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Post by johnadams on Sept 24, 2003 21:35:04 GMT -5
Alright, how many people out in Shyland are so overwhelmingly sick of themselves, their loneliness, their total lack of redeeming qualities, that they feel like crawling into a foxhole and rotting slowly? Yes, I know you think, yes YOU, that you corner the market on misery. Here's my story; I'm ugly, "hideous" I should say, I'm stupid, insipid in conversation...eg BORING. Come on, folks. Cast those stones. Crucify me! Thank You
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Post by Boglin on Sept 25, 2003 0:47:39 GMT -5
Hey, now at least you've got one redeeming quality: you don't have delusions of grandeur. After all, think of all the people out there who have no redeeming qualities that actually believe that they are entitled to respect. You, on the other hand, are an individual that can see and recognize your own flaws; this puts you ahead of ten percent of the population and about thirty percent of politicians.
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Post by Mildman1 on Sept 27, 2003 6:17:55 GMT -5
So you don't present yourself well to other people. Does this make you a bad person - no! Think of all the smooth-talking, goodlooking slimeballs who are up their own ass - they are not good people. Their good qualities are the qualities of presentation, not substance. There are 'character' qualities, the most important of which is respect for others, not love of ourselves. When we don't like ourselves, we tend to be negative to other people (ok, it's a vast generalisation), and this makes them negative towards us. If we try to be positive, we're much more likely to get them to be positive towards us, and this will make us feel better, but also we know that we are giving them respect, and this is worthwhile in itself.
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Post by Twice-Shy on Sept 29, 2003 5:55:46 GMT -5
I have gone through long periods were I have absolutely loathed myself. It stems from a basic lack of self esteem. My plan that I have mentioned on these baords before is to try to turn a negative into a positive. Enjoy every day. Do something positive every day, no matter how small or insignificant it seems.
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Post by Mildman1 on Oct 1, 2003 14:51:29 GMT -5
Ok, I said that you should be positive towards other people, and I try to be, but I still often feel like a loser because I'm nowhere near as outgoing as most. This pisses me off about myself. I'm attracted to a woman who has no interest in me, and I feel that if I was outgoing, I may have had more chance of interesting her, so I curse the fact that I'm not different.
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Post by SADdaydreamer on Oct 24, 2003 23:06:31 GMT -5
It's truly amazing how alike we all are... I have characterized my insecurities as demons...because they truly are. They are relentless and show no mercy, 24 hours a day. I feel you pain, believe me. For me it is like being trapped in a steel cage and with your worst enemy, breaking it seems impossible. I've heard of ways to change your thoughts, but when they're uncontrollable and so deeply ingrained in your subconcious it seems like a battle not worth fighting. But I still believe there is hope. My best advice is read a book on SAD and self esteem. I'm currently reading Painfully Shy by Barbara Markway, Phd and shy herself. I think she is a genius and makes many logical points. So far I think it's the best 15 bucks I ever spent
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