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Post by Outcast on Dec 29, 2010 23:19:31 GMT -5
What would you do if your co-workers suddenly gave you the cold shoulder? How would you cope with it?
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Post by Scotty on Dec 29, 2010 23:56:47 GMT -5
Most of my coworkers love me, so it's hard to imagine them giving me the cold shoulder. If they did though, I guess I would first find out why, and then do whatever I need to do to fix it.
Alternatively, I guess I might find a new job if it's really bad.
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Post by putter65 on Dec 30, 2010 12:16:55 GMT -5
Depends what you mean by 'the cold shoulder' ?
Women are moody in general so if they are not talking then it's usually because they are in a mood. Might not be about you. You've got to see if they are talking to everybody else and not you then there is something going on. It's probably something you have said that has been passed around, twisted and the wrong person has heard it.
I find if you talk to the woman like nothing is wrong then they soon forget about it. That's all they want usually. Some women are bigger sulkers than others. Ask them what is wrong in general or how are they feeling. If they don't want to talk or tell you what's wrong then just carry on as normal and talk to everybody else. Most women come around eventually anyway.
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Post by Outcast on Dec 31, 2010 7:00:40 GMT -5
Thanks for the replies guys.  Most of my coworkers love me, so it's hard to imagine them giving me the cold shoulder. Alternatively, I guess I might find a new job if it's really bad. Yeah, you really seem like a nice guy Scotty. I wouldn't believe you'll have this kind of problem , even if you told me.  Finding a new job....yeah....my younger sister had a similar problem last year...and despite all my efforts to help her, she finally decided to find a new job. At least now, she's able to concentrate on her work more. if they are talking to everybody else and not you then there is something going on. It's probably something you have said that has been passed around, twisted and the wrong person has heard it. I think this is what was happening. Ask them what is wrong in general or how are they feeling. If they don't want to talk or tell you what's wrong... This is probably what i should have done but i think it would have really hurt me if they decided to ignore me. I'm just uncomfortable with confrontations. I find if you talk to the woman like nothing is wrong then they soon forget about it. .... just carry on as normal and talk to everybody else. Yeah putter65, I decided to do that instead. I said to myself, i can't control these people if they decided to ignore me or be angry at me. I won't let it affect me. I'm not angry with them. Why should i change the way i treat them just because they don't like to talk to me anymore. So i just tried to talk them the way i used to. Somehow.....they began talking back to me once again. Maybe i'm just lucky that it's the holiday season, where forgiveness and feelings of good will is just all over the place. I just hope all will still be well even after the holidays. Here's hoping. |
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Post by putter65 on Dec 31, 2010 11:11:48 GMT -5
Hope it goes well for you !
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Post by timarends on Jan 2, 2011 23:46:18 GMT -5
It depends on how long you've been working at that particular job. A lot of shy people are social outcasts, and that includes at the job too. Also, don't forget that there are cliques in a lot of workplaces. Naive people who haven't yet entered the workplace think those are restricted solely to school life. Not so! Maybe somebody in the clique decided you shouldn't be in it anymore. It's hard to say without being there.
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Post by gals on Jan 13, 2011 9:23:16 GMT -5
What would you do if your co-workers suddenly gave you the cold shoulder? How would you cope with it? Personally, I would really care, as long as I'm doing my job and getting paid, then it's fine with me. If it's too sudden, like before, then maybe I'll wonder why and ask some of them. But if they don't give any answrs, then that's fine with me. |
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