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Post by ester on Jul 2, 2003 14:19:50 GMT -5
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Post by urbanspaceman on Jul 2, 2003 15:07:02 GMT -5
I've definitely felt like that in the past. I think it's just being the sort of person who likes their own space, and their own company a lot of the time. But when you're with people, you can't really tell them to go because you think you're being rude, so you end up just getting more worked up inside. I felt like that often at friend's houses when I was at school, I really wanted to go home, but felt I should stay because I was asked to go there. It's not like you don't appreciate having good friends who want you to be around, but there's nothing wrong with a little 'me' time. I guess it's because I spent so much time when I was younger on my own, so I kind of prefer it that way. When there were lots of people around, I got quite anxious and even more withdrawn. But I suppose a big part of being shy for a lot of people is that you like to be by yourself a lot, and I don't think there's anything wrong in that.
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Post by sweetness on Jul 2, 2003 15:40:31 GMT -5
There s nothing wrong with wanting to have a little time to yourself. But you should be carefull not to start avoiding people. Everyone needs some time alone from time to time, but shy people seem to need more time to relax from the stressfull social situations from every day. in my job for example i work a lot with people, it s very social, in the night i usually need time by myself to relax. But you shouldnt neglect the feeling that you want to be by yourself instead of with your friends IF it happens often and not occasionally. Why do you want to be alone ?
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Post by Twice-Shy on Jul 3, 2003 4:46:50 GMT -5
I would say that most people feel like that from time to time. I have gone through periods in the past were I just don't want to talk to anyone about anything. I could have been out for a night out and been laughing and joining in. Then suddenly a switch would click and I just wanted to get home.
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Post by glenn on Jul 3, 2003 12:14:34 GMT -5
i was like that when i was younger.
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Post by Michael1973 on Jul 3, 2003 12:55:39 GMT -5
I have been in the following situation, very similar to yours, numerous times. I would be out with a group of people and it would get to be way past the time I wanted to go home -- and nobody was going anywhere, and I just didn't want to draw attention to myself by announcing my departure. So I'd sit there waiting and waiting and waiting. I so hate it when that happens.
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Post by RollingStone on Jul 11, 2003 21:40:25 GMT -5
Sometimes I feel that way at parties and similar social events. I think it's because, as much as I'd like to overcome shyness, I can only handle new situations in short doses; otherwise, I feel overwhelmed. But there's nothing wrong with starting out slowly - how else can you start out?
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Post by Twice-Shy on Jul 12, 2003 8:10:41 GMT -5
I agree. I've never been a fan of the flooding method. With me, it causes more damage than good.
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Post by Placido on Dec 5, 2003 9:12:59 GMT -5
I get that, and it can happen very suddenly - I can be enjoying myself one minute, and the next I just start thinking 'I want out!'
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Post by Chris2208 on Dec 13, 2003 15:21:05 GMT -5
[glow=red,2,300]yes i have been like that too, in that i want them to leave cause i do wanna be alone sometimes but also i don't wanna sound mean or anything, so i don't say anything to them, or i think they will start being mean to me if i tell them to leave and that i don't want them their for now.[/glow]
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Post by CaryGrant on Dec 14, 2003 11:50:30 GMT -5
I have great admiration for people who can end conversations and visits gracefully. You, who say something like, "It's been so nice seeing you, we must do this again, but now I have things I must do" with a smile on their face as they stand up, making it clear the visit is over.
I have noticed that when this is done (to me or others), that the people are not really resentful - they actually admire the person for valuing their own time and for ending things gracefully. That said, pretty hard for a shy person to pull off.
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Post by Pretty Noose on Dec 15, 2003 20:00:57 GMT -5
Hi guys!!!!!!!! This is my first post. I am 15 and very shy. My friends have just left my house. They were here for most of the day. I was screaming out inside that I just wanted them to leave so that I could be alone. Anybody else feel like that? I am like that all the time, I don't really have any friends, but my neighboor comes over alot and she is always trying to get me to do something, and then she complains that I never talk, when she and her other friends come over I want to scream, I usually end up hiding in my room because I don't want to be mean and tell them to leave, sometimes they end up talking to my parents I try to avoid people, I never answer the door, if it were up to me I would be alone all day, I am much more comfortable that way...I have major issues...
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Post by crystal2shy on Mar 24, 2004 16:05:38 GMT -5
I KNOW I WOULD RATHER BE ALONE SOMETIMES ONLY BECAUSE ITS MOST COMFORTABLE, NO ONE TO MAKE FUN OF YOU, OR SHAME YOU, FOR BEING SHY OR QUIET, EVEN THOUGH I WANT TO BE SOCIAL WITH PEOPLE, THEY TEND TO MAKE ME FEEL WORSE BY ALWAYS PUTTING MY QUIETNESS ON THE SPOT LIKE ITS MY FAULT AND THEN I WOULD JUST RATHER BE ALONE IF NO ONE UNDERSTANDS
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Post by Ghost on Mar 24, 2004 20:22:07 GMT -5
crystal, your caps are on ;D. *Mimics a stewardess, turns on mic* "Please tturn off your Caps Lock light so we can proceed in normal font. Thank you for your cooperation. Have a nice day and posting" *Turns off mic and dress' back in Ghostly robes*
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Post by shyangel on Apr 6, 2004 2:03:11 GMT -5
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It's called social anxiety in most cases and is just normal body functions out of wack. Doesn't mean you are weird or abnormal and in most cases it can be fixed.
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