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Post by Dgirl on Aug 18, 2003 22:28:17 GMT -5
I was just reading the author's view of his shyness and it revealed a lot to me and has helped me understand a friend of mine after going thru an incident with him today. I thought he was just mean, stand-offish, cold, and snobbish being that we haven't seen ourselves for a while then again something struck me about his behavior so I began surfing online just to determine if he was snobbish or shy. now that I read it i strongly believe he is shy and all he needs is someone to negotiate good conversations which can hel him feel relaxed and safe ...once again I have no problem with shy people but sometimes they often come off as COLD SNOBS!
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Post by Twice-Shy on Aug 19, 2003 11:48:22 GMT -5
Shyness is often misinterpreted as arrogance and standoffishness. I was at a funeral today. I am a committee member of the Huntington's Disease Association Northern Ireland. The son of one of our committee members was killed in a bike accident on Sunday morning. After the service we went back to a pub for a bite to eat. I hardly said a word thew whole meal, despite the fact that I was in the company of people I've known for a long time. Shyness can be so frustrating at times.
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Post by Michael1973 on Aug 19, 2003 12:40:11 GMT -5
That happens to me too sometimes, Shane. Even around my closest family, I sometimes feel too shy or tense to speak up. Somebody once asked me how I can feel uncomfortable talking to my own parents. It's not very easily explained, though, is it?
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Post by Twice-Shy on Aug 20, 2003 13:38:11 GMT -5
It actually happened to me today. I was out for a bite to eat with my mother and my closest aunt. The three of us are really close yet I clammed up after about five minutes and my confidence just vanished.
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Post by Sanity FreeZ0ne on Aug 20, 2003 16:48:22 GMT -5
That happens to me too sometimes, Shane. Even around my closest family, I sometimes feel too shy or tense to speak up. Somebody once asked me how I can feel uncomfortable talking to my own parents. It's not very easily explained, though, is it? I know what you mean by that..I can't talk to my parents about a lot of things. I think talking to your parents is a problem that a lot of people, even non-shy's have. |
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Post by spitzig on Aug 21, 2003 1:04:30 GMT -5
I don't talk much to my parents, but it doesn't have anything to do with shyness. It's more about lack of common interests with my mother and not getting along much with my father.
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Post by Twice-Shy on Aug 21, 2003 4:51:32 GMT -5
I spend a lot of time with my parents. I don't communicate at all except on a pretty shallow level with my father. We are just too alike personalitywise.
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Post by Michael1973 on Aug 21, 2003 13:17:36 GMT -5
I get along great with my parents, but I tense up when it comes to discussing major issues, so I just opt not to. This happens with a pretty much everyone, not just them. It's an obstacle I really need to overcome somehow.
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Post by Naptaq on Aug 26, 2003 8:04:22 GMT -5
shit man...i mean snob eh? yea i often behave like this so that explains why most ppl i know in school dislike me
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