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Post by moogle on Apr 22, 2003 0:51:37 GMT -5
[whine] i used to go to an anime forum, and i really liked it there, and i spent lots of time in the chat room. it was the only place i was comfortable being social, since i'd recently moved, and didn't have many friends. but, a bunch of annoying people started showing up and people i liked started leaving, so i left too. since then i haven't been able to find a place that i really liked and have trouble making friends at any of them. i mean, i liked this place, but it's not active yet. it just doesn't have the same feel. so i hop from site to site. sometimes i feel like i've lost my sense of humor, so people don't respond to me in the way they used to.
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Post by unionjackattack86 on Apr 22, 2003 2:55:01 GMT -5
I know what you mean about the place not being active yet, it needs more members.
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Post by Twice-Shy on Apr 22, 2003 10:41:05 GMT -5
We love you Moogle! Our SHY United site is just over 8 weeks old and we have to date 42 members which I think is pretty darn excellent. The only way to build up something good here is for everybody to keep coming back and keep posting!
I have fiddled with our google search engine settings so if anybody out there types something like 'shy united or 'shy forums' into Google our site comes up first which is what we want.
Part of our poblem is that the forums are designed for people who are shy and maybe reluctant to post. That reluctance will hopefully pass once they become more comfortable and confident with the site.
For those who do a lot of posting I would ask you to keep it up. And for those who don't, why not post a few things. Everybody's opinions are valid and its great fun and a great confidence booster.
Shane.
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Post by moogle on Apr 22, 2003 12:14:37 GMT -5
i'm sorry. i really wasn't complaining about this place. this is easily the forum that i'm most active in, so i do like it.
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Post by Twice-Shy on Apr 22, 2003 14:07:17 GMT -5
You were right to make the original post. Keep posting as it really does build up bonds and relationships.
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Post by moogle on Apr 25, 2003 17:48:23 GMT -5
i thought i'd just add to this instead of starting a new thread, since it's related:
i know most people have an easier time talking to people online. i do. at least, i feel like i do, but then when i get an IM, i never know what to talk about. the last chat room i went into, i just felt left out. so now, the internet has become the same as trying to socialize in real life, which leads me to seek out sites where i can do things without having to talk to anyone..
i don't think this is a good thing.
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Post by spitzig on Apr 25, 2003 18:17:48 GMT -5
Discussions in chat rooms usually seem too superficial to me. No real conversation. Just a bunch of people saying hi. Maybe some people making compliments that have no basis in reality to get cybersex.
When do you have an easier time socializing online? In forums like this? I've been frequenting a forum for a couple of years. I have no trouble posting in it, I think because the forum is for a general topic, with specific topics. If I know about a topic, I can post about it. In real life, I'm not lucky enough to have topics above everyone's head that I can respond to. The closest I can get is trying to find groups that have similar interests as me. There don't seem to be many of those.
I thought you did fine on IM, though. Better than I usually do.
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Post by moogle on Apr 25, 2003 20:55:23 GMT -5
thanks.
the chat rooms i ever go to are attatched to forums, so i guess the idea is, you go there to talk to friends from the forum, but i never make friends on forums.. forums are easier than chat or im, but i tend to think about what i'm going to post a couple of times before i post it, and i often end up not posting it at all.
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Post by Twice-Shy on Apr 26, 2003 9:23:21 GMT -5
A lot of chatrooms on MSN hold up to a 100 people - trying to talk over each other which is chaos. We have informal chats every Friday, Saturday and Sunday from 8pm UK time in our main SHY United site. Our chatroom holds a maximum of 12 which is far far better.
The reason we try to keep it informal is to create a positive, stress free environment for people to chat and build up confidence.
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Post by moogle on Apr 26, 2003 11:43:16 GMT -5
i keep forgetting to go to those..i think that's only a few hours away, so i should be there..if i don't forget again. edit: i forgot again  |
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Post by spitzig on Apr 27, 2003 3:21:20 GMT -5
Yeah, I try to think about it, but that's like 3PM here. Right in the middle of study time.
Of course, for the past couple weeks(and the next couple) it's seemed like it's ALWAYS right in the middle of study time...
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Post by moogle on Apr 27, 2003 14:40:59 GMT -5
hmm..i'm there now..all alone.. maybe i got the time difference wrong.
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Post by g3netix on Apr 29, 2003 12:50:45 GMT -5
hehe this board is great i first saw it in a paper saying somethink like "www.shyunited.com, a site a laugh at" or something like that.
you should make a chat room for this forum, would be kewl
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Post by Twice-Shy on Apr 30, 2003 4:03:29 GMT -5
We do have our own chat room g3netix. It's on the main menu on the SHY United site. At the minute we have scheduled, informal chats for Friday, Saturday and Sunday evenings from 8pm Uk time.
I take your point Moogle about that time maybe awkward for some people. If anybody would like to suggest a time and day we could look at holding a chat session then.
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