does he like me or not

[reallyconfused2004]

i have like this one guy for a very long time lets call him BOB but i dont know if he likes me and i am afraid of rejection........ If i was too ask him if he likes me what is the best way to do it? anyway this week he has been following it seems like and he has come up to me and looks like he is goin to talk to me but then doesnt.... Like today at lunch i was talkin to i really cute guy named andrew and Bob was by himself his friends were not with him and he just stood behind for like a minute but he didnt say anything and then he walked really fast around the corner i think he was mad but i just dont know.........
PS he is really shy if i talk to him its all yes or no aswers
Does he like me or not?

Thanks in advance for all your answers
tell me anything i just need a lot of help with this i have thought long and hard about it and i just dont know

have any ?'s just ask me

[sushiboat]

Yes, he might like you. If you have talked with him in the past, keep doing it. Invite him to have lunch with you.

Don't ask whether he likes you. If he likes you, then he will show it by allowing you to move things forward (if you choose to play that role). Otherwise, if he rejects your advance and makes no move of his own, he is either uninterested or unable to deal romantically with a woman.

[sticker]

Ask him if he wants to know a secret. Then whisper into his ear, "You are wicked cute." Observe his reaction after that. If he reacts in a positive way, then he likes you.

[reallyconfused2004]

thanks for all of your help and i am in high school and alittle scared his birthday is on friday soo is it a good idea if i talk to him all week and then on his b day i tell him i like i can pretty much tell that he does like i just i dunno and this guy is shy even so if one of my friends tell him i like him will he do anything about it

thanks for all your help if you have any more advice PLZ. put it

[Zvezda]

Can I ask what kind of questions you ask him? Like closed questions, like 'so your next class is.....'. The kind of questions he can only answer to by saying yes or no. Or do you ask him open questions, where he can't say yes or no to?
If he only answers with yes or no, maybe you can ask him different kind of questions, like 'what are you going to do this weekend', 'or what did you do this weekend?', if he says 'nothing', you can ask him 'why not?' By asking him open questions you will force him to say more things, and you will have more openings to continue the conversation.

You could if ,you feel couragious, ask him what he is going to do for his birthday and then suggest to do something that weekend in honor of it. You can say that it's your birthday present for him.

You can also smile at him from across the room, make eye contact and observe his reaction. Basically flirt with him, see if he flirts back. I wouldn't ask him that early on if he likes me, I would rather observe his non-verbal signals because that says a lot more than all the things he says or doesn't say.
Does he make eye contact with you, do you notice his posture changing once he sees you or once he notices your presence? When he talks to you, what kind of posture does he have? Have you noticed any of these things?

What you can also do is ,when you see him standing, sitting somewhere, get your friend to stand somewhere to watch him and then walk past him. Your friend should watch if he follows you with his eyes, if his attitude changes etc. Just to look out for basic signs.
My friend and I do this at clubs when we see somebody who we either like or who likes one of us. Sometimes boys notice that trick cause they do the same, and sometimes they don't.

Good luck and keep us posted!

[reallyconfused2004]

lol thats really funny that u mention that i always do tha ask one of my friends if hes looking and he does the exact same thing with his friends the difference is i have a class with most of his friends and they tell me o ya matt wanted me to see if u were lookin at him at lunch and it so funny cause i do the same thing lately i have noticed that he has been more brave

though all this last week he has been comin really close to talkin to me but didnt or try to listen to my convo with other guys its realy funny how he thinks hes not being obvious

plus like one day i was in back of him and u could either turn or keep goin streight well he went streight then saw me turn then he turned around and went the way i did that was on wesday

then on thursday he stood right behind when i was talkin to a guy that i used to like hes really cute lol i he just stood their for like a minute and then he was not there on friday and mon and tues he did stuff like him and his friends would follow me and my friends around it was like follow the leader and i know that he does not like one of friends instead of me because no matter who i am with he sends me signals / hints that he thinks are not obvious unless he is tryin to be obvious

i am as obvious as him and he still dont believe i like him and yes i am very comfortable with this guy i have known him since we were in elementry school and we r now in highschool soo ya

But maybe u can hlp me out from the stuff that i put up top which one of those can u tell most that he likes me or can u tell that he likes me from any of that stuff
also what else could i watch for for him to do besides what i said already like what could i watch for .

thanks so much for all your help!!!!!!!!!!!!!
if u have any more advice plz. tell me cause i am still a little confuse THANKS

[tulip]

next time he walks by you and gives you "the look" just grab him and refuse to let go until he agrees to go on a date with you..

good luck hun, i'm rooting for ya!

[reallyconfused2004]

i dunno what it is i mean things r getting better and better each week but like yesturday i was in front of him so he came up to me and i said he

and then today he was in front of me i think he wanted to talk to me cause he kept looking back at me but y didnt he say anything but we were litterally like 5 inches away from eachother

y didnt he talk to me !!!!!!! lol HELP thanks in advance

[shy 777]

How old are you two?

He didn't say anything because he doesn't know what to say and feels awkward talking small talk. He was looking at you to see if you would say something to him. He obviously doesn't feel comfortable talking "small talk" or striking up a conversation with you yet. This is a classic cause and effect of being a shy guy.

[reallyconfused2004]

umm we r 14 and ya but then the day before he came up to me but i said the first word
i dont get it if i keep talkin to him when will he be comfortble

does he like me?
thanks for your help in advance

[shy 777]

Yea, that's young. He might not be mature enough to initiate conversations with someone he isn’t used to doing it with. I know I didn’t at that age. I only spoke to girls when spoken to and sadly in fact I still do that 99% of the time. It is a sickness. Although I have matured so I wouldn’t be too shy to talk to a girl ONLY if I had a legit reason to do so. Otherwise I would feel extremely awkward going up and talking to a girl who is not my friend and making small talk and that was magnified by infinity when it was someone I liked. The only girls that were my friends that I made throughout high school were the ones that came up and talked to me first nearly 100% of the time.

You have to understand that he is looking at you so that means that he likes you. Just because he doesn’t talk to you doesn’t mean he doesn’t like you. From what you are telling us, he is painfully shy like I was/am. The chances of him doing anything about it at only 14 are very slim to none. You’d have to become his friend first and then he might ask you out. In order to become his friend, you’d have to constantly try to talk to him and talk about him and act like he is interesting. That way you know what he likes and you know what to talk about with him. Otherwise, you might want to just take a stab at it and ask him out yourself unless you are too shy to do that. Those are your two realistic options from my point of view to get him.

[reallyconfused2004]

ya thats true we were becoming kinda close but then i messed up i think i gave him the wrong signals like today we always walk the same way to get home well he knows i always walk that way well he got in front of me............ and i was on my cell phone talk to my fiend andrew and i was walking really slow so we never hooked up i will talk to him tom though

tom when i talk to him wat r some af the motions or signals that i can watch for that i can tell that he likes me........... what did u do when u were talkin to the girl u liked

thanks for all your help plz. reply back soon
cause if all goes well maybe i will ask him out so what could i look for

[shy 777]

I had trouble looking her in the eyes. I couldn’t give eye contact for more than a second. I had trouble making conversation when she couldn’t help keep it going. Basically, I acted more nervous than usual.

[Zvezda]

Y'all are young

I think that by what you have described that he likes you or at least finds you interesting otherwise he wouldn't keep looking. That's probably the biggest sign that someone likes you.
What boys (in my case) like to do is to do stuff to get your attention, like if they are wearing a hat they're gonna play with it to get you to look.
Or the fact that he can't really make eye contact with you like shy777 said. I have a difficult time making eye contact and keeping it with a boy I got a crush on, so that's a given.

I say go for it ask him out, cause I think if you're waiting for him to make a move you'll be wailing yourself of to college before he does it!

[franklin]

if youre both being nervous, neurotic, shy as hell one minute, bold as brass the next, the hormones are going wild in both of you. I'm sorry you have a bad case of True Love.
There is a thin line between love and hate but nerves, petty jealously and being shy mean you both feel the same about each other.
Just talk and get to know each other first, dont make it all just physical.