as busy as others. I'm not working as much and wasn't at all before...plus I don't have a boyfriend. Another reason, is just because I don't know what to ask people to do...and I assume they're busy doing something else and don't want to bother them. So, since I leave it up to them to call me when they want to...I basically risk losing the friendship all together, which is pretty much what happens to me all the time. We just lose touch. And the distance grows more and more as more time passes on.

So really...if you want to keep in touch with someone, the contact given and received should probably be quite equal. And the closer you are, the more you'd probably want to keep in contact.

For me, being where I'm at...I'd at least want to do something with friends once a week....but that kind of requires having a group of friends in the first place. And I do have some "friends" I guess...they are just busy and have other friends or their boyfriends. I just don't have a group of friends to hang out with anymore. Right now, the main way I "keep in touch" with "friends" is through facebook. I partially blame technology for how I am...it further enables me to avoid many things.

[annaa]

I used to leave it to them to contact me. Not because I didn't want the contact - but because i'm too shy to give them a call.

And that's how I lost touch with so many people.

[lennythegiant]

outcast said:

How often would you want your friends to keep in touch with you?
Everyday? Every other day? Once a week? Twice a week? Once a month? Once a year?

Are they the ones usually calling you first? Or are you always the one calling them up? Or is it balanced?

Let's see? The couple of friends I have in town? At least once a week or every other week.

Friends from school? Varies from once a month to every few months depending on how busy everyone is. I haven't seen any of them since school ended though.

[k151]

I haven't talked to my high school friends for months. It doesn't bother me as much as it probably should, but I do have some buddies I know from university.

[gaz]

I don't have any friends apart from one o'r two online

[audioalone]

Just about same here (as Gaz said).

My mother used to call me. My dad would call when he'd want to come and spend a couple days visiting me and we'd go for something to eat; go for a drive; come back and watch videos, etc.

Nowadays, hardly anyone calls.

I'd try to call a few "acquaintances" - people I like who are important to me, but I'm probably not to them; but I'm nervous I'm going to call them when they're busy or eating supper, etc. so I keep putting it off.

Well I guess enough said.

[HybridMoment]

I don't think I've ever made a social phone call in my entire life. Even when I had a best friend we never called each other.

The only phone call I remember making when I was a kid was to try to win a contest. There was a small long distance charge on the phone bill from that; I had to pay it and my dad yelled at me for using the phone for non-important uses.

[annaa]

hybridmoment said:

I don't think I've ever made a social phone call in my entire life. Even when I had a best friend we never called each other...

People have made social phone calls to me in the past.. and it's weird.
One girl used to call me and she'd be on the phone to me for 45 minutes usually. How does your average non-shy person do that?!

[Jeremy]

Depends on the friend. Some are very busy with work, one has an eight-month old baby and is busy enjoying being a dad as well, so I usually only see him a couple of times a month, although I defeinately count him as a friend.

Others I will talk to a couple of times a week or more, some I won't see for ages but will talk to via text or e-mail, sometimes on the phone.

I used to leave it to them to contact me. Not because I didn't want the contact - but because i'm too shy to give them a call.

And that's how I lost touch with so many people. I used to leave it to them to contact me. Not because I didn't want the contact - but because i'm too shy to give them a call.

Yes, that's me as well. This is why I am now still in touch with a total of one person I was at school with.