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Post by Max Power on Aug 30, 2004 22:50:49 GMT -5
Hmmm...well I can only tell you about my own experience, but here goes. When I'm attracted to a guy and am open to him approaching me I look away when he looks at me at first, maybe even blush a bit when I get caught 'looking'. But eventually I will work up the nerve to smile at him, even give him increasingly prolonged eye contact. Then from there it's a matter of give and take, if he reciprocates when I smile or give him eye contact, or say hello, then I move forward a bit, then he does...etc. I have a dilemma in finding signals. What if she doesn't smile. I have noticed that for the past few years, several women have made eye contact with me, which I assume... ok I wish is a "signal", but not once have they smiled. I always try to maintain the eye contact long enough to see if she smiles or if I smile, and it never happens. Is that just her being shy, or just coincidental eye contact? |
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Post by Sweet pea on Aug 31, 2004 3:32:05 GMT -5
Once again, I can only tell you from my own experience...but I rarely smile back at a guy on his first try. Too shy. But eventually, if he persists, then I will begin to smile back. First contact for me usually consists of eye contact, then quickly looking away. Gradually longer and longer eye contact, not looking away so quickly, and tentative smiles become bigger and broader with time... if he persists. If you're dealing with a shy girl, you may have to take the initiative and persist to break through the barrier. Females are conditioned to wait for males to take the initiative. Shy females are even more prone to wait. If she gives you ANY encouragement at all, and you don't jump on it...she will probably assume you aren't really interested.
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Post by CaryGrant on Aug 31, 2004 11:52:58 GMT -5
Thanks, Sweet Pea, that's good to know. (And once again shows how important it is for shy guys to behave confidently!)
Max, I have done the same thing, and it's possible you are perceived as staring, which women do not like at all. Why not make the eye contact and smile, then look away first? Then, you can look back a minute or so later, give her a small smile, and see if she responds.
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Post by babygirl on Aug 31, 2004 18:28:06 GMT -5
When he gives a little head flick backwards like crooking a finger to say come here. OMG..is that what the little nodding the head backwards means.My guy did this but I thought it was as a form of hello or wassup or something.I thought that because I was walking by him when he did that and it was the first time I had seen him that day.I can't believe I missed that one. |
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Post by jai on May 4, 2009 14:38:44 GMT -5
I can pick up these signals but I can never make that first move. My shyness holds me back even though I know a girl is looking at me, even smiling! I hate it I just have that fear of rejection. What if I misinterpretted those signals. I've got too many what ifs in my life and I just wanna get rid of them!
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Post by nigella on May 5, 2009 3:42:41 GMT -5
Yeah ive had similar problems like that especailly if its in front or im out with certain freinds.Sometimes i can approach someone when im on my own better.
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Post by bleaknunhappy on May 5, 2009 10:53:53 GMT -5
One of the signals is the infamous prolonged eye contact. Now I'm no expert on the subject however if she holds your gaze when you smile back at her look away for a second, then go over within three seconds - no longer. Your opening line will be "You can't just look at me like that and not say anything" then introduce yourself and hopefully your brain will not have frozen and you can start to get to know her but try to keep the conversation unique and short, then get her number.
Again take my advice for what it is
Bleaknunhappy out
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Post by arizona on May 21, 2009 20:42:15 GMT -5
Never felt signals in my life. One time someone told me a certain woman was flirting with me all the time. I certainly never picked up on it if it was true, meaning either I'm stupid or the person who told me that was stupid.
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Post by cyclopse on May 24, 2009 12:45:09 GMT -5
I was at the gym the other day and i noticed a very attractive girl looling at me. I mean she was in front of a mirror but she could see me looking at her and i could see her looking at me. She later then walked by me to use a machine which to be honest she went totally out of her way to get to. Anyways the rest of the time though we didnt exchange eye contact though. Hopefully i will see her again thier soon. Any advice on what to say if i can muster up enough guts!!!!!
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Post by anothershy1 on Jun 14, 2009 16:07:10 GMT -5
I guy I work with told me a girl I'm close to is giving me the green light (based on chats, hangouts etc) for the past year although she is leaving on a jet plane very very very soon. I still can't bring myslef to ask her out as I don't want to lose the friendship as she is the only friend I have made at work in six yes six years! Well really she is the only friend I have made ever.
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