Post by shygrl on Jun 24, 2004 16:45:29 GMT -5
Hi there,
I am a 29 year-old Canadian girl living in Eastern Ontario. I am of course quite shy and have moderate to intense social anxieties depending on the context. I have self-esteem issues that I have been working at since early childhood. I have just emerged from a severe depression that lasted almost two years (most recent episode, I have been depressed before!), and am putting the different pieces of my life back together.
I am engaged to a wonderful guy and plan to marry in '05. The idea of having a wedding in front of other people frightens me. I spend almost all of my 'social time' with my fiancé and his group of friends who seem all to be outgoing and socially confident by nature. I feel lucky to be in this circle of friends, but in many ways (including interests), I am quite different, and can feel lonely in this group since I am the 'quiet one'. I don't think it is entirely healthy for me to 'tag along' in this group all the time and I would like to cultivate some of my own friendships.
I find it hard to make friends and I figure that cultivating some online friendships (or pen-pal-ship!) with people who are facing the same challenges of shyness would be a good start. I don't expect miracles or even to find 'best buddies', but I think just having a place and people that support each other makes the world a much friendlier place.
I am a 29 year-old Canadian girl living in Eastern Ontario. I am of course quite shy and have moderate to intense social anxieties depending on the context. I have self-esteem issues that I have been working at since early childhood. I have just emerged from a severe depression that lasted almost two years (most recent episode, I have been depressed before!), and am putting the different pieces of my life back together.
I am engaged to a wonderful guy and plan to marry in '05. The idea of having a wedding in front of other people frightens me. I spend almost all of my 'social time' with my fiancé and his group of friends who seem all to be outgoing and socially confident by nature. I feel lucky to be in this circle of friends, but in many ways (including interests), I am quite different, and can feel lonely in this group since I am the 'quiet one'. I don't think it is entirely healthy for me to 'tag along' in this group all the time and I would like to cultivate some of my own friendships.
I find it hard to make friends and I figure that cultivating some online friendships (or pen-pal-ship!) with people who are facing the same challenges of shyness would be a good start. I don't expect miracles or even to find 'best buddies', but I think just having a place and people that support each other makes the world a much friendlier place.
I am 35, married and you talking about feeling out of place because your the quiet one is very much myself .. I feel like I am in the way sometimes and if I just leave nobody would notice. If you would like to email me please do at leeanne172@yahoo.ca