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Post by nobody on Jul 29, 2003 23:01:46 GMT -5
Hi everyone,
I've been reading over the forums and think that this is a great site - thanks to those who run it! You all seem to be a generous and caring group.
I've been desperately shy my whole life and I can't believe I'm even considering posting on a forum...lol I've re-written this introduction 5 times now out of nervousness and am scared that I'm making a fool of myself.
I was just wondering, if anyone else had had an experience where they tried to act really confident all the time and found out to their great horror that they instead over did it and unknowingly acted like an idiot? Not just suspected you were wrong (since I always suspect that) but overheard other people talking about you and how they don't like you because you're always pretending to be so great and they really can't take it any more. If so, how did you come back from it, if at all?
Better post this before I chicken out...any response is more than welcome; thank you.
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Post by glenn miller on Jul 30, 2003 1:31:26 GMT -5
hi
welcome to the sight. i have not tried that.
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Post by just someone on Jul 30, 2003 7:17:33 GMT -5
yea i know exactly what u mean... it's just so hard sometimes u know. u think like omg i wish i could be confident as he is, if i'd be funny as he is but that ain't hapenin' so...well i don't hang out so much so the so the only place i fell like an idiot sometimes is home and in school.
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Post by nobody on Jul 30, 2003 7:29:28 GMT -5
Hi,
thanks for the welcome, glen miller.
Yeah, just someone, school was really hard for me, too. I would do my best to be invisible and would live in fear of getting called upon in class...I even took zeros for assignments where I had to present something to the class rather than get up and speak in front of everyone, though I hated that I wasn't brave enough to just do it.
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Post by Naptaq on Jul 30, 2003 7:59:58 GMT -5
hey im just someone or should i say i was...well the school was the most chalenging thing ever..And it still is.. Man when my name was called sometimes i just wished i stayed home u know... my heart just started beating so fast...my fears were going crazy....but usualy it ended good though
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Post by glenn miller on Jul 30, 2003 11:07:12 GMT -5
i was the same way when i was in school. when the teacher would ask a question. i could not answer because of the same way u said. in way we are both the same.
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Post by spitzig on Jul 30, 2003 23:45:27 GMT -5
A friend was telling me about him doing this. I only knew him after his overreaction, and have only seen his overreaction when he writes. Now, he's more comfortable having other people read what he writes(and being in public situations). He's written responses to a few questions posed to a group of people. One time, for one question, most people wrote responses about half a page. His response was 13 pages. It was a biography relating to poetry, I believe, so it was probably important. Not minor things. But, he does this often. He told me about it, and knows that he loses his audience sometimes, so he's working on that, now.
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Post by glenn miller on Jul 31, 2003 1:01:30 GMT -5
even when i was in college i was the same. i was better then when i was younger though.
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Post by glenn miller on Aug 1, 2003 12:05:42 GMT -5
how is it going nobody.
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Post by moogle on Aug 1, 2003 12:46:28 GMT -5
sometimes i wish i could feign confidence. what happens to me is that i eventually become confident in a place, and then take it too far.. give too much information or something.. and then i get very embarrassed and feel like no one will ever forget it because i know i won't. and then my comfort in that place is shot.
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Post by glenn miller on Aug 13, 2003 9:38:45 GMT -5
i have not done that. but cearten things i have done kind of like that.
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Post by NewOrleansLady on Aug 15, 2003 13:07:16 GMT -5
UGH! I used to try to force myself to be outgoing. The funny thing is, I was/am more confidant being shy and quiet. I think that once you realize and accept who you are than you stop putting all that pressure on yourself.
I know that some people probably don't like me because I am too quiet but, I probably wouldn't like spending too much time with either because they are too obnoxious. So it works both ways. Once I stopped worrying about EVERYBODY liking me, I became more confidant in the eyes of people that I actually care about. I just wish that I realized all of this sooner.
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Post by Twice-Shy on Aug 16, 2003 8:20:32 GMT -5
That is one of the hard things to deal with: the constant worrying about what others will think of you.
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