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Post by nigella on Feb 24, 2009 14:02:44 GMT -5
How about this say your an attractive looking guy does that change for example if your nice and boring will u get away with it then.
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Post by mkele5356 on Feb 24, 2009 14:11:26 GMT -5
Only for a bit. Gals will fall 4 your looks but once they realise there's nothing behind the looks, they will lose interest. I know that for sure
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Post by rukryM on Feb 24, 2009 17:15:13 GMT -5
You might get to shag a few girls, but when they realise you're boring you've got a problem. Don't think of yourself as boring, for if you do, then most likely all girls will.
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Post by Sweet Pea on Feb 24, 2009 18:44:32 GMT -5
in that case, just go with a girl who's nice and boring too, and you should be good.  |
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Post by nelo on Feb 24, 2009 23:13:33 GMT -5
Then you'd just be bored together...that's not very fun.
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Post by Sweet Pea on Feb 25, 2009 2:54:42 GMT -5
Then you'd just be bored together...that's not very fun. not necessarily. if you have good chemistry you'll be content spending time together, not bored. |
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Post by rukryM on Feb 25, 2009 8:53:54 GMT -5
Being bored together often lead to the best jokes in there is.
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Post by Sweet Pea on Feb 25, 2009 12:29:24 GMT -5
Being bored together often lead to the best jokes in there is. or some great tickling parties. ;D seriously, anyone who avoids any possibility of a relationship with somebody because they believe she will find out 'there's nothing there' but good looks has a bad case of low self-esteem. it would be wise in that case to read up on the subject and start working on it. if you don't, any relationships you do have are likely to to be with people who exploit your low self-esteem, take advantage of and mistreat you. if you're very very lucky you may meet some kind people who will still regard you in a positive light despite the poor self-esteem, and try to help bolster your self-confidence, but generally most people aren't going to take the time or trouble to do that. it is very important in this world to behave with self-respect. |
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Post by unknownsoldier1991 on Mar 2, 2009 20:15:03 GMT -5
Yup this is the problem im stuck with  Alot of gilrs just basically throw themselves at me but im afraid they will think im boring when they get to know me. Guess ima have to work with my self-esteem. Any tips?? I already do work out everyday but still... |
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Post by Sweet Pea on Mar 3, 2009 9:41:04 GMT -5
Yup this is the problem im stuck with Alot of gilrs just basically throw themselves at me but im afraid they will think im boring when they get to know me. Guess ima have to work with my self-esteem. Any tips?? I already do work out everyday but still... i'm curious, in what way are they throwing themselves at you? |
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Post by rukryM on Mar 3, 2009 17:42:20 GMT -5
seriously, anyone who avoids any possibility of a relationship with somebody because they believe she will find out 'there's nothing there' but good looks has a bad case of low self-esteem. Or just has severe closeness problems, like me. Think the first and only break up caused me to kind of withdraw from girls and just hibernate in the background, yearning for something which is so frightening^^. |
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Post by Sweet Pea on Mar 3, 2009 18:47:12 GMT -5
seriously, anyone who avoids any possibility of a relationship with somebody because they believe she will find out 'there's nothing there' but good looks has a bad case of low self-esteem. Or just has severe closeness problems, like me. Think the first and only break up caused me to kind of withdraw from girls and just hibernate in the background, yearning for something which is so frightening^^. yeah, but under the sensitivity and avoidance low self-esteem still lurks...cuz you're assuming that all women will forever and ever do exactly the same thing that girl did...why? well obviously cuz something's wrong with you! now, if you were actually getting into multiple relationships that always ended up the same and you were the only common denominator, then maybe i could buy it. but when someone gets dumped by a junior high school girl and stops even talking to women for all time cuz they're sure it's always doomed to end the same way...thatz definitely an irrational belief based on low self-esteem. |
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Post by unknownsoldier1991 on Mar 3, 2009 20:03:51 GMT -5
Yup this is the problem im stuck with Alot of gilrs just basically throw themselves at me but im afraid they will think im boring when they get to know me. Guess ima have to work with my self-esteem. Any tips?? I already do work out everyday but still... i'm curious, in what way are they throwing themselves at you? Well i was just being to sarcastic i guess lol Dont know if i spelt it right ;D but well this on chick just came to my desk and sat on top off it while i was sitting there and gave this awesome smile.. Now everytime I see her she always be looking in my direction and in class she always be staring at me which makes me unconfortable because I already am a nervous paranoid bastard.. Well yea theres an example with one chick. Then theres just alot off other chicks that just stare and smile N stuff like that.. once I overcome this shyness or become less shy im goin in hard lol |
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Post by rukryM on Mar 4, 2009 13:39:18 GMT -5
but when someone gets dumped by a junior high school girl and stops even talking to women for all time cuz they're sure it's always doomed to end the same way...thatz definitely an irrational belief based on low self-esteem. Actually she'd finished high school two years ago when that happened yet acted like she was 13  . But never mind. To be more accurate, it has happened more than one time, but that was only a couple of dates and so on which could have lead to something more but didn't because of obvious reasons. I've yet to meet a girl who doesn't take shyness and approach anxiety as a general turnoff. |
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Post by Sweet Pea on Mar 4, 2009 15:30:35 GMT -5
but when someone gets dumped by a junior high school girl and stops even talking to women for all time cuz they're sure it's always doomed to end the same way...thatz definitely an irrational belief based on low self-esteem. Actually she'd finished high school two years ago when that happened yet acted like she was 13 . But never mind. To be more accurate, it has happened more than one time, but that was only a couple of dates and so on which could have lead to something more but didn't because of obvious reasons. I've yet to meet a girl who doesn't take shyness and approach anxiety as a general turnoff. well, i'm obviously not saying it should be a turn ON, or that you shouldn't work on improving it. but it's the 'i'm not gonna play any more and i'm takin' my ball home with me' thing i'm questioning. if she 'acted like she was 13', then why aren't you considering the source? why are you giving up on you? |
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Alot of gilrs just basically throw themselves at me but im afraid they will think im boring when they get to know me. Guess ima have to work with my self-esteem. Any tips?? I already do work out everyday but still...
. But never mind.