found a new friend... but can it work :(

[george23]

I've recently used a free dating site, and got talking to a girl my age, and we live 10 miles apart.

we spoke for a few days and last week, we decided to meet on Wednesday, since that's my study day from college, and she has a weekend job.
We met at a train station, she drove.. and we went to get pizza for lunch. I was nervous and she was very shy aswell, but I really enjoyed meeting her, getting to know someone new was really nice.
We are going to meet again on Wednesday, but I don't know what to do, apart from doing the same thing again.

I won't tell my parents that I've got a new friend using the internet since I'm actually embarrassed. but I like this girl and I enjoyed our afternoon together.. I've never done anything like it before.
here's the dilemma: I don't think we can see each other or make it a regular thing, since I can't bring myself to tell my parents. I live at home, I'm 23 and I just want a bit of a social life.. I'm very stressed, suffered depression for a long time too.
I want to have my own space and live away from home in a place of my own, but I'm at home for a long while to come.

should I not have a friend and meet her, until I'm older and have my own space? it's so awkward

[avach]

absolutely not george. you found a gril you like and she seems to like you too i mean she wants to hang out with you again.
i dont know you so please dont take it offensive but im sensing that your just really nervous about having anything happen with this girl so that your trying to let this chance pass by so you wont have to put up with it. thats understandable though but dont let your nervousness ruin this for you. you dont have to tell your parents right away and you dont have to invite her to your house right away either. you can go see a movie or whatever event there is coming up. and even when the time comes when you want to invite her over, i mean you guys and your parents dont have to be together all the time. just intruduce her and then go in your room. that way you dont have to bring the internet thing up.
if you go through with this now, you will always be able to look back and say hey i did it. if you keep avoiding these situations you might start to believe that its impossible to overcome your shyness.
thats the best advice i can give you.
so good luck and have fun on your date

[Stranger]

I think it would be a huge shame if that's the thing that stopped you. Sure it'll be hard to bring it up, but if you really want to go out with her, then isn't it worth a single, possibly-uncomfortable conversation with your folks? Chances are they'll be supportive about it anyway, particularly if you don't get out much.

For what it's worth, I once went through something very similar. Only it was a little more crazy: she was on the other side of the world! Good news is it all worked out well. Fact is, people do things like this all the time - it's not unusual anymore, and absolutely nothing to be embarassed about.

[george23]

well we've seen each other again and I really like being with her. We are both really shy, and I'm thinking that I'm not right for her, but as long as we are enjoying our time together that's the main thing at the moment. I don't want to hurt her or anything, if it doesn't work out

It's going to get difficult bacuase this year I'm at college and I'm going to be short of money soon, and might not be able to afford to go see her during the week It's hard finding any weekend work, but I'm going to try.

[gals]

Nov 8, 2010 13:56:54 GMT -5 george23 said:

I've recently used a free dating site, and got talking to a girl my age, and we live 10 miles apart.

we spoke for a few days and last week, we decided to meet on Wednesday, since that's my study day from college, and she has a weekend job.
We met at a train station, she drove.. and we went to get pizza for lunch. I was nervous and she was very shy aswell, but I really enjoyed meeting her, getting to know someone new was really nice.
We are going to meet again on Wednesday, but I don't know what to do, apart from doing the same thing again.

I won't tell my parents that I've got a new friend using the internet since I'm actually embarrassed. but I like this girl and I enjoyed our afternoon together.. I've never done anything like it before.
here's the dilemma: I don't think we can see each other or make it a regular thing, since I can't bring myself to tell my parents. I live at home, I'm 23 and I just want a bit of a social life.. I'm very stressed, suffered depression for a long time too.
I want to have my own space and live away from home in a place of my own, but I'm at home for a long while to come.

should I not have a friend and meet her, until I'm older and have my own space? it's so awkward

Why wait? You already found a great friend and I think you should nurture that whether you have your own place or not. I don't see a big deal about that.

Telling your parents or not is not a big deal for me. I mean, you're not really doing something bad to stress you like this. I think if they know you had friends, they'll be happy for you.

Just enjoy your newfound friendship