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Post by Placido on Dec 8, 2003 10:05:30 GMT -5
One thing I'm finding as I crawl out of my shell is that it's a lot easier to be chatty with recent acquaintances, who never new the old, silent me. When I try and be outgoing towards people who have known me a long time, the thought is at the back of my mind that it must seem very odd to them that this hitherto timid insular person has suddenly changed his personality for no apparent reason...
Does anyone else find that the thought of people's perceptions of you having to change is a bit of a barrier?
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Post by EdgedInBlue on Dec 8, 2003 10:52:56 GMT -5
I hear you, man!
I don't find talking to a new aquaintence half as difficult as talking to somebody from my past. Frankly, I was always a nerdy kid and I made several ill fated attempts to fit in and to have the vague suspicion that this person remembers my stupidity, it's too much to handle
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Post by CaryGrant on Dec 8, 2003 11:48:10 GMT -5
I think one of the biggest favours we can do people is to see then fresh everyday, not assume that they will always be who they've always been. Definitely easier to be the "new me" with new people.
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Post by spitzig on Dec 9, 2003 2:16:05 GMT -5
I had people tell me I changed (positively) after graduating college. My reaction was that they were my friends, so they were happy for me. Change is inevitable in EVERYONE. What type of change is the question.
The only people I tended to avoid (from the distant past) were people I barely knew in High School. People seem to feel some need to converse with fellow graduates, even though I barely knew them then.
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Post by Placido on Dec 9, 2003 10:19:31 GMT -5
The trouble is I don't want to offend half my colleagues by appearing to be twice as friendly to the other half...
Oh well, it's only a transitional stage, I guess.
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