sumbodee pleeze help me im shy alone and depressed

[sadlonelygurl]

hi im in highschool and i have a very bad problem im very shy. but i really want to talk to everyone i have a personality im very talkitive and funny but when im around boys and groups of people that all goes away its like im paralyzed and can only get a few words out. people are constantly mean about it like when they say she has no personality, shes weird becuz she doesnt talk. and some get the impression like i think im too good to talk to them. so on the weekkend i dont get any phone calls from freinds or boyfriends bcuz i can barely speak. i get really deressed becuz im always alone and isolated. i dont know what to do. this shyness is taking over my life. does anyone have a similar problem if so do u know any ways to help me?

[shy 777]

sadlonelygurl said:

hi im in highschool and i have a very bad problem im very shy. but i really want to talk to everyone i have a personality im very talkitive and funny but when im around boys and groups of people that all goes away its like im paralyzed and can only get a few words out. people are constantly mean about it like when they say she has no personality, shes weird becuz she doesnt talk. and some get the impression like i think im too good to talk to them. so on the weekkend i dont get any phone calls from freinds or boyfriends bcuz i can barely speak. i get really deressed becuz im always alone and isolated. i dont know what to do. this shyness is taking over my life. does anyone have a similar problem if so do u know any ways to help me?

Hmmm... I never knew that a person can be "talkative" but also "very shy." Your obviously going to have to train yourself to talk more which is what I am trying to do. I don't see any other solution.

[Monnlightairshadow]

That's exactly what I was like...I am heaps talkative too around my own group of friends. I also don't mind giving speeches and performing music infront of people. But when it comes to being around guysand certain groups of people I use to tense up and felt paralyzed. There are still times when it happens but i'm able to relax better...
I guess everyone's just shy in a different way. shy777 is right, the best thing to do is to talk more...don't give up. Don't let shyness take over your life. you have to make it a life-long commitment that you won't let your shyness stand in the way of you having fun and enjoying your time with ppl. Just think---you're still in highschool, you can break this habit of not talking to guys or groups of ppl as early as now...Its not that easy though...For me it took three years to ease up around guys...i still feel nervous at times but I'm able to smile, open my mouth and do small talk...it takes practice really. and for those people who criticize you well u'll just have to learn to take those criticisms but don't take it too deeply...the reason y ppl criticize ppl who are quiet is cos they are worried about what you think about them as much as you're worried about what they think about u. Ppl jump to conclusions because they are scared about what u think about them, ppl who are friendly feel insecure too, Ppl judge, everyone does and that's something you can't change and just have to deal with...but you can change yourself...take it easy though...it takes time. And insted of waiting for anyone to phone you y won't u phone them first to do soemthing on the weekends??? if you want to talk to me more you can email me at: [e-mail]

[altaira]

Try to find others like you. Practice talking to strangers or people you feel comfortable with.

Force yourself to attend public events.

Work on your self image. Pretend you're in a movie having a makeover, and act like you're a new person.

[franklin]

Most blokes at high school do the same thing with girls they like -you talk in the playground or in break, whether its alone or with others the confidence just collapses -it still happens to most people i think if they see someone they really like that they havent for a long time.
I usually take it that if i see someone and my confidence goes (someone i used to know or someone new) then its a sign you really like them. If you really like someone whatever age then the confidence does go.
Dont worry about what other people think, only about the person you care about. You never know they maybe just as nervous just not showing it or have something they really want to tell you.
Good luck. Dont be overconfident but try to think about the other person

[shyusa]

you may have social anxiety
tell your parents you have problems talking around people and what it feels like, hopefully they take you to a doctor who knows about it.

[Cassava]

Can't really add anything to what has been said already.

I seem to sense that your okay, but your shyness is when your interact with guys. Just live your life and have fun. Don't start pressuring yourself for not having a boyfriend to spend the weekend with.

[seabreeze]

i totally agree with casssava,

u knowwat im 20 and never even kissed a guy before. an i dont care. i think that most young ppl havnt had such experiences either, but dont wanna say.

[RRB]

Im 18 and havnt kissed a girl before, but then again most of my friends havnt either.

[Jarous]

There's one thing about other people that looks horrible but is actually a blessing - they don't care about you! They're so obssessed with what others think about them that they have no time to really think about what you're doing or saying.

They are mean about you because that's a way for them to cover insecurities - not every one can bear a company of a silent person - but that's their problem, not ours...

[VictorH]

First off don't get depressed, theres many things to look up to. You still have many of your close friends to turn to who truly support you. Plus these things happen all the time I have friends that can relate. I'm sure when the guys are alone around girls they feel just the same (happened to me). Same thing in groups of people. You can have a group of people that you know and if theres 1 person in there that you aren't very close friends with then you might feel shy (atleast that applies for me). Also, being shy isn't a bad thing. Its just staying in that position forever, is what really gets to people. Relax. Being shy can mean your very conscience about the things you say and how it affects other peoples feelings. By the sounds of it you sound like a nice person and I believe being nice and considerate of other people's feelings is a great attribute to have .