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Post by Truck on Jul 1, 2004 10:36:18 GMT -5
Hi everyone,
I have fancied a girl at my college for a long time now, and recently we have got more friendly. I asked her out over at easter time and she seemed to divert. I shook it off after some time but since i have been seeing her about more I am really feeling passionately about her. She has the most beautiful eyes and smile that i have ever seen and she has a fun loving personality. I used to be quite a shy person, but over the past few years I have been behaving extremely extroverted to combat my introverted nature and i think that this may be scaring her away. I do believe that she is being genuinely friendly and I am becoming frustrated with my "alter ego" to the point when i do not know who i am anymore. Can anyone give me any advice??
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Post by Boblouie58 on Jul 1, 2004 12:22:08 GMT -5
Not knowing your personality, I can't give you much advice. From your comments, you don't appear any different that most of us guys on here at one time or another in our lives.  Asking a girl and being rebuffed, doesn't necessarily mean anything. But it could mean something on the other hand. Yes, she could be shy but she could have someone in her life and she isn't sure if she wants to add someone else or what to do?  On the other hand, if you see her often and you ask again and she doesn't give you a definite answer one way or another, you will still be wondering. This could mean that she is or isn't interested but it could mean something else, yet again. If she told you she had a b/f and wasn't interested could you handle being around her. Many of us, don't ask girls we are in daily contact with as we can't handle rejection. But yet again, some of us, don't sweat the small things and move on. Life can be rather difficult at times but you know, we always seem to make it and go on with our lives, as who would want to live in a perfect world>  |
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Post by Truck on Jul 1, 2004 15:51:48 GMT -5
It is not really her who is shy, as she seems outgoing. I am just sometimes intimidated. I used to be incredibly shy and anxious. The anxiety has stayed and I just turned publc shyness into public overtness. Even though this is the shy forums it was the first suitable forum i have found for my problem
It is strange that i do not know if she has a boyfriend because i speak to her a lot. There has been no mention yet but she has many male friends, me included. I dont want to spoil what could be a good friendship, however at the moment i see her as more than a friend
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Post by deathmaster on Jul 1, 2004 17:42:20 GMT -5
Obessing over a girl is the first step to NOT getting her.
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Post by CaryGrant on Jul 5, 2004 11:35:30 GMT -5
Deathmaster (!) put it very succinctly, but accurately. Find other girls you're interested in and stay friends with this one if you're able to handle it. Oh, and beware of girls with lots of guy friends and no female friends.
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Post by l0ner on Jul 7, 2004 21:31:16 GMT -5
Oy. That's not exactly what I want to hear.
But why is that, though? I'm in a bit of a situation with what I think is a girl like that, and she's fliratious as hell with me, but I never acted on it because she's "dating" someone. The semester ended and we haven't talked for several weeks, but I'm back at school and she called me up and wants to get together. I think I could "bed" this girl, but I'd rather have sex with a girl I like than "bed" some chick who loves to get f***ed by any guy she can (at least, that's what I think she's like...she may have more self control in that area than i give her credit for). Although, I do like her a lot, and we've gotten kinda close I suppose........god, why does the first girl situation I get into have to be such a screwy one?
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Post by CaryGrant on Jul 8, 2004 12:04:35 GMT -5
I may be wrong, but my impression of people with lots of friends ONLY of the opposite sex is that they are insecure and seeking validation. Girls who surround themselves with guys want to feel attractive and desired, for example, and are intimidated by other girls.
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Post by l0ner on Jul 8, 2004 19:12:35 GMT -5
I may be wrong, but my impression of people with lots of friends ONLY of the opposite sex is that they are insecure and seeking validation. Girls who surround themselves with guys want to feel attractive and desired, for example, and are intimidated by other girls. I think it's possible that might describe her well. Also, she may have 'guy issues'....despite all the stuff she's told me about herself and her past, she's never said one word about her father, and supposedly her mom had a bad relationship with a boyfriend that ended around the time this girl was 13 or so. So yeah, I think she's kinda of screwed up and not worth "bothering with" relationship-wise or anything-like-that-wise, but on the other hand I hate saying that about her because I've known her for months and can tell that she is a great person, and I really like her. Ugh. Anyway, I'm going to be seeing her for the first time in weeks today or tomorrow, so I may find out a bit more about what's possible between us... |
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Post by serginho on May 25, 2008 14:59:44 GMT -5
Best way to find out if she is intereted in you or not is to let her see you with another girl, or two or three. S/he who cares the least controls the relationship, regaerdless of what level it is at.
So forget about her for now and go out and flirt with other girls. This one will come around if she wants. If not, forget about her for good.
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Post by Astroruss on May 27, 2008 21:39:11 GMT -5
Best way to find out if she is intereted in you or not is to let her see you with another girl, or two or three. S/he who cares the least controls the relationship, regaerdless of what level it is at. So forget about her for now and go out and flirt with other girls. This one will come around if she wants. If not, forget about her for good. This may be true, but hardly a long term solution. By the way, this is a very old thread and I doubt the participants still read it for advice. |
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