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Post by ace on Jul 17, 2007 16:28:42 GMT -5
Recently I moved into a new house as a lodger, trouble is never know what to talk to my flatmate about and end up spending most of my time in my room.
We exchange pleasantries but I just feel so boring and rude. I'd live on my own if I could but I can't afford too. The uncomfortable silence drive me crazy and it'sthe same most nights!
Iwas in a similar situation before and I hate it.
Anyone the same?
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Post by shyguy98 on Jul 17, 2007 18:10:26 GMT -5
Im the same
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Post by gaz on Jul 18, 2007 14:18:25 GMT -5
Oh god yeah! I live at home with my parents, but I still get these moments. For example I share rides to work with this guy and I must say I'm not that keen on him anyway, but it's a horrible situation when you try to fill in the silences with anything that comes to mind like talking about the weather lol.
Remember that your housemate could be in the same situation as you! Perhaps they are shy too?
Two years ago I went to a foreign country for two weeks and I lodged with this guy who couldn't speak a word of English. He just talked and talked in his language all the same and I just nodded and pretended I was listening lol!
How do you feel in these uncomfortable silence periods? I feel boring and I start getting panicky.
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Post by iroseiroared3 on Jul 19, 2007 18:30:19 GMT -5
I think I would feel the same if I had to deal with that.. I'd rather live on my own too. It sucks because you think it's your fault.. but maybe your flatmate can do some of the work too and talk? They say that shy people make other people feel shy. So maybe he is feeling just as awkward as you! It's also a shame you have to feel rude, because you know you're not trying to be that way at all. Maybe you can make a promise to yourself to just say a few new things at times when you see him. Then that can open you up to maybe having your relationship start to flow naturally (hopefully, anyway). The longer you guys don't talk, the harder it'll be later on. So maybe it's best to try something now.. I know it's hard. But good luck.  |
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Post by sj on Jul 20, 2007 17:07:16 GMT -5
I lodge with someone atm and it is truly awful. I would live by myself if I could afford it. Luckily though, I am moving in a few weeks. I'm going to be living with my friends in a bigger house.
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Post by shyiest on Nov 16, 2010 7:27:02 GMT -5
I'vealso been in same situation where Ifind it so hard communicating with my boardmates. I feel guilty that I was very rude to them for not talking to them. but the truth is that I am just shy to approach and have some conversations with them.What a very awkward feeling!
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Post by avach on Nov 16, 2010 17:43:48 GMT -5
well you know you can just ask them on their hinstory what school they went to and hobbies maybe crack a joke and once youve been around them for a while and you share moments and laughs together youll have more and more to talk about. thats what ive experienced |
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Post by gals on Dec 2, 2010 4:07:56 GMT -5
Recently I moved into a new house as a lodger, trouble is never know what to talk to my flatmate about and end up spending most of my time in my room. We exchange pleasantries but I just feel so boring and rude. I'd live on my own if I could but I can't afford too. The uncomfortable silence drive me crazy and it'sthe same most nights! Iwas in a similar situation before and I hate it. Anyone the same? Of course, several times! Who doesn't? Just be nice and try to smile if you can. I've been there. Maybe he'she can initiate conversation and you can expound? |
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