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Post by guest on Apr 2, 2004 16:44:35 GMT -5
I've had it with my brother stealing my money. I think the only reason he steals it is because I don't say anything about it. Last week when I came home from the grocery store, I had $25 left over from buying groceries in my jacket. I of course being so damn stupid carelessly left my money in my jacket in my room for like 1/2 hour. When my brother came downstairs to watch tv, I panicked and thought "OMG, my money! Why the *&$# did I leave it there?!" I quickly left to go to my room and went through my pockets in my jacket and my aassumption was right, it's gone. He took it. I KNOW it was him because only we were home. I *@(@ can't stand up for myself. And today, he stole $100 from me again. I went to the bank yesterday to cash my check to pay for the tv bill and omg, I honestly am so stupid to leave my money in my room on my desk. Of course he'll steal my money, he always does, anyway, when I left for work this morning, I forgot to take it with me and before I came home, I thought, "maybe he won't take it." I was wrong, my money's gone. He took it
I am SO fed up with all this crap. I know for a fact that when I'm at working, he goes through my room every single morning looking for money.
What should I do? Over the last two years or so, he's stolen so much money from me and when I confronted him the first few times, he lied and said he never took it. He's the only person who steals money, from my parents, my sister and my other brothers, but I'm the only one who he does it to everytime. And it's not just a few dollars or whatever, it's everything! ALL the dollar bills, every single one!
You know, I'm tired of it and I'm thinking that when he goes to sleep tonight, I'm going to go into his room and steal every dollar he has in his wallet. I'm sick of his stealing and his lies.
I don't know what to do. I am boiling mad and totally p!ssed off. The first few times, I gave him the benefit of the doubt (even though he is a well-known liar) but I've had it! Maybe I'll just resort to what he does, steal my money back and lie about it???
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Post by Alecto on Apr 2, 2004 17:04:21 GMT -5
The only thing I can say, is stand up to your brother. He shouldn't be snooping through your room. Demand your money back, or like you said steal it back from him.
It might be a good idea though to purchase something with a lock on it and keep it in there. If it becomes that bad.
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Post by Jarous on Apr 3, 2004 1:20:47 GMT -5
I used to have similar problems with my sister (before she got a part time job to earn her money). She would take some change or 'borrow' bigger ammounts without asking - fortunately she'd return it back later.
I could never stand up for myself and confront her about her actions. So I stopped leaving money around and resorted to locking them. This helped but I am not sure how it has contributed to our family relationship - you know, when relatives are forced to lock things before each other, zero trust...
I don't like the idea of stealing your money back, though. You will lower yourself to your brother's actions. You are much better than that. I know how futile it may sound but reasoning does usually help. Try it.
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Post by CaryGrant on Apr 5, 2004 11:19:23 GMT -5
Some thoughts:
1) I don't think you're "stealing" from him if you're taking your own money back. 2) Can you hook up a webcam and set him up? Then show the video to the family. Maybe set him up more than once. 3) Your brother has a serious problem - we're not talking small change here, we're talking hundreds of dollars. And he is blatant about it, too; he steals the whole wad, and from everyone in the family. You can crimestop him know or wait until he ends up in jail. 4) Beat the living crap out of him. Then you'll get in trouble with your parents, but you will feel better for awhile. 5) Definitely lock your money up. Make it a habit.
Good luck...bad situation...
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Post by guest on Apr 5, 2004 18:38:38 GMT -5
Thanks for all the advice. My initial reaction was to take my money back when he's asleep. Now that it's been a few days (he was gone for the weekend), I think I'm not going to "steal" even though I am still p!ssed off. I will not lower myself to my brother's standards. I'm a better person than that. I have tried reasoning with him when he started stealing my money a few years ago and he's done nothing but lied over and over. From now on, if he ever ask me for money, I'm going to deny him. The sad part is he has a job that pays decent, and he still has the audacity to ask both my mom and my dad for money and even from my little brother. Another thing is, my parents know what kind of person my brother is, but they don't really say anything about it. Whenever they do, my brother always promises to change and not get into anymore trouble. Right, like that'll ever happen.
My only safe bet is to deposit the majority of my check into my savings account and only withdraw when I need it. But I think I'm just going to lock my money up.
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Post by European on Apr 13, 2004 13:06:23 GMT -5
Uhh, you can't deal with your brother? I think you should talk with him, if you behave that nothing has happened, everything is ok and you don't know who stole your money nothing will change. If it was my brother I would talk with him about this thing.. it helps, but you have to be confident, you have to be threating. Perhaps he just has no respect to you because you never smash him If you are going to play that game "You stole my money, I steal yours" everything will stay as it is.. he thinks it's a joke and continues this play. Talk with him like a man to man.. he has to be a real monster if he continues to steal your money after that.
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Post by Enigma06 on May 4, 2004 9:57:23 GMT -5
Aren't you worried about why he's stealing your money? He doesn't have a drug problem does he?
He only does it because he knows he can get away with it, so you are going to have to stand up to him. NEVER give him money (see if you can get the rest of the family to do the same, he does earn his own money after all), and always have your money on you or locked away. He needs to know what he is doing is wrong and how much it annoyes you. He'll never change if things keep going the way that they are.
Also, why do your parents deny/ignore what is going on? Either you need to clue them in on how concerned you are about the situation or you really need to emphasize the destructive nature of his behaviour (or both). Wish you all the best
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