trying to break the shy barrier

[2shy]

Hi.
This year I finally got fed up with my shy existence and am fighting it on all fronts: medication, psychiatrist, support group, u name it.
I would like to contact people who, like me, struggle to show their 'wild child' nature to the world. Not just to gripe, but to share the small triumphs that none-shy friends are not impressed by. Triumphs like joining the rock climbing gym: friends are impressed by the rock climbing, I'm very impressed with myself for arranging to do a course, actually pitching at an unfamiliar venue and talking and doing something with people I have never met before!
Like to hear from you.

[MissAnxiety]

That's funny, I was just talking this weekend about doing rock climbing . I saw it on TV and saw someone towing a portable, man-made wall and I mentioned 'I always wanted to do that.' If I could ever get that opportunity of rock climbing, I would probably turn it down because of my shyness and anxiety .

[2shy]

You have no idea how long it took me to pluck up the courage to call and arrange for the instruction!
And the further problem is that I either need a friend if I want to use a rope (risking rejection when I ask) or I have to go on my own and do the boulders (feeling as if every eye in the place is on me and everybody thinks I am a loser for not having belay-buddy). It is a whole pep talk situation every time I want to go. My target is once a week for now...

[Baud]

Howzit 2shy ;D

Congrats on your decision to take action against your shyness,

I'm 25 male, also fed up with being shy and slowly but surely trying to understand and overcome it. I'v made quite alot of progress in the last two years, but there is still a long way to go and I'm very determined!

if you're interested in sharing a bit of motivation with someone in a similar position please feel free to get in touch (or anyone else for that matter)

PS, we're from the same country although I'm currently living in the UK

Paul

[smartie]

I'm a very shy 38 year old man. I have been chronically shy and socially phobic since being a young boy, and it is no overstatement to say that the conditions have ruined my life, both progfessionally, and socially. I am looking to make contact with like minded people who want to exchange views, opinions, and tactics (as well as mutual support, and the deep genuine friendship that shy people have to offer but which is so frequently by 'non shy' types). I am interested in discussing EVERYTHING concerning shyness, the painful isolation it brings and so on. We should work between us to our mutual benefit. you can vontact me at: [e-mail]... I hope some of you will, thanks conor

[CaryGrant]

Great thread 2shy,

I, too, recently decided the cause of most of my problems in life was shyness. Sounds silly to be 42 and not know that, but I had always thought, "If I could just build up my self-confidence somehow...." Not realising that shyness was what had destroyed it in the first place, and was undoing all my efforts to increase it!

I have also realised that I am:
a) less shy than I was
b) less shy than many folks on this forum (which is one reason why I contribute so much - been there, hated that, want to help others climb out of the hellhole of shyness)
c) determined to completely overcome shyness

I've taken steps (see my Diary), and am finding that success feeds success, so my progress is accelerating. I even put an ad in the local paper to start an "Overcoming Shyness/Social Anxiety" support group! (Which is also how I view this forum.)

It's frustrating when you feel in your bones that you are capable of sooo much more, of being a totally free spirit, but that your fears are caging the true you. One of my ultimate goals: singing karaoke, and not caring what other people think or if I'm any good - just having fun!

Congratulations and all the best to those in the process of conquering shyness!

[bren]

hello. I have entered this forum looking for help and support, and to offer my help and support in over coming shyness, and social phobia. I read quite a few of the postings, and I can connect with many of the situations and experiances of other contributors both young and old. I am 38 years old. and shyness has blighted my life, both professionally, and socially. Frankly, I'm tired of it, and I have come to realize that 'professional' help if not enough. I would like to establish and maintain contact with other people who are isolated by shyness, and I hope that together we will be able to make progress in our lives. my e-mail is [e-mail], and I would appreciate any contact that comes my way. thanks.

[guest]

I've read many of your thoughts and opinions and I think they're great!! Even posting a thought is very hard for me but I quess its another aspect of shyness that I have to overcome. I quess I'm also shy online.

[jeff]

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[glenn miller]

i am pretty shy. but rock climbing and other sports are not that difficult for me. even with my shyness.