|
|
Post by Joanne on Aug 18, 2003 13:34:41 GMT -5
Hello. I am soooo shy. I start University soon. I had an absolutely terrible time at school. I was always being picked on. I am excited about starting afresh but I am also very scared because I'm staying in halls of residence. Has anybody been through something like me? Any advice to ease my nerves about living away from home for the first time, living in halls etc..?
|
|
|
|
Post by glenn miller on Aug 18, 2003 15:01:15 GMT -5
i a min the same way as u. i did not stay in the dorms at school. but i had a hard time when i was there. i am real shy to. i am glad i am done now. i would like to hear from u. maby chat. u have msn messenger.
|
|
|
|
Post by Twice-Shy on Aug 19, 2003 11:52:47 GMT -5
Good luck with starting Uni. The Uni I went to was only a few miles from my home so I travelled in each day. Sometimes I felt envious of those in halls. The bond between them seemed to be so strong. I'm sure you'll have a great time. Don't forget to join a few clubs. I joined the student newspaper and I had a great time.
|
|
|
|
Post by Sanity FreeZ0ne on Aug 20, 2003 16:52:52 GMT -5
Hello. I am soooo shy. I start University soon. I had an absolutely terrible time at school. I was always being picked on. I am excited about starting afresh but I am also very scared because I'm staying in halls of residence. Has anybody been through something like me? Any advice to ease my nerves about living away from home for the first time, living in halls etc..? Hi Joanne, Sorry to here that you had bad time at school. I havn't gone to universty yet but last year when I started college I reailised that I had to something about my shyness so I started to force myself to go up and talk to new people. It's something you might want to try, when you start your new classes just start talking to someone around you find out what they are interested in etc... I know its hard, but once you do it for the first time youll feel a whole lot better about yourself. Sorry I dont have any more help. Good luck. |
|
|
|
Post by spitzig on Aug 21, 2003 0:54:00 GMT -5
One thing that helped me when I started was that I knew that everyone was pretty much in the same boat. At least, all the freshmen. None of the other freshmen have any friends, either. A large percentage of them know others from their school, but few have more than one or two friends. Also, college has a lot of clubs and interest groups you can get involved in.
Also, I thought that college kids were a lot less exclusive than high school kids. There wasn't as much a dividing line between the cool kids and the not-cool kids.
Oh, and fraternities(and sororities to a lesser degree--from what I saw) CAN be good for shy people, too. I think that's dependent upon the school, too, though. Different fraternities/sororities have different traits that are more common among the members. It might be a good idea to try them. Don't write off all Greeks if the first one you check out are not a very nice persons. Greeks are just like everyone else--some are not a very nice persons, some are shy...
|
|
|
|
Post by Twice-Shy on Aug 21, 2003 4:56:13 GMT -5
I'll let you into a little secret that I used during my first year at uni. Whatever time my first class or lecture would staart, I would turn up maybe half an hour before then. That meant that I could chat away to whoever arrived first. I had a set few topics for each day that I would real off. It worked for me. I did English and it was the same girl who always used to turn up after me. We became great friends. Try it.
|
|
|
|
Post by Michael1973 on Aug 21, 2003 13:15:29 GMT -5
That's a really good idea, Shane. I wish it had occurred to me 12 years ago! I'd just go to class and sit there in absolute silence until the teacher began talking. Lotta good that did me!
|
|
|
|
Post by Twice-Shy on Aug 22, 2003 11:29:23 GMT -5
Thanks for that. I'm not just a pretty face.
|
|
