Where are they now?

[billd1]

Jul 9, 2017 16:55:49 GMT -5 Strawberry said:

Jun 28, 2017 13:37:50 GMT -5 Grayback said:

Hello Strawberry,

I'm doing fairly well all things considered, still dealing with the same issues obviously but I've learned to do the best I can with what I have. In about two months from now I'm going to be 30 years old and I do feel that even though I'm still feeling rather lonely I've definitely made significant progress in the past 10 years. Hopefully I'll be able to start a relationship in the next 10 years, fingers crossed . How about you Strawberry, how has life been treating you lately ?

Hey Grayback! Glad to hear you feel you've made some progress!

I turn 30 in October... not looking forward to it. Just looking at that number terrifies me quite honestly. :S

I...have taken some steps backwards, unfortunately. But, I know it's something that needed to happen. I had a long-term relationship, which ended. Just over a year ago, had moved into a house and now I'm back in a studio apartment. Just trying to pick up the pieces and figure out my life all over again. To be honest, I hate starting all over again. At the same time, I know I have to. So yeah...that's me right now really. I think one of my main frustrations is the thought that I am just going to have to go back to school for something worthwhile. Regarding that route, I regret my choices deeply.

[billd1]

I also found turning 30 very scary, strawberry. In fact, every bithday is scary to me.

[Strawberry]

Aug 12, 2017 14:36:53 GMT -5 Grayback said:

It sounds like you're facing something nasty, I don't want to speculate but if you ever feel the need to talk to someone with a good ear ( one of the few qualities I'll recognize about myself ) I'm only a private message away.

That's good advice actually especially with all that's going on in the world currently, we really need to make the most of each day as they come.

Thank you so much, Grayback. I realize you shared this quite a while ago now, and sorry I never acknowledged your message. :S But I do really appreciate it. 

Had a rough year in a lot of ways, but I've been coping...relatively okay. Much to my surprise in all honesty.

[Grayback]

You're very welcome and don't worry about not acknowledging it sooner, I'm just glad you're doing okay, I hope 2018 will be a better year for you .

[marle]

I'm happy to see some folks here are doing relatively OK. I have been meaning to update my diary, but I just haven't felt up to it. I am just not effusive with my writing, much less with my speaking. But I will try a little bit.

On the whole, I am doing OK. My job continues to be the bright spot in my life (relatively speaking), even if my advancement has been way slower than others in my field. My job at the moment is secure, but I should be doing a better job of keeping my skills up in the event I would have to find work elsewhere. That's not something I'm very confident about.

My health is OK. The significant thing that has happened is that I have lost weight, gotten down to my goal weight, and have been keeping it off. I never dreamed that was possible. This has helped my lower back, but it has not completely fixed it. I seem to have simply delayed major back issues into older age, which is still a positive I guess.

Socially, there isn't much to say. I still am who I am around people. I don't socialize, except to visit parents occasionally. I don't expect that situation to change.

I do have a roommate, the same one I mentioned in my diary a year and a half ago. I feel positive about that situation now as I did then. I have not had any overly negative experiences with roommates yet, and I feel lucky about that.

As I'm sure many can relate to, it's hard to write about my life on a public internet forum without being very vague. If anyone would like more clarification about something I wrote (people or job related), feel free to PM me. 

So I just came in to say, still "chugging along." Wishing everyone good luck.

[disturbed]

Hi everyone, I don't know if anyone will remember me, I joined in 2006, I'm still on here every now and then, I will never leave this site, it's nice knowing I'm not the only one on the planet and that there are people out there in the same boat, can't believe it was 12 years ago when I joined, with in that time things have changed, I might have to start making some posts again and getting back involved

[Buzzz]

I frequented this forum a decade ago. It did help me feel less alone.

Social anxiety is less of an issue now than it ever has been for me, and while that's great, it's been difficult to adjust to living a "normal" life. Moving to a different city and being surrounded by new people has helped, so I'm viewing it as a fresh start.

Take care.

[disturbed]

Feb 15, 2018 21:31:31 GMT -5 Buzzz said:

I frequented this forum a decade ago. It did help me feel less alone.

Social anxiety is less of an issue now than it ever has been for me, and while that's great, it's been difficult to adjust to living a "normal" life. Moving to a different city and being surrounded by new people has helped, so I'm viewing it as a fresh start.

Take care.

Nice one Buzzz, yeah I've been living in a new town for about the last 6 years, my confidence is a lot better, I still suffer the social anxiety but it's defiantly improved over the years, I'm moving out of town again now, so it's another fresh start for me an all

[Sigh]

Good to see everyone is doing well.

Buzz and disturbed... I remember you I've been around a long time too...

[disturbed]

Nice one Sigh, hope all's going well for you

[1229]

I have not been here in ages; I’m doing well.

[billd1]

I've pretty much thrown away my life and wasted it. The Anonymous group that Arizona, who has not posted in I don't know how long, and was to be the co-founder along with myself, of whatever we were going to call the group, never got anywhere.

When I do occasionally post here, I tell Arizona he ought to check out the board, but as far as I know he hasn't done so.

There's not any hope for me with my problem.

I have joined another board for people with the affliction of shyness, and it seems like most of those on that board, are looking for the answers in drugs and professional counsellors, which I know from trying those tings won't dome any good, and will only waste a lot of money that I do not have in the first place.

Lately, I have been taking IQ tests. I told one of my "normal" friends what I was doing and he had a total hissy fit, asking me WHY do you want to take an IQ test?

You would, (or I would have though I had confessed to him that I had committted some horrible crime.

I told him that IQ tests were a lot like crossword puzzles, which a lot of people like to do, and the test are just a challenge to see if you can solve the questions on the tests.

Well he just plain didn't like IQ tests and thought they were not accurate and there was no need for such tests.

I will say that IQ tests, and the uses they have been put to, do deserve a lot of criticism, and I can do that myself, just from taking the tests.

But, that does not mean the tests are all bad.

I have only a few more tests to take of a series of many tests, and don't know if when or if ever I will get any more IQ tests to challenge me, but I am glad to have taken these most recent ones, have no regrets, and have learned from them. (I think the last time I took an IQ test could have been in the 1980s or 1990s).

[billd1]

I definitely do need to get a better looking avatar for this board!

It's just hard for me to think up of things like who or what to use for my new avatar.

I'm not the Prettiest Thing You Ever Laid Eyes On, but I'm not as, well how should I put it, I don't want to say anything disresepectful of the long deceased (since 1975 hermit Ray Phillipps), but to put it tactfully, I'd rather use an avatar of someone younger and better looking.

[billd1]

Well, I've gotten a better looking avatar. A bit fuzzy, and I'm sure that I can improve the focus in the future, but, with all due respect, love and affection for the dear, departed hermit Ray Phillips (who in real life I look more like), I think this slightly sad eyed pretty boy, who some of you might recognize, but like myself, since the photo was taken, has also aged as badly as Ray Phillips in his final 2 years, and also myself, is more of what I want to present billd1 to the Shy United audience as.

[CharlotteGirl]

Aug 21, 2019 2:14:40 GMT -5 billd1 said:

Well, I've gotten a better looking avatar. A bit fuzzy, and I'm sure that I can improve the focus in the future, but, with all due respect, love and affection for the dear, departed hermit Ray Phillips (who in real life I look more like), I think this slightly sad eyed pretty boy, who some of you might recognize, but like myself, since the photo was taken, has also aged as badly as Ray Phillips in his final 2 years, and also myself, is more of what I want to present billd1 to the Shy United audience as.

It's a nice avatar you have, no idea who it is   But unfortunately there isn't really a Shy United audience any more, the forum has been basically totally dead for a long while now. So I rarely visit or log in here.