Post by aforgottenmemory on Sept 30, 2005 17:48:48 GMT -5
All my life i've been incredibly shy, mostly because my school life was terrible as i was verbally abused constantly. Since i've left i've become so much better when it comes to my shyness, so i thought i'd share how i've come through it with you.
To build confidence for myself i got myself into shape since i was quite podgy before. I joined a gym and worked out regularly. Recently i also got myself some new clothes and haircut too. It sounds really shallow but sometimes you have to work on the outside to feel better within.
I also began listening to people around me a lot more. Just the little things people would say at perhaps a shop counter for instance. Despite not liking them i also watched a few reality shows Even if i didn't like who i was watching it fascinated me how they spoke.
This helped me get my mind in the right place as it made it clear to me that not everyone will like me. But in order to find the ones that would i had to be myself.
I'm also doing a lot more which involves talking to people. Just little things like answering the phone (still living with my parents) making appointments for myself.
I even went on a blind date which was totally out of character for me. The whole thing didn't work out though because she was talking to some other guy at the same time Ironically though she never went out with the guy (for complicated reasons, a long story) and yet two weeks later she went out with someone else! :oHowever she says she still really wants to be friends with me...any advice here on whether i should or not? After all i've pretty much disposed of what little pride i have by begging her (through txt and e-mail. I've never called her on the phone) to go out with me...
Frustration and anger has also been something to push me through things of late. I've just had enough of letting shyness stop me doing what seems to come so naturally for everyone else. I can and will get over it and i'm very very close to do doing so.
Something else i have come to realise is that people who are shy are incredibly deep people, at least that's what i have found.
Let me explain that i have two friends who are both very close to me. We'll talk about everything, anything and we trust each other 100%. Some people might look down on me for only having two friends when they have 100 odd people on their mobile phone. But this is not always the case. I believe that a lot of people consider aquaintances to be friends. Where i have two very deep meaningful friendships, some people never have.
I'm new to this site and this kind of advice is probably very old news to you. But it's helped me get over most of what has essentially been depressing me for most of my life.
I just thought i'd share this with you
To build confidence for myself i got myself into shape since i was quite podgy before. I joined a gym and worked out regularly. Recently i also got myself some new clothes and haircut too. It sounds really shallow but sometimes you have to work on the outside to feel better within.
I also began listening to people around me a lot more. Just the little things people would say at perhaps a shop counter for instance. Despite not liking them i also watched a few reality shows Even if i didn't like who i was watching it fascinated me how they spoke.
This helped me get my mind in the right place as it made it clear to me that not everyone will like me. But in order to find the ones that would i had to be myself.
I'm also doing a lot more which involves talking to people. Just little things like answering the phone (still living with my parents) making appointments for myself.
I even went on a blind date which was totally out of character for me. The whole thing didn't work out though because she was talking to some other guy at the same time Ironically though she never went out with the guy (for complicated reasons, a long story) and yet two weeks later she went out with someone else! :oHowever she says she still really wants to be friends with me...any advice here on whether i should or not? After all i've pretty much disposed of what little pride i have by begging her (through txt and e-mail. I've never called her on the phone) to go out with me...
Frustration and anger has also been something to push me through things of late. I've just had enough of letting shyness stop me doing what seems to come so naturally for everyone else. I can and will get over it and i'm very very close to do doing so.
Something else i have come to realise is that people who are shy are incredibly deep people, at least that's what i have found.
Let me explain that i have two friends who are both very close to me. We'll talk about everything, anything and we trust each other 100%. Some people might look down on me for only having two friends when they have 100 odd people on their mobile phone. But this is not always the case. I believe that a lot of people consider aquaintances to be friends. Where i have two very deep meaningful friendships, some people never have.
I'm new to this site and this kind of advice is probably very old news to you. But it's helped me get over most of what has essentially been depressing me for most of my life.
I just thought i'd share this with you