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Post by Twice-Shy on Jul 22, 2003 14:33:24 GMT -5
Lately, I have found that I am going through the motions more and more. Take Sunday, for example. It was my cousins birthday and her extended family were all out for a meal. I was there, but I felt that I was just like a big, lifeless, lump of metal. I sat there almost on automatic pilot. I should enjoy things like that more but I can't.
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Post by glenn miller on Aug 11, 2003 11:42:40 GMT -5
yea. when i was younger i was like that.
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Post by NewOrleansLady on Aug 15, 2003 13:53:46 GMT -5
It helps if you keep yourself busy and don't give yourself the time to get into a slump. Whenever I have a social event, I usually plan to do something before just so I'm not sitting at home wondering about what will go wrong. I know that you like to run, so next time you have something to attend, just get out of the house before hand and run. Keeping your schedual full on days like that takes your mind off of things. Starting something and than leaving it unfinished is good too. That way, when you are at the event, you will be thinking of whatever it is that you need to finish. It also gives you a conversation starter when people ask you what you are up to.
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Post by Naptaq on Aug 25, 2003 3:54:31 GMT -5
hey new orleans lady is right.. keeping urself busy at that time is the best way to go..or else it can become prety damn boring and depresing..
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Post by Twice-Shy on Aug 26, 2003 13:56:10 GMT -5
It does. Even if I'm sitting in a car park waiting to pick my brother up after he's finished work I always bring a book or a paper - just to keepmy mind busy.
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Post by redhead on Apr 29, 2004 3:53:04 GMT -5
i don't enjoy anything.
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Post by ShyMode on Apr 29, 2004 6:41:25 GMT -5
redhead there has to be something you like!
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Post by Jarous on Apr 29, 2004 13:43:32 GMT -5
Well, redhat, I doubt that. Do you enjoy writing or reading on this site? What about a good meal? a nap? a good book, movie, song? Sunrise, stars on a cloudless sky, birds' singing? A smile, laugh...? |
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Post by Alecto on Apr 29, 2004 14:42:51 GMT -5
I have to agree redhead. Surely there must be something you like to do!
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Post by redhead on May 1, 2004 17:00:35 GMT -5
yeah sorry guys, as I wrote that post I was going through a phase of wallowing in self pity. I'm feeling better today and must admit there are many things that I enjoy. I just get annoyed that half the things I want to do because I think I will enjoy them, I don't try because I am shy.
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Post by Toltec on Nov 27, 2004 16:37:43 GMT -5
I find myself avoiding family altogether. If a bunch of 'em are coming over for a party or barbecue or something, I try to stay up appropriate hours so I can sleep the entire time. If not, I at least stash some food and drink the day before, and leave my door locked the entire time.
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Post by peekaboo on Dec 6, 2004 8:13:36 GMT -5
I find myself avoiding family altogether. If a bunch of 'em are coming over for a party or barbecue or something, I try to stay up appropriate hours so I can sleep the entire time. If not, I at least stash some food and drink the day before, and leave my door locked the entire time. I did the same thing on Thanksgiving day...my mom called a bunch of her family over from New York and when they came over I stayed upstairs pretending to get ready but I was actually just to nervous to face them anyways I came down welcomed everyone with hugs but I didn't say much and when everyone gathered for dinner I ate in silence although my cousin kept asking me like 20 thousand questions I hate it when ppl do that knowing that you're shy. I truely wanted to disappear because all eyes were on me at the dinner table anyways after awhile when everyone was chilling in the living room talking... I sort of tiptoed upstairs into my room and locked the door Ahhhh..I was so relieved. So I know exactly what you are going through. I am so glad to know that there are ppl like me in this world. Because before I found this forum I felt so alone and out of place.  |
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Post by bassist00 on Feb 3, 2005 8:39:02 GMT -5
www.patient.co.uk/showdoc/23069101/ Maybe this has been posted here before, maybe not. But i think it'll help some people but u have to actually do the stuff it says (some might seem like a waste of effort or some incredibly hard), but go at ure own pace. Basically the things like a few people have said (escaped to my room/stayed in my room etc) are the ones that are preventing them from getting confidence. E.g. You might've had family over before and hated it, so decided next time not to leave ure room or something. But if u forced ureself thru it again u would slowly be learning to deal with it (probably not noticeable at first). Anyway have a look if you haven't seen this before i think it's quite good!
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