are you quietly spoken or loud?

[Twice-Shy]

This is another strange thread! Some shy people I know are incredibly quietly spoken. Others are the complete opposite with big booming voices. What category do you fall into?

[moogle]

it all depends on who i'm speaking to or what i'm talking about. if i'm not totally confident in what i'm saying, or i'm talking to people i don't know, i'm very quiet. when i'm with friends, my voice is at an average volume.

[NewOrleansLady]

I think that I am pretty average. Though sometimes I think that I don't get my point across too well, which causes people to ask me to repeat myself. Everything is so wonderfully put together in my head but, when I have to say it outloud it comes out differently. I really wish that at my age I could be comfortable speaking to people.

[Tiff]

Hi,

I'm quiet most times. But when I am nervous or excited or angry...or stressed, my voice gets loud and I don't realize it.

[Alien Motorway]

I agree with Moogle. It all depends on who's on the receiving end. If it's something I'm passionate about It may seem kinda angry and loud. Like to my own mother, I'm pretty much an asshole to her but that's just because I've been living under this regime for so long and never really had the will power to find my escape. If it were someone I'd wanna be in a sensitive relationship with then I was always very quietly spoken. Words seems to lose their appeal to some people if they are not so demanding or ear catching. I've been told people can actually hear the worry in my voice. It's hard to find someone to talk to when you expect them to ask all the questions, but sometimes prying in to someone will open them up to new words they didn't even know....how to spell. Speaking quietly is a good way to really get to know people I think. Finding something in common to talk about is a little harder. Talking to people in the eyes directly without spitting is the mother of all the hard things.

[unionjackattack86]

Id say I speak at an average volume because i'm doing voluntary work in a shop at the minute so I have to be audible to customers, although if someone asks me something from a distance, I try to get closer to them because I hate shouting as it draws attention to me and I never shout loud enough anyway because i'm concious people will look at me.

[Michael1973]

For me it can go either way. I'm always known as "the quiet one" in most situations, and have on occasion said things that no one in the room seemed to hear. And yet on other occasions, I will suddenly notice that I've been practically shouting and I didn't even realize it!

[Post]

Hello all.

Just found this board today, after being directed to it by somebody.

I have to say the volume of my voice is very different in different situations, although I don't think it's ever really very loud.

At home, where I'm very comfortable it is usually confident and of a decent volume, but when it comes to speaking to strangers and acquaintances, then it seems to go very quiet and sometimes a bit shaky.

As someone mentioned above, I also have what I want to say in my head all thought out, but when I say it, it always comes out wrong and I find myself cutting the sentence to of about half of what it originally was, making it difficult to carry on a conversation.

[MrOwl]

Oops, that post above by "Post" was actually from me

I got all confused after changing my password

[Rhonda K]

;D Well, I would have to say, I was soft spoken and then as I cam out of my shell...I got louder.

Always a very shy child, the fourth of 5 children in my family...I had a lot of competition all of my life. From Grades at school, to sports, to dating...with 3 brothers and 1 sister...I had too much to contend with. So, I did what I knew...I stayed in the background and quietly went through childhood, adolescents and my young adulthood.

I was very self conscious and very aware of the way I looked. I had a beautiful..volumptious sister...I..on the other hand was a tomboy. Built like a board and didn't develope till I was in my 20's.

But I finally did something that no one in my family had ever done...I started to travel. First, small trips, then overseas trips. Sometimes with a friend..then finally I did it alone and it was so...amazing. I found out that I could make friends all over the world...and the best thing about being on holidays 1/2 way around the world, ...was that I could do anything because the odds were I would never see these people again. So, in my mid 20's...I finally found a way to express myself with out being so self conscious and so scared of what people would say or think...I finally found a way to fight my shyness that had evolved with me through the years.

NOW..well, not shy anymore...very proud of who I am and very confident with who I am and what I look like.

I think this board is great Shane..you have done a good thing, I wish I had had something like this when I was younger...

HUGS..good luck with this

OH..found this on the depression board = Castaways. I suffer from Severe Depression and I do believe that my shyness as a young girl...had alot to do with the depression I suffer from today. The emotional strain of shyness and the inability to reach out and explore life, will add enough pressure to your life that you are bound to have some emotional and psychological problems.

[glenn]

i am soft spoken. i dont talk laoud.

[g3netix]

im usually soft spoken, but i have to speak louder when i get "pardon" almost every time i say something

[disturbed]

I always speak at a normal volume, or maybe slightly louder actualy, but not proper loud

[Crashtastic]

I can be at times. The other day at work there was the cutest little girl with curly brown hair. She waved at me so I said Hi to her and then she goes "Why do you talk so quietly?" lol! I was completely caught off guard so I didn't know what to say. All I did was shrug my shoulders and went on my way.

Though in situations I'm somewhat comfortable in....I can be to loud


......wow this is a ass old thread

[gSteve]

I'm quitely spoken, I have to keep repeating what i say, though im alot better than I used to be.