Post by shampoo on Mar 12, 2006 4:05:14 GMT -5
Hi, I'm new and filled out the questions. I just found this board yesterday and can relate to many of the posts I've read.
I really want to overcome my shyness but I have never wanted to do the hard work it takes to do it. I know I'll always be somewhat shy but I'd be happy with being half as shy as I am now. I am going to start taking some baby steps.
Are you living with your parents/grandparents? no
... unemployed? no
... married? no
... children? no
... an escapee from a mental institution? no
... a troll living under a bridge? no
What is your present age? 29
What is your gender? Female
Where do you currently reside? West Coast of US
Are you living in a town, or an unincorporated rural area? Town
Favorite movie? Princess Bride, Lord of the Rings
Favorite song? Superman by Five for Fighting
What is the nature of your shyness?
Shyness seems to run in the family. I can talk to people after I get to know them, but I don't usually initiate conversations with people I'm not comfortable with unless it is business related. Even then, it feels awkward to talk to people, but I have to do it for my job.
is it preventing you from achieving
your goals in life? ...
Yes.. it's not easy to advance my career, start a business, etc when I am so quiet.
... what ARE your goals in life (if any)?
I want to overcome my shyness, get a better job, or better yet start my own business, buy a house, spend time with family, and travel the world.
Have you made any significant progress in overcoming the condition?
A little. I am more comfortable talking to co-workers. I have trained other people at work and have given a few presentations despite being nervous. I still have to write down everything I'm going to say for a presentation because I would not remember what to say in front of lots of people otherwise. I think I need to join Toastmasters-how scary but I need to be able to give presentations better.
What is the nature of your relationship with your parents?
Great.
Have your parents been able to maintain the viability of their relationship?
Yes
If they have separated/divorced, how old were you when it happened? n/a
... and did it have a major impact on your own life? n/a
Did you have a strict upbringing? Not really
... are your parents over-protective? Not really
Any siblings? Yes - 1
How many friends do you have? If you don't count family & my boyfriend, then none really.
... any of them that you would consider "close?" No
Who is the most important person in your life? boyfriend, family
What are you interested in? Anime, Movies, TV (such as American Idol, Desperate Housewives, Stargate), listening to music, reading, writing, learning new things, traveling when I get the chance.
Do you have any religious beliefs? No
If so, how often do you attend your church/synagogue/mosque/whatever? N/A
What do you like to do for fun? See "What are you interested in" above
How often do you have fun with your friends? never
Have you ever been in an intimate relationship? ... still a virgin? I'm not going to kiss and tell
[Were you]/[are you] a target for bullies in school? Not really. A couple times some girls wanted to beat me up but didn't.
... held up for ridicule? A few people didn't like me for being so quiet and said some mean things once in awhile. It wasn't a daily thing but the mean things seem to stick in my head.
Are you over-weight? not too bad ... under-weight? no ... physically disfigured? no
... handicapped? no ... speech impediment? no ... poor eyesight (requiring thick glasses)? no
Do you have a physical illness/condition that is limiting your life? nothing other than shyness & anxiety
I really want to overcome my shyness but I have never wanted to do the hard work it takes to do it. I know I'll always be somewhat shy but I'd be happy with being half as shy as I am now. I am going to start taking some baby steps.
Are you living with your parents/grandparents? no
... unemployed? no
... married? no
... children? no
... an escapee from a mental institution? no
... a troll living under a bridge? no
What is your present age? 29
What is your gender? Female
Where do you currently reside? West Coast of US
Are you living in a town, or an unincorporated rural area? Town
Favorite movie? Princess Bride, Lord of the Rings
Favorite song? Superman by Five for Fighting
What is the nature of your shyness?
Shyness seems to run in the family. I can talk to people after I get to know them, but I don't usually initiate conversations with people I'm not comfortable with unless it is business related. Even then, it feels awkward to talk to people, but I have to do it for my job.
is it preventing you from achieving
your goals in life? ...
Yes.. it's not easy to advance my career, start a business, etc when I am so quiet.
... what ARE your goals in life (if any)?
I want to overcome my shyness, get a better job, or better yet start my own business, buy a house, spend time with family, and travel the world.
Have you made any significant progress in overcoming the condition?
A little. I am more comfortable talking to co-workers. I have trained other people at work and have given a few presentations despite being nervous. I still have to write down everything I'm going to say for a presentation because I would not remember what to say in front of lots of people otherwise. I think I need to join Toastmasters-how scary but I need to be able to give presentations better.
What is the nature of your relationship with your parents?
Great.
Have your parents been able to maintain the viability of their relationship?
Yes
If they have separated/divorced, how old were you when it happened? n/a
... and did it have a major impact on your own life? n/a
Did you have a strict upbringing? Not really
... are your parents over-protective? Not really
Any siblings? Yes - 1
How many friends do you have? If you don't count family & my boyfriend, then none really.
... any of them that you would consider "close?" No
Who is the most important person in your life? boyfriend, family
What are you interested in? Anime, Movies, TV (such as American Idol, Desperate Housewives, Stargate), listening to music, reading, writing, learning new things, traveling when I get the chance.
Do you have any religious beliefs? No
If so, how often do you attend your church/synagogue/mosque/whatever? N/A
What do you like to do for fun? See "What are you interested in" above
How often do you have fun with your friends? never
Have you ever been in an intimate relationship? ... still a virgin? I'm not going to kiss and tell
[Were you]/[are you] a target for bullies in school? Not really. A couple times some girls wanted to beat me up but didn't.
... held up for ridicule? A few people didn't like me for being so quiet and said some mean things once in awhile. It wasn't a daily thing but the mean things seem to stick in my head.
Are you over-weight? not too bad ... under-weight? no ... physically disfigured? no
... handicapped? no ... speech impediment? no ... poor eyesight (requiring thick glasses)? no
Do you have a physical illness/condition that is limiting your life? nothing other than shyness & anxiety