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Post by babygirl on Oct 4, 2004 17:32:07 GMT -5
Hey guys I was just wondering how would you guys feel if you got an anonymous letter in the mail?It says that someone is interested in you,gives a describtion of the person.It seems to be the same person that you have been interested in but didn't have the courage to ask her out.What would you guys think,or feel?
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Post by shy 777 on Oct 4, 2004 19:15:05 GMT -5
I'd be creeped out like I am being stalked perhaps by some old pervert guy who claims to be a young girl.
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Post by SilentShadow on Oct 9, 2004 11:08:02 GMT -5
I would love to get an letter like that! that whole anonymous thing just makes it more fun!
and if you're anything like me, you'll take what you can get!
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Post by Max Power on Oct 9, 2004 11:44:12 GMT -5
Three years ago during the Anthrax scare, I might've freaked. But today if I got an anonymous letter I would love the mystery and highly anticipate the unveiling of my admirer.
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Post by Max Power on Oct 9, 2004 16:30:50 GMT -5
Give him the letter but ensure that it includes real hints as to who you are. Good idea. How about saying something that really sticks out in his head, then include that in the letter you send him. For example, if I were in your situation and I'm talking to a girl I have a crush on, I'd find the opportunity to say something like, "That's how the cookie crumbles." I'd say it to her a few times until she connected me with that expression. Then in the letter, I wouldn't give out too many clues, but the last sentence would say something like, "If you are not interested, then I guess that's the way the cookie crumbles." I guarentee his heart will jump!  |
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Post by GreenFerret on Oct 9, 2004 21:08:37 GMT -5
Personally, I would for the first maybe hour or so feel exceptionally excited and keep trying to completely identify this "secret admirer" with the person I liked...
And then the low self-esteem would take over and I would quickly come to believe it was no more than a joke.
UNLESS there was something very unmistakably a trademark of this person--and for that reason, I think Max Power's advice is a really, really good idea! And as cheesy and overused as it sounds, if you have some sort of perfume or something, you might try scenting a note with it. That way, he can be reasonably assured that it's no joke at all, with both the "catchphrase" and the smell to go by, lol.
However, this is still no guarantee that this guy is going to ask you out. Even if he really, really likes you, there is a great chance that if he's shy and has low self-esteem, he is going to talk himself out of making a move just because he feels unworthy. I'm putting myself in his shoes, here, but I think a lot of people here would identify--I dunno if this particular guy would, though. If he doesn't ask you out or something after your note, then I would suggest that you carefully monitor his reactions after that. Try to discern if he seems more or less receptive to your attentions, and if you think he seems to be warming up (or at least showing some positive signs), then it may be you that will have to take the risk. The problem with this, of course, is that shy people are notorious for being kind of difficult to read... In the end, you may just end up having to take a big leap of faith no matter what.
So maybe the note isn't really the way to go at all--maybe you should just go ahead and take a more direct route, rather than the scenic detour. The "secret admirer" is a fun idea, but in the end, maybe it's just asking for trouble... clouding the issue.... you know? What would you do, fo example, if beyond all reason this guy thought it was some other girl who sent the note? If he asked her out and she agreed, it wouldn't really matter, after that, who was actually the secret admirer in the letter.
Lots to think about! Have you decided yet what you're going to do, Babygirl?
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Post by babygirl on Oct 10, 2004 10:49:21 GMT -5
No I haven't,actually it was a friend of mine who suggested that I do it.But I was undecided.I have sent a "secret admirer" letter before and the recipiant happened to be a friend of his.I don't think that they know I sent it because I used a friends name and didn't give any hints as to who I was.But thats before I even met this guy.If I had met this guy before that then I wouldn't have sent it.
I was thinking the other day.I went to school with the guy that I'm interested in,he had one of his friends to ask for my phone number.But I thought that they were joking around so I didn't give him my number.Maybe he remembers that.But a lot of my friends don't even recognize me when I run up on them.
But I have really just thought about giving up because it is depressing.Especially trying to figure out what he really wants.Usually I never get what I want anyway,it always ends up going the opposite way for me.But I'm not sure what I'm gonna do yet.
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