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Post by Timid Tim on Sept 23, 2004 22:47:22 GMT -5
I am 26 and can count the number of woman I have been with on one hand! I hate the outgoing men; they get all the dates, especially with the hot women! Even if they are ugly they still do much better than me! What the heck is a shy guy to do? This is driving me nuts! The only women I have been with flirted with me pretty darn thick for me to finally ask them out on a date. One grabbed me and wouldn’t let me go until I asked her out. Talk about emasculating, sheesh! (Even though I liked her)
Let’s face it: Shy guys were not made to get their fair share of dates PERIOD!
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Post by ShyOne on Sept 24, 2004 13:38:57 GMT -5
atleast you got women who like you.I have no one cause I'm ugly & shy.
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Post by herb on Sept 27, 2004 13:52:46 GMT -5
atleast you got women who like you.I have no one cause I'm ugly & shy. Fat chicks need lovin' too. |
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Post by Sweet Pea on Sept 27, 2004 15:02:46 GMT -5
I am 26 and can count the number of woman I have been with on one hand! I hate the outgoing men; they get all the dates, especially with the hot women! Even if they are ugly they still do much better than me! What the heck is a shy guy to do? This is driving me nuts! The only women I have been with flirted with me pretty darn thick for me to finally ask them out on a date. One grabbed me and wouldn’t let me go until I asked her out. Talk about emasculating, sheesh! (Even though I liked her) Let’s face it: Shy guys were not made to get their fair share of dates PERIOD! Wait a minute. Is the problem that you can't get dates or that you can't ask women out? Kinda sounds like you show a little interest in a woman, she sees that you're shy, so she pursues you cuz she figures that's what she needs to do to connect with you. But you don't like that cuz it's EMASCULATING?? Oh boy, a woman who likes you is really SOL isn't she? She can wait til hell freezes over before you ask her out, or she can EMASCULATE you! Maybe not labeling certain behavior and masculine or feminine would help? Is asking someone out really only a masculine behavior? Is it more masculine to sit at home alone when you'd rather be dating a woman? At least if you're dating a woman who asked you out, you're working on your skills. You'll get more familiar with women when you spend time around them, and learn more about yourself too. Long term this should translate into improved skills for going after what you really want. I don't think the social equivalent of locking yourself into a closet is the answer if you really want to improve the shyness thing. |
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Post by WayoftheBraves on Sept 27, 2004 23:18:26 GMT -5
Girls don't like me, period. I'm too shy and ugly as well.
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Post by Timid Tim on Sept 27, 2004 23:44:25 GMT -5
Wait a minute. Is the problem that you can't get dates or that you can't ask women out? It is mainly that I can’t/won’t ask them out because I am too shy.  This results in me not getting enough dates as I should and I hate it.  Just because I am shy doesn’t mean I don’t have any pride or dignity.  I like to feel like a man just as much as my mere amount of previous dates has liked to feel like a woman; I feel like a big baby when she has to do all that. (even though I agree it is better than nothing) What is an SOL?  I just can’t help to feel like I am severely handicapped in the whole dating scene.  I feel like I am the equivalent of a guy chasing someone except he has his foot is injured so he needs to use crutches. At least if you're dating a woman who asked you out, you're working on your skills. You'll get more familiar with women when you spend time around them, and learn more about yourself too. Long term this should translate into improved skills for going after what you really want. I don't think the social equivalent of locking yourself into a closet is the answer if you really want to improve the shyness thing. I agree that it would help me improve I wish I was a natural to begin with though.  |
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Post by Sweet Pea on Sept 28, 2004 4:32:22 GMT -5
Just because I am shy doesn’t mean I don’t have any pride or dignity. I like to feel like a man just as much as my mere amount of previous dates has liked to feel like a woman; I feel like a big baby when she has to do all that. (even though I agree it is better than nothing) What is an SOL? SOL means s**t out of luck, meaning there's no way for a woman who likes you to win. Your belief system says that its unfeminine for her to ask you out, and it's unmasculine for you to accept...so if she likes you she's SOL, no matter what she does you're not gonna like it. I guess the only thing a woman who likes you can do is just walk away, hmm? Maybe this is the real reason shy guys get ignored so much? I don't think it's unfeminine to ask a shy guy out, or any other guy for that matter. And I certainly don't think you're any less of a man if you accept an invitation from a woman. Also, another way to look at it is - when you give a woman the eye and communicate non-verbally that you are interested in her, it's really you that issued the first invitation isn't it?? Hmmmm?  Not all communication is verbal, especially in the arena of sex, love and romance. PS - alot of girls ask outgoing guys out too, and alot of them accept quite happily without thinking it reflects badly on them. |
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Post by Timid Tim on Sept 28, 2004 23:45:33 GMT -5
SOL means s**t out of luck, meaning there's no way for a woman who likes you to win. Your belief system says that its unfeminine for her to ask you out, and it's unmasculine for you to accept...so if she likes you she's SOL, no matter what she does you're not gonna like it. I guess the only thing a woman who likes you can do is just walk away, hmm? Maybe this is the real reason shy guys get ignored so much? I don't think it's unfeminine to ask a shy guy out, or any other guy for that matter. And I certainly don't think you're any less of a man if you accept an invitation from a woman. Also, another way to look at it is - when you give a woman the eye and communicate non-verbally that you are interested in her, it's really you that issued the first invitation isn't it?? Hmmmm? Not all communication is verbal, especially in the arena of sex, love and romance. PS - alot of girls ask outgoing guys out too, and alot of them accept quite happily without thinking it reflects badly on them. I guess I just over think things way too much and often... I will try not to be a SOL... Probably the reason I don’t feel like a man is that women kind of intimidate me when they flirt with me too strongly... I wish I wasn’t sooo shy… |
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Post by SpathiEluder on Sept 29, 2004 0:48:05 GMT -5
i personally, would love it if a girl hit on me. saves all that risk of rejection stuff  although for me to be convinced a girl's REALLY trying to flirt with me, she has to be pretty obvious and blatant, cause i have so much self-doubt |
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This results in me not getting enough dates as I should and I hate it. 
I like to feel like a man just as much as my mere amount of previous dates has liked to feel like a woman; I feel like a big baby when she has to do all that. (even though I agree it is better than nothing)
I feel like I am the equivalent of a guy chasing someone except he has his foot is injured so he needs to use crutches. 
Not all communication is verbal, especially in the arena of sex, love and romance.
