what do girls think of shy guys with no money?

[lonelyheart]

The answer is probably very obvious but yeah....

I currently don't work and am a full time student at university. I have always thought that i could never get a girlfriend because I don't work, nor do i have much money spare to spend on her.

[ShyOne]

as long as you don't live on the street, you'll get the girl. it's the personality that counts.

[sushiboat]

Can you afford to buy a cup of coffee? You can play pool or go bowling. You can walk in the park. You can go to a museum. Look in the newspaper and find festivals and special events. Buy a guide book for the area and find the tourist attractions nearby.

[bk669]

i don't know about those answers, i don't think that's true. women want guys with money, i really think that's 100% true. you don't have to be rich but... your personality gets you jack

[Cactus]

I've gone out with some guys with money and they spent some on me, yeah, but I would have rathered that they spent something else on me....their time. Sure, it's nice to go and do things that cost money once in a while (there's some cool stuff to be experienced and it's not all free), but the things that really count don't cost a cent. The only reason money sould be any issue is security. Who wants to be 65 with no money, no place to live?

[Kitten]

bk669 said:

i don't know about those answers, i don't think that's true. women want guys with money, i really think that's 100% true. you don't have to be rich but... your personality gets you jack

Not true in all cases. At least not in mine, my boyfriend and I make a great case for that. While he's not poor, he's struggled and worked hard to get what he does have now. The fact that he couldnt' have all the things he wanted while growing up just makes him that much more motivated to be the best he can be at his job and never take the little things for granted. I mean, of course it's true, a guy who has money makes him that much more desireable, and most women love to see a guy who goes for what he wants in life. But to say that it's all girls care about is way off the mark. Besides, if you don't have that much money, you can weed out the gold-diggers from the women you'd truly want to spend time with.

LonelyHeart, it's great that you're going to school, and being a full-time student, most women that you'd talk to would take that into consideration. There's a difference between having n0 money b/c you're a student, and having no money b/c you're lazy and just don't feel like working a real job.

[canisay182]

bk669 said:

i don't know about those answers, i don't think that's true. women want guys with money, i really think that's 100% true.

id have to disagree with that. i couldnt care less how much money a guy has. it seems like you guys think all women are really shallow, but most of us arent. it just depends on the girl

[Sweet Pea]

Alot of guys are convinced that women care about how much money a guy has than anything else. But they'd be wrong when it comes to alot of women. Oh sure, there are gold diggers out there, we all know that. But not everyone feels that way, that's for sure. I couldn't care less how much money a guy has. I can make my own money. I'm not very materialistic anyway. Things are just things. It's the quality of the relationship that matters to me. The feelings between us, the love, the tenderness, the caring and the thoughtfulness - that's what counts. I don't care if he has a high status job either. I've known alot of guys through the years with the money, the high status job, the great car, the great looks, the hot bod, the whole deal - leave me cold, utterly. I'm not saying it would be impossible for me to care for a guy like that, but guys who put their emphasis in life on stuff like that usually just don't interest me. I want to be really loved. That's what I want.

[bk669]

You girls are right, i want to take back what I said! I was thinking of one girl i knew in particular, she took advantage of my financially, so I was thinking of her when I wrote that generalization.

Which doesn't really turn out to be the case for other women i've known.

Sorry for generalizing, to all the normal women reading this!

[girlmysterious]

LonelyHeart, it's great that you're going to school, and being a full-time student, most women that you'd talk to would take that into consideration. There's a difference between having n0 money b/c you're a student, and having no money b/c you're lazy and just don't feel like working a real job.

I just want to add that many normal women have gone through university as full-time students and without a job (at least I did)! I think many women would understand and appreciate your focusing on your studies. Your degree is like an investment for the future. I think that is appealing.

[PapaRoachGrl]

I would have no problem going out with an unemployed guy...as long as he was doing something productive with his off time.

[lonelyheart]

Well, the point of my studies is to gain qualifications for a higher paying job in the next couple of years. I hope to be working in the finance industry after I graduate but yeah, to get a high paying job in that field you need to be very confident with an outgoing personality... which I lack.