"I preferred it when you DIDN'T talk!"

[ASolitarySoul]

Ghost said:

I guess it is a clique mentality: being cruel to another is natural to them and proof to others they are not to mess with. Sort of Alpha-females behavior, to show the oucast/underdog that s/he is standing on ground that only the elite may occupy.

Such cruel people. Now I am rather relaxed about it, but if I was there I would have the serious need to slap them silly. Note how gently I express myself about such immature people who think they are quite something by their complete silly "pack" behavior.

They HAVE to engage in such behavior in order to maintain the exclusivity
of the clique. If everyone could join that wanted to join,
then membership would have little value - there would be nothing
special about being a member of the clique - one of the “beautiful people.”

Techies do this also - if you don’t know your stuff, then any attempt
to “fit in” with a bunch of techies will be met with resistance
- though most techies are more approachable - more willing to be
helpful in imparting knowledge to those who are less initiated.

It can be cruel and heatless to those who are excluded,
but life in general is cruel and heartless.


Solitary Soul
all about me -> users3.ev1.net/~solitarysoul/
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[Ghost]

Cliques filled me with dread and distaste. I am ok solo. It's the lack of just one good friend, which I would like sometimes and that I don't trust people much anymore.

It would be a interesting experience how I would fare, because I am always so wrapped up in my own things that i forget to give someone a call, reply to a note, etc, etc .

[lyn]

Hi Wayne, Don't be put off by what these people did to you. If they want you to stay the way you are and to leave them alone like nicole said they are complete jerks. They are the ones with the problem not you, they really are not worth worrying about. I am very stubborn and if that happened to me I would have went out of my way to show them that I was capable of finding a friend and that I was better than them. Like someone else said alot of people in a group can across as real jerks but get one of them on their own and they are completly different. There is bound to be some people around who will be more than willing to have you as there friend.

Please don't go back to the way you were, that is what I did when I was in high school (20 years ago) and too this day I am regretting this decision, as I have now got no self confience, low self esteem and no social skills at all. I often feel that life is not worth going on. Just remember that some people will like you and some wont like you but that is life. The ones that don't like you are the ones with the problem, not you and they arent worth knowing and there are lots of people out there who will like you the way you are and they really do care about you. They are just hard to find but will come along when you least expect them to. At least here you are around people who are experiencing similar problems and they try to help you, keep reading all the forums here as I have found there is alot of valuable information there and some of it has even helped me.