sick&tired of being bullying

[Julia]

Hi! My name is Julia, I'm 20. My problem is that I've always been bullied by some people, either in the kindergarden, at school or now at the university. When I tried to talk back my offenders, it always sounded funny to them as well as to me. But more often I just don't know what to say to them, just DON'T KNOW! What I should say to my offenders, how to learn to talk back???!!!!!!!!!!

[EdgedInBlue]

I can't offer you much because I always did the worst thing you can do and ran away from my problems, but my experience has been that once I say something, it just seems to egg them on.
I know it's difficult, but looking back, I figure that the best thing I could have done was ignore them. It wouldn't help much with your insecurity, but after awhile, they'll move on

[glenn miller]

what u should is just say nothing. just walk a way.

[max]

I know how you feel. I was frequently verbally abused and bullied when I was younger.

I don't think ignoring a bully is a good thing to do .. they pick on quiet people because they are easier targets of opportunity.

Walking away, as in leaving the situation, may be sometimes what's called for.

I guess it sort of depends on the situation. Can you describe a little more what's going on?

Also, maybe read www.bullyonline.org to see if they have tips.

[glenn miller]

u r right. when i was younger i was bullied some. but as i got older they stopped. but i understand.

[prawnie]

i was bullied by the same girl at primary and high school, the only way u can deal with it, is to stand up for yourself, i didn't stand up for myself until i left school wen the same girl saw me in the street and asked for some money, and i said no, it made me feel real good about myself, i was never bullied by her again!!

[mazo]

Listen as a person who was always bullied by others. I learned to either stand up for ya self or constantly go about feeling bad about yourself. What I learned is that forget everyone else making you feel bad about yourself. If you want respect ,respect yourself. Fell sorry for yourself when your alone. Cause this world suxs. It appears that when your down they continually kick you. So Head the Advice. Stop feeling sorry for yourself in public. Hold your head up high and stick it out. Even if it kills ya. Believe me. ;D

[Reflection]

That's awful that people are still bullying you, even now that you're in college!!! You'd think people would grow up by then and grow some hearts, sheesh!

I agree with the other noters who said you need to stand up for yourself. I don't think walking away would be a good idea, unless they're threatening violence or something of that nature. You need to stand your ground.

Just because people like us are shy doesn't mean we have to take anyone's crud! If anyone dared to speak to me that way, I wouldn't stand for it. I'd tell them it's a shame that they obviously feel so insecure with themself. You need to nip it in the bud before it gets worse. This kid in high school made a nasty comment in front of me one day and I called him on it immediately and made it clear that I wasn't going to stand for being disrespected. Apparently, he thought that because I was shy, I wouldn't fight back. He was wrong. Ever since that day, he hasn't bothered me. In fact, he was *nice* to me. I think it was because he came to respect me for standing up for myself.

[Ghost]

Here some links about bullying

www.andytomko.com/index1.html

www.successunlimited.co.uk/

www.bullyonline.org/