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Post by casanova2 on Feb 22, 2013 16:22:18 GMT -5
Please can someone give some examples of what they would say in a first approach to a women on a dating site?I am worrying about my age now 35 and want a partner not having much luck at the minute.
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Post by jwn57030 on Feb 23, 2013 9:10:14 GMT -5
That's a really good question that I would love to see answers to as well. From the tips on the dating sites themselves they do say make sure you mention something you like about there profile that you read, and not that you think there picture was good. Other tips I have seen is not to be too long in the first e-mail. I like to start with a "How are you?" or "I hope you had a good week." Then I start talking about one or two things about their profile that caught my eye. I also make sure I can then ask them a couple questions about things in their profile so they have something to respond too or too talk about. This occasionally works for me.
Also I know the dating sites say that women won't even read your e-mail if they don't like your profile where as men will read any e-mail. Many of the dating sites have sections of tips on how to write your profile and write your first e-mail that you might check out.
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Post by ura on Feb 23, 2013 14:16:58 GMT -5
That's a really good question that I would love to see answers to as well. From the tips on the dating sites themselves they do say make sure you mention something you like about there profile that you read, and not that you think there picture was good. Other tips I have seen is not to be too long in the first e-mail. I like to start with a "How are you?" or "I hope you had a good week." Then I start talking about one or two things about their profile that caught my eye. I also make sure I can then ask them a couple questions about things in their profile so they have something to respond too or too talk about. This occasionally works for me. Also I know the dating sites say that women won't even read your e-mail if they don't like your profile where as men will read any e-mail. Many of the dating sites have sections of tips on how to write your profile and write your first e-mail that you might check out. That's what I hear online, that you get the most success by writing a response based on what you read on their profile. |
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Post by casanova2 on Feb 25, 2013 15:57:45 GMT -5
Yeah i have tried hi how are you?and very limited response.
I don't seem to be able to get the stunners to talk to me.
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Post by jwn57030 on Feb 26, 2013 21:36:25 GMT -5
I wish I could give any further advice. If you are looking to date supermodels I can't really help. I only get limited responses. Sometimes the ones who I want responses from never respond to me. It's actually rarely I get responses from people I really want them from. I can get responses from people who would not be considered as hot but may have a good personality or shared interests. I guess my biggest strategy is volume. If you send out enough mails eventually someone will respond.
Actually one interesting thought I also had is that I had the most success with women who e-mailed me first.
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Post by casanova2 on Mar 3, 2013 8:08:15 GMT -5
Yeah i was just wondering because i see mates of mine with pretty ladies and i know that some of my mates are ugly.And i was always told i was good looking.Don't get me wrong i have had a couple of pretty girlfriends.
I thought i would of had more success on on line dating i guess people are just trying to make me feel better.
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Post by Astroruss on Mar 4, 2013 19:11:19 GMT -5
Yeah i was just wondering because i see mates of mine with pretty ladies and i know that some of my mates are ugly.And i was always told i was good looking.Don't get me wrong i have had a couple of pretty girlfriends. I thought i would of had more success on on line dating i guess people are just trying to make me feel better. Perhaps comment on her hair too.  I know women spend a lot of time on their hair, especially for a picture on a dating site. Don't tell her you think's she an ultra hot mega fox, but comment on her hair style or color. Also, comment on her height, not her MTB ratio or whatever. If she's really tall you can emphasize that. Not like she's a model height or whatever, but you can say how her height makes her cute and pretty. If she's shorter, this is a bigger window of opportunity.  Short girls do not get as much attention, but if you're like me you really can fall for the short cute ones. |
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Post by Stranger on Mar 5, 2013 2:04:43 GMT -5
Yeah i was just wondering because i see mates of mine with pretty ladies and i know that some of my mates are ugly.And i was always told i was good looking.Don't get me wrong i have had a couple of pretty girlfriends. I thought i would of had more success on on line dating i guess people are just trying to make me feel better. I'm no girl none, but I'd suggest trying to make yourself sound like an interesting dude. Try to talk about stuff that leaves the door open to questions: what you like, stuff you do, stuff you'd like to do, places you'd like to visit, things you find funny/quirky/awesome/etc., things that mean a lot to you... give her plenty she can reply to, and of course respond to stuff she's written about her. Your posts here mention a lot about looks. Nothing unusual or wrong about guys being drawn by appearance, but if this is coming across in your messages and there's not much else of the stuff above, then it'll come across as pretty shallow. No idea if this is what's happening - just going by what I see here. |
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Post by jwn57030 on Mar 5, 2013 23:29:49 GMT -5
Yeah i was just wondering because i see mates of mine with pretty ladies and i know that some of my mates are ugly.And i was always told i was good looking.Don't get me wrong i have had a couple of pretty girlfriends. I thought i would of had more success on on line dating i guess people are just trying to make me feel better. I used to be quite a computer nerd and went to an engineering school with 75% guys. Once a friend and I were having a conversation about how we could not get women. Another friend of ours who is a women told us bluntly its about confidence. The diffrence between us and the guys that get girls are just able to make a confident approach. I definitely know this affects us dating in person, but I somehow think it can also come across in online dating in how you write your e-mail or profile. I've seen some guys that I thought were much uglier than me but they could get women because they exuded confidence with women. |
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Post by Astroruss on Mar 6, 2013 18:07:20 GMT -5
Yeah i was just wondering because i see mates of mine with pretty ladies and i know that some of my mates are ugly.And i was always told i was good looking.Don't get me wrong i have had a couple of pretty girlfriends. I thought i would of had more success on on line dating i guess people are just trying to make me feel better. I used to be quite a computer nerd and went to an engineering school with 75% guys. Once a friend and I were having a conversation about how we could not get women. Another friend of ours who is a women told us bluntly its about confidence. The diffrence between us and the guys that get girls are just able to make a confident approach. I definitely know this affects us dating in person, but I somehow think it can also come across in online dating in how you write your e-mail or profile. I've seen some guys that I thought were much uglier than me but they could get women because they exuded confidence with women. Yes but showing confidence is hard on a dating site in messages or on the phone. Showing confidence is easier to do when the man and woman from the dating site meet for the first time. |
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Post by casanova2 on Apr 7, 2013 15:11:00 GMT -5
Thanks for the advice though i didn't you paid them a compliment thought that was being cheesy lol
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Post by cilantro on Apr 7, 2013 17:35:42 GMT -5
It's really hard to respond to things like "Want to talk?" with anything other than "Okay," and people never seem that interested in how I am, what I'm up to, or even my sense of humor. It makes online conversation a chore, and I feel boring and self-conscious.  Examples, hmm... I'll skim some ladies quick. No idea what my actual success rate would be, though. Hi, _! I noticed we're both fans of campy horror, so I had to ask... what do you think of this Evil Dead remake? It used to crack me up as a kid, but they seem serious about making it genuinely frightening. Rats? Cool! I'm the only one in my family who isn't terrified of animals like rats and snakes, and I wish I had more room for reptiles. Do you just like rats, or are you more open-minded than most when it comes to animals in general? |
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Post by dell2541 on Apr 7, 2013 18:59:35 GMT -5
I actually have had really good success on dating websites in regards to getting girls to respond back to my emails and getting a date but turning that into a relationship im still trying to figure out. lol
I pretty much stick to the same message for the most part. I always asked either how their week is going or weekend was, i asked if they have anything fun planned, or something about there profile like work. I never asked anything personal like if where they live or maybe something about there kids. I think thats creepy.
Confidence is key, as lame as this may sound i think I have keyboad confidence thats why i do good but struggle when it turns person to person. I remember one time, i after getting a getting a msg from a girl i sent her my number and asked her out. About a month later and being off that site i recieved a txt from here asking if that offer was still good.
Just ask questions about them but dont get to personal.
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Post by jwn57030 on Apr 10, 2013 20:45:44 GMT -5
I completely understand keyboard confidence. I had plenty of that and no in person confidence. That's why I dropped online dating and have been working on my in person confidence. Best decision I have ever made. I am doing much better with women in person, and I think I will be much better prepared for online dating if I go back to it.
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Short girls do not get as much attention, but if you're like me you really can fall for the short cute ones. 
