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Post by Schmoo on Oct 5, 2004 2:31:06 GMT -5
I wonder for those of you with severe shyness AND are employed what types of jobs you have? I've been struggling especially at work where every social interaction is aversive. I've quit 5 jobs in about 5 years and now am thinking that I should start over and change careers. Any suggestions?
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Post by canisay182 on Oct 5, 2004 16:06:36 GMT -5
what of career do you have now? the type of job might be the problem or it might just be something you have to work on like the rest of us here. im not old enough to have a real job (have to be 17 here) but i do babysit which is pretty hard for me. i have to constantly act outgoing so if i could get another job i would.
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Post by altaira on Oct 5, 2004 18:01:52 GMT -5
I have the same problem, but it's exacerbated by the fact that my desire to be an actor requires flexible schedule jobs and therefore has prevented me from really committing to a career track position . . . Until now, when I've decided to support myself by training to be a private eye. www.ipiu.com if you're interested. Also: take career/personality tests online like on www.netscape.com, career section, or www.mapp.com, myers briggs personality test. I recommend owning your own business/being self employed or having a job that requires social isolation (like postal work). Research franchises, or do what I'm doing: starting a factory representative biz Pick a highly consumable item Contact manafacturers/factories that offer discount or low cost merchandise Advertise and find customers (the hardes part) Your income is the difference between what you charge your customers and what you pay the manufacturer. Read about this and many other survival jobs in "Survival Jobs" from the library. Often shy people are artists. Pursue your dream career and support yourself with fun or tolerable survival jobs or work for yourself. |
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Post by Schmoo on Oct 6, 2004 1:06:42 GMT -5
Lexi, funnily enough I work with children and it depresses me how much I have to "act" at being cheerful. I work in special education and this job requires that I interface heavily with parents, teachers, etc. and it's been such a major source of stress. I've been going at it for 5 years, and I'm just running out of steam at this point. Altaira thank you for your suggestions.  I actually am artistically-inclined but that's a really tough business. I'd love to be self-employed, that would be my ultimate dream, but it's gonna be a while since I'm financially challenged.
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Post by franklin on Dec 18, 2004 14:33:23 GMT -5
if you dont know what you want to do what about doing some career tests? you know the ones based on youre abilities. Some of those are weird but supposed to be of some use.
Maybe on the other hand youre flirting around jobs and careers and not taking things seriously because you already feel you have lost the chance to do the job you really wanted to? (some kind of rejection syndrome) -in a sense you have given up on long term career goals.
Maybe taking some time out (travelling, study, voluntary work) would help you get to the bottom of any underlying issues. (give you a chance to refocus for the rest of youre life). Maybe by getting back in contact with old friends or making new ones would help? (maybe they would inspire you forward).
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Post by franklin on Dec 18, 2004 14:45:42 GMT -5
i mean ive had more than 5 jobs in 5 years (about 12). 10 were in the space of one year, partly due to having to do some short term while waiting to start a qualification. I've quit some jobs, others have ended or i've been sacked. Some i've done for weeks or a few months others half a year or a few years.
I think in the modern world peoples jobs will change alot of people i've worked with and myself have had to relocate or retrain (since college) to progress in (that unfortunately is the way the world of work is). Mind you a wide variety of experince does look good, maybe not in every industry in the world but i think being able to compare and contrast on youre own experiences makes people more employable.
After all the wider the variety of experience the more you bring to a role. Alot of work places you need someone who is an old hand, someone just starting out, someone who has messed about a bit and lost a few jobs in daft ways (to be light hearted) and others with a variety of experience.
Sometimes it can help both youre interaction and group work dynamics.
Mind you if you feel you are getting into a rut, or youre career is going downhill or things work wise are getting worse a break for reassement, or reassessing things yourself while working can help (kind of do you want to study something new, do new things socially, learn some subsidary skills to improve youre employability or move somewhere new -maybe that you know a friend in)
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I actually am artistically-inclined but that's a really tough business. I'd love to be self-employed, that would be my ultimate dream, but it's gonna be a while since I'm financially challenged.