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Post by raspberryhaze on Sept 29, 2004 14:03:37 GMT -5
More times than I care to count. I'm a 14-year-old girl so I guess I haven't experienced very much, but I will tell you this. If you don't do *something* outgoing people may never notice you. Honestly, you can't expect a love interest to pop out of nowhere. Sometimes you have to make an effort.
Like I said, I haven't had much experience so I may be wrong. But I've had many opportunities to make friends pass me by. Hope this helps *hugs*
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Post by lsdima4 on Oct 1, 2004 14:23:39 GMT -5
Put yourself up on hotornot.com
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Post by Max Power on Oct 1, 2004 14:42:24 GMT -5
Put yourself up on hotornot.com oooooofff, I could not subject myself to that kind of stoning.  |
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Post by allen on Oct 4, 2004 22:26:44 GMT -5
People always seem to think they're less attractive than they really are. Not the case for me. I used to believe that I was pretty good looking. After recently looking back on my online personals experience....out of the last 20 women that I've sent my picture to, 10 of them never responded, 9 of them responded but I never heard from them after sending my picture. My confidence is now at an all time low and all I see now when I look in the mirror is a hideous freak. |
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Post by lsdima4 on Oct 4, 2004 22:30:22 GMT -5
Put yourself up on hotornot.com
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Post by allen on Oct 5, 2004 18:44:14 GMT -5
Put yourself up on hotornot.com Actually I can't do that (I'm too shy I guess) and I don't believe in those sites anyhow |
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Post by CaryGrant on Oct 11, 2004 10:53:22 GMT -5
Don't take your response rate from online personals personally. There are far more men than women on there, and many women get 30+ responses per day. Advice from the doubleyourdating guru: Only contact women who posted their profile that day, and move it to a phone call immediately, or you'll get lost in the deluge. And that was written by a guy who was extremely confident and successful with women. Those women didn't drop you because of your photo, it was because they got 50 other responses between the first and second contact with you.
Also, I used to think I was unattractive, and was always surprised when a woman seemed to find me attractive. It is still hard for me to think of myself as attractive, but it is easier - and truer - to believe that I am attractive to some women. Everyone is attractive to someone, so don't worry about how attractive you are generally. Finally, you can be as ugly as sin and still get lots of dates if you have the right attitude and can tolerate rejection.
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Post by Cactus on Oct 11, 2004 12:25:35 GMT -5
Not the case for me. I used to believe that I was pretty good looking. After recently looking back on my online personals experience....out of the last 20 women that I've sent my picture to, 10 of them never responded, 9 of them responded but I never heard from them after sending my picture. My confidence is now at an all time low and all I see now when I look in the mirror is a hideous freak. Note, I said attractive. Not good-looking. There is a difference. Someone can be attractive, but not necessarily good-looking in the traditional sense of the word. An online picture can't really display much of what makes a person attractive, just as a brief sketch about who you are can't really convey much. The two go hand in hand, but can't communicate the overall "picture" of you. I wouldn't use any online personals responses as a measure of your attractiveness. If you once thought you were, you can do it again. What you think about yourself is more important in achieving this than what others do. I know that other peoples' opinions can influence your perceptions of yourself, but you really should try to resist that. Especially coming from something as inacurate as a personals site.  |
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