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Post by Outcast on Aug 10, 2010 22:18:36 GMT -5
Ok. I was introduce to this girl last weekend. We had lunch and i manage to get her cellphone. I've managed a text or two. But i'm not sure if she likes me. She managed to reply to me once though. The problem is i don't know what else to say to her even if i do get the nerve to call her up. It's been a while since i carried on a good conversation with someone else. I've mostly been just keeping to myself. So if any of you guys have any suggestions as to what i can say to her i'd appreciate the help. I'm also interested to know if there are any boring topics i should watch out for? Thanks.
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Post by Scotty on Aug 10, 2010 22:42:13 GMT -5
The easiest thing to do would be to think of some questions you could ask her next time you see her. Stuff like "how has your week been?", "How was work/ class?" "What classes are you taking?" You could ask her about a recent movie? If she hasn't seen it, you could possibly ask her if she'd like to go see it with you. I don't know how well you got to know her when you were introduced, but maybe you could come up with some specific questions...like if she told you about something she was going to be doing this week, you could ask her how it went. I hope this helps you a bit.
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Post by Outcast on Aug 10, 2010 23:24:38 GMT -5
Thanks for the suggestions Scotty. I did get to know a few things about her when we were introduced to each other. (Even though the one who introduced her to me said i was too quiet.) She's a teacher and tutors part time. So your suggestion of asking how her class went is right on the dot there. You must be psychic. She's also a vegetarian. I prefer vegetables myself but i'm not really a vegetarian. Anyway, the guy who introduced us suggested i get her phone number at home and call her up. I'm a bit nervous just thinking about it. I don't know if i can avoid being boring to hold her attention/interest. I'm not expecting much though. I'm pretty sure she doesn't like me that much. I'm just to going to try it anyway. So nobody would say that i didn't try or anything. Thanks again Scotty. And congratulations on becoming a moderator.
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Post by Scotty on Aug 11, 2010 0:19:33 GMT -5
Indeed, at least if you try, you wont regret never calling her. (This is advice i need to take too,lol.) Even if nothing romantic happens, maybe you'll make a friend. Anyway, Good Luck to you, let us know how it goes. (And thanks! ;D )
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Post by Outcast on Aug 12, 2010 22:34:14 GMT -5
Thanks for showing interest Scotty. Well after much thought. I decided not to call her at home. I just don't want to draw too much attention to other members of her family. I dunno, it just feels to me like i'm courting her if i do. I know it sounds strange for some. I'm just not used to calling friends and all. I did however try to send her messages through her cellphone again. After a few exchanges. Well, i just felt there was no connection. I really feel stupid when i try to socialize with people. So to be honest, i think it's just me. I just don't know how to act or what to say. Sometimes i just act/pretend like i know how or like im not shy. I also happen to get another invitation from a "not that close" friend to meet with her cousin on her cousin's birthday. She's been trying to get me and her cousin to bond and get to know each other better. I've exchanged a few messages with her cousin in the past too. Again I just felt stupid. I feel i'm always doing or saying the wrong things. I'm surprised her cousin is willing to meet with me at all at her birthday.
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Post by 112 on Aug 26, 2010 11:56:52 GMT -5
I have the same problem. I never find subjects to talk to the girl on the phone and more important, I'm never able to be the one who ends the call even when there's nothing left to talk about.
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Post by timarends on Aug 29, 2010 22:11:10 GMT -5
Casually find out what she's interested in when you text her. Then read up on that subject so you can talk about it intelligently when you meet her in person. Makes you seem like an instant expert.
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Post by gals on Nov 19, 2010 0:25:00 GMT -5
Try asking about her hobbies, fave movies never fail. Ask some things very light and not very serious stuff like religion, sex, racism, etc. Just keep the ball rolling.
For example, if she likes movies, you say, "Hey I heard this movie (title) is coming out. And I'd love to watch, but it's better if I have someone to watch it with", blah blah blah
you get the picture. now, text away and get to know her better.
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