peekaboo
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Post by peekaboo on Dec 22, 2010 20:23:58 GMT -5
God, I am 28 and I still don't feel comfortable in my skin, whether I'm around family, or whatever I just don't feel secure in who I am. I don't know who the heck I am and am wondering will this ever change. I'm not sure if I want to spend time with my family on Christmas because of how uncomfortable I think I will feel. Anybody feel this way?
However, I would rather chill with my boyfriend on Christmas I don't really feel like I have to be more than what I am around him. God I hope it snows early Saturday Christmas morning.
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Post by Scotty on Dec 23, 2010 0:37:48 GMT -5
I still don't really know who I am either, and I'm 26.
Luckily I'm okay around my close family...and all my relatives who I'm not comfortable with are thousands of miles away (although I'm sure there will be some akward phone conversations on Christmas day, lol). I'm okay with my coworkers, except maybe in social situations, although I don't think I'll be seeing any of them outside of work anytime soon other than my movie buddies.
I've avoided most parties and gatherings lately, because earlier in the year they just made my feel like crap. I hated who I was because I didn't fit in.
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Post by missklew on Dec 29, 2010 4:14:05 GMT -5
Parties are dumb and pointless anyway
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Post by Richard Cunningham on Dec 29, 2010 7:41:03 GMT -5
God, I am 28 and I still don't feel comfortable in my skin, whether I'm around family, or whatever I just don't feel secure in who I am. I know I'm much more comfortable in my neighbor's skin. It is starting to rot though and I don't like sharing space with maggots so I should seek a new winter skin. Where does Robin Williams live? |
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Post by strawberrysweetie on Jan 1, 2011 6:30:18 GMT -5
God, I am 28 and I still don't feel comfortable in my skin, whether I'm around family, or whatever I just don't feel secure in who I am. I don't know who the heck I am and am wondering will this ever change. I'm not sure if I want to spend time with my family on Christmas because of how uncomfortable I think I will feel. Anybody feel this way? However, I would rather chill with my boyfriend on Christmas I don't really feel like I have to be more than what I am around him. God I hope it snows early Saturday Christmas morning. How'd your Christmas go? I feel very much the same way....very uncomfortable in myself. It's quite bad. I don't really know what to do about it either.  I visited with some relatives over Christmas that I had not seen in quite some time. I felt sliiiiiiiiiiiiightly better in myself, just because over this past year I've been exercising and managed to lose some weight, which does add a bit of energy and confidence really. However...well, it's hard to explain....like, I felt better about it initially when barely anything was said. But the more people made comments, the more uncomfortable I became, and the more I realized I really do still hate myself, in spite of even an improvement.  I didn't feel the way one should feel when given those compliments. I guess because what was being said just didn't match up with the way I feel about myself. They came more as a surprise than anything. Sort of bittersweet. Which I suppose for me comes down to just being disordered in several different ways. wow, I sound like a psycho right now. But that's mainly physically speaking anyway. I know now that even if I did look the way I wanted to, I'm still going to have problems with liking my own personality and feeling socially awkward like hell....it's very frustrating! So anyway, I don't know. This is something I so wish I could get control over, too...just to find a way to accept myself as I am. I think that's what one has to do in order to feel comfortable. I don't know how to gain full, honest acceptance, though. |
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Post by timarends on Jan 2, 2011 23:23:08 GMT -5
It's interesting that you feel more comfortable around your boyfriend then around your family. Usually with shy people it's exactly the opposite. With me, the longer I've known somebody, the more comfortable I feel around them.
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Post by gals on Jan 7, 2011 3:57:28 GMT -5
God, I am 28 and I still don't feel comfortable in my skin, whether I'm around family, or whatever I just don't feel secure in who I am. I don't know who the heck I am and am wondering will this ever change. I'm not sure if I want to spend time with my family on Christmas because of how uncomfortable I think I will feel. Anybody feel this way? However, I would rather chill with my boyfriend on Christmas I don't really feel like I have to be more than what I am around him. God I hope it snows early Saturday Christmas morning. Well at least you have a bf whom you're totally comfy with. You can't please evrybody and you can't force yourself to feel totally comfy with all people. As they say, not everyone is gonna like you, but you can like who you like |
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peekaboo
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Post by peekaboo on Jan 12, 2011 15:19:18 GMT -5
How'd your Christmas go? I feel very much the same way....very uncomfortable in myself. It's quite bad. I don't really know what to do about it either. I visited with some relatives over Christmas that I had not seen in quite some time. I felt sliiiiiiiiiiiiightly better in myself, just because over this past year I've been exercising and managed to lose some weight, which does add a bit of energy and confidence really. However...well, it's hard to explain....like, I felt better about it initially when barely anything was said. But the more people made comments, the more uncomfortable I became, and the more I realized I really do still hate myself, in spite of even an improvement. I didn't feel the way one should feel when given those compliments. I guess because what was being said just didn't match up with the way I feel about myself. They came more as a surprise than anything. Sort of bittersweet. Which I suppose for me comes down to just being disordered in several different ways. wow, I sound like a psycho right now. But that's mainly physically speaking anyway. I know now that even if I did look the way I wanted to, I'm still going to have problems with liking my own personality and feeling socially awkward like hell....it's very frustrating! So anyway, I don't know. This is something I so wish I could get control over, too...just to find a way to accept myself as I am. I think that's what one has to do in order to feel comfortable. I don't know how to gain full, honest acceptance, though. Well, my Christmas was very relaxing, because my boyfriend and I went absolutely nowhere we stayed in and didn't bother to visit family. Plus, this was his first Christmas off from work and we did the same thing for thanksgiving too. It was good because I didn't go into the new year with any bad feelings like I did last year, sometimes family can be so mean and I find myself feeling left out/not good enough when I come around them and I'm tired of feeling that way so I've made a decision to cut family visits to a minimum. I come from a good family but for some reason they always seem to manage to make me feel bad and I'm tired of feeling that way, I am the oldest of three others, I am a good woman but I don't understand why people can make you feel so bad especially when you don't do drugs, break the law etc., I was a virgin up unitl 25 I've never been pregnant, I don't run the streets I work and am planning to go to school very soon. So tell me how is it that when parents have some children that do whatever the hell they want to do, they do everything in their power to put this child on a pedestal and make you feeel bad for being good, *scratching my forehead* I guess there are somethings we will never understand. But tell me am I wrong for minimizing my family visits especially during the holidays? I just don't want to feel bad anymore is this wrong?  |
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Post by 1229 on Jan 12, 2011 21:22:58 GMT -5
Not at all. I don't see any reason why it would be a good idea to surround yourself with people who make you feel bad about yourself. To me if you have to put someone on a pedestal (especially someone who doesn't deserve it--and let's face it, most people don't) you're just trying to justify their actions.
Could it be that they have a lot more to be proud of in you? And this goes unnoticed because it's expected?
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peekaboo
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Post by peekaboo on Jan 15, 2011 10:16:51 GMT -5
Could it be that they have a lot more to be proud of in you? And this goes unnoticed because it's expected?
Well, I guess I never thought about it that way, but you have a point.
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Post by Shan-Chan on Mar 31, 2011 22:12:02 GMT -5
omg you have a bf =( How do you get a bf if you are insecure =O *hopefull*
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I didn't feel the way one should feel when given those compliments. I guess because what was being said just didn't match up with the way I feel about myself. They came more as a surprise than anything. Sort of bittersweet. Which I suppose for me comes down to just being disordered in several different ways. wow, I sound like a psycho right now.
