Post by peterseter3 on Dec 15, 2010 13:28:37 GMT -5
Hi . I'm a 31 year old male. Basically i've been shy ever since i can remember.
But what's bothering me is that at work everyone thinks i'm weird cause i don't talk like them. Everyone talks and talks fluently and about anything. To them is easy as 1 2 3.
It's come even to the point that I'm getting teased by the company director. Before i was teased by chatty annoying female coworkers but the other day even the company director said "Tell me when you talk the next time." I just smiled.
Ok so everyone wants me to be like them but I can't be just cause they want me to be. I don't have developed speaking skills. A shy person who has not talked all his life, can't just start talking and making sense. I've tried it.
I talk alittle with my side coworker who does the same thing as I do. And always, i have to repeat myself cause I miss the pronunciation or just my sentence doesn't make sense.
Then other coworkers around me never even look at me or talk to me cause i'm not gregarious like they are. I don't joke, i don't tell my private life. Seems all the non shy people joke, and tell everything about their private life.. which is something i don't want to do. Why should I?
They naggy client service women I used to be by before(now they moved me), used to nag about "Hey where do you live?" "Hey you live at home?(with parents)"
Why would i tell them about how i live and who i live with. that's none of their business.
I always lied to them just so they don't get angry.
So, my question is how do you cope with the constant telling me "hey why you don't talk?" that I"m getting ever since i've worked here, if I'm not naturally like they are and have never been.
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I"m actually a good person and respond nicely if people ask me something or sometimes if i have courage make a small little nice comment or little funny thing but that's me. I don't have impulse to be talking nonstop.
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For example, some thing that i do is If i find a funny interesting name on a document. I say to my coworker "hey look at this" and they smile or laugh. cause it's funny. But you see, that's me.. i like to connect with people in that way, not by talking endless stream of words. Yet everybody seems to think i'm weird.
What do you think? Any tips on how to deal with a job place where most people are loud and think you're stupid cause you're not that way.
But what's bothering me is that at work everyone thinks i'm weird cause i don't talk like them. Everyone talks and talks fluently and about anything. To them is easy as 1 2 3.
It's come even to the point that I'm getting teased by the company director. Before i was teased by chatty annoying female coworkers but the other day even the company director said "Tell me when you talk the next time." I just smiled.
Ok so everyone wants me to be like them but I can't be just cause they want me to be. I don't have developed speaking skills. A shy person who has not talked all his life, can't just start talking and making sense. I've tried it.
I talk alittle with my side coworker who does the same thing as I do. And always, i have to repeat myself cause I miss the pronunciation or just my sentence doesn't make sense.
Then other coworkers around me never even look at me or talk to me cause i'm not gregarious like they are. I don't joke, i don't tell my private life. Seems all the non shy people joke, and tell everything about their private life.. which is something i don't want to do. Why should I?
They naggy client service women I used to be by before(now they moved me), used to nag about "Hey where do you live?" "Hey you live at home?(with parents)"
Why would i tell them about how i live and who i live with. that's none of their business.
I always lied to them just so they don't get angry.
So, my question is how do you cope with the constant telling me "hey why you don't talk?" that I"m getting ever since i've worked here, if I'm not naturally like they are and have never been.
***
I"m actually a good person and respond nicely if people ask me something or sometimes if i have courage make a small little nice comment or little funny thing but that's me. I don't have impulse to be talking nonstop.
****
For example, some thing that i do is If i find a funny interesting name on a document. I say to my coworker "hey look at this" and they smile or laugh. cause it's funny. But you see, that's me.. i like to connect with people in that way, not by talking endless stream of words. Yet everybody seems to think i'm weird.
What do you think? Any tips on how to deal with a job place where most people are loud and think you're stupid cause you're not that way.