Post by shay205 on Feb 28, 2007 22:57:14 GMT -5
that jus because someone is "quiet" they have no backbone? ok, well i started a new job today was my third day but anyways one lady there have been telling me that i am so "timid" and she kept making little remarks with some other women in orientation with us that they gon try and toughen me up and give me backbone..but yeah its kinda annoying to me..true i dont be talkin a lot but thats partly because im usually always like that and especially when i meet some1 new i only known this woman 72 hours anyway..there are only a few people in my life now who i feel comfortable being myself around and feel like they understand me..but anyways i jus hate when some people say im quiet and i be thinking "will u please shut up!!" in my head..sometimes i get mad with myself for bein so nice because mostly everyone says that i am,,but i jus say hey how can u be "too nice", not unless u know it cost u your life or reputation something liek that lol..but yeah i try to be nice to people and give them a chance but it jus seem like people wanna label me as quiet and that jus is a sign of saying im weak..i jus dont know y people always wanna lable people especially when u can only observe someone in limited settings anyway? for example, jus because im quiet @ school dont mean i am a quiet PERSON @ church or vice versa .big difference .and actuallly at times, depending on who im around or my mood i tend to think more and be observant more than talking because i beleive thats how it should be and i enjoy freedom and just being introspective at times or listening to music because it soothes me, especially since im a sensitive person (sometimes)...and really i think that it would jus be fake by jus forcing myself to talk to people esepcially when i dont have nuthin to say and chances are that when im not talkin it mean that i dont like someone lol jus kiddin (well at times)...and seriously i dont think theres no such thing as a "quiet person"..i mean even "quietness" is communication ..and there are no certain number of words in which we must speak i think everyone is unique and just because i talk more than you or you talk more than me dont mean that we should be labeled..i think that is something that should be measured on a continuum and not jus used to label someone with.but yeah i want to feel comfortable and try to learn as much about the new job and the duties.. but i do want people to not think im crazy and not arrogant but at the same time i jus want to be myself and dont want to give off the wrong impression that i "dont talk " when im really an ambivert and try to learn a lot about people from jus observing.. i jus cant stop thinking about that lady telling me "im a baby" (for one because i said i never want to take on responsibility of having credit card)and she even went as far today to say that she was my mom (tryin to be sarcastic) and i was like "really?!! lol..i jus took it kinda personal for a minute..but the job we do is work with mental patients..(not that thats important) but anyways what do u all suggest i do and am i ovverreacting? i welcome all responses...