Post by Richard Cunningham on Jul 12, 2006 2:30:39 GMT -5
its easy for people to be civil if they are happy with themselves if they are not they can force themselves to be civil,
I can't say that I'm necessarily happy with myself, but I certainly don't have to force myself to be civil. I know what its like to be treated like crap and know what its like to be treated not so crap, as I'm sure most people do. Knowing what crap feels like, I wouldn't want to inflict it upon someone else.
If they inflict it on you on a regular basis, why not wish the same on them?
Post by Richard Cunningham on Jul 12, 2006 2:33:53 GMT -5
Wow!! This thread has turned into a Man vs. Woman competition very quickly!!!!
I must say, i am shocked.
Being a native Texan myself, i can say with certainty that chivalry is not dead. We Southerners are masters at the art of opening doors for women of all ages, and now all ethnicities, and walking them to their cars at night time.
That's kinda creepy I'd be worried that they were gonna steal my car/ beat/kill/buttrape.
what about grandpas they get arthritis too . and im sure there are many younger men who could do with some help too . but offcourse an offer would be taken as an insult to their "masculinity" because apparently their suffering isn't as important.
I think some chivalry is kinda weird like the whole pull out the chair opening doors , and can be a reminder of how we still do live in a patriarchy even if we do benefit from it at times . but on an individual level it usually is a sweet gesture and usually means that he likes you ( or just wants to get in on good terms to lay you lol )
I don't like how certain chivalrousness can just be expected . like if you go on a date the next day you get asked "did he pay" "did he drive you home" and offcourse if that doesnt happen he is seen as a dud and you shouldn't see him again and if you do you are cheap and easy even though you can afford to pay for dinner and getting home isn;\'t really a hassle and you actually feel a connection or what not . (lol ok maybe thats just a specific example of what it can be taken from personal experience.)
Manners can be concerning too the whole ritualized of it all i think i sorry or a thank you could mean so much but is often just a habit or recital .
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Well, many people seem to see it as funny or a joke, but the people who are raised this way don't care. At least that is my opinion, based on my experiences.
For me, it doesn't matter what people think about it. If a see and older women having a lot of bags and trying hard to get up stairs, then I help by taking the bags for her (after asking of course). If I see a women getting up stairs with a stroller, I help. If I see that an older person, women or kid needs to stand in an crowded place (like bus or train) then I offer my seat... it is not really chivalry in my eyes, but simple kindness and helping. I mean, it is not that I have to sacrifice a lot to do it, it all is just a gesture of friendliness.
"Action may not always bring happiness; but there is no happiness without action." - Benjamin Disraeli