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Post by roy on Oct 15, 2004 15:13:01 GMT -5
I just started at my new job today. I don't really know anyone there obviously, so I just sat by myself in the cafeteria eating my lunch while reading the newspaper. As I got up to leave, one of the girls in a loud, all girl table pinched my butt! What the heck? I am not sure whether to be flattered or feel sexually harrassed. I know if I did this to a girl, she wouldn't like it. (or would she?) I turned around by habit even though since I am very shy and afraid to, they were all staring at me smiling, I couldn't tell who did it either. I blushed, my face was beat red. It was embarrasing. I smiled like a goofball. I know I look good in my suits, but darnit, what am I some kind of "boy toy?" Up until now I didn't actually know females behaved this way. They all quited down at that moment to see what I would say. Albiet, I couldn't say anything because I was outnumbered a half dozen to one!
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Post by lonelyheart on Oct 16, 2004 1:21:24 GMT -5
Maybe she fancies you?  |
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Post by Sweet pea on Oct 16, 2004 3:41:42 GMT -5
I really don't think that kind of behavior is cool whether male on female or female on male. Actually, in the workplace it's sexual harassment and totally not cool. They didn't even know you and had no right to assume you would like it. They sound like airheads to me.  |
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Post by CaryGrant on Oct 16, 2004 9:51:13 GMT -5
It's unacceptable, and the pincher could be disciplined or even fired for it. However, it's as big a deal as you make it, and the women would likely stick together.
I think it was a test to see what kind of guy you are. Are you uptight, a flirt, shy, etc.? If you didn't like it, then the best response would be to say something like, "Ladies, you have to at least buy me a drink before you do that." Something light-hearted that still says Don't do that.
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Post by Boblouie58 on Oct 18, 2004 23:34:44 GMT -5
My, looks like some girls will do anything for attention. I'm not sure of what to make of this crude advance but she could have done it to you on a dare?
In the workplace, yes this is so called sexual harassment and accepting this kind of behavior is not acceptable.
Have you observed how this group behaves away from the office setting? Many people will do things in a group that they would never do by themselves. Its worth observing and being careful around this group.
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Post by Kitten on Oct 19, 2004 9:08:46 GMT -5
If you did that to one of those women, she'd most likely pitch a fit, run to your supervisor and have you fired or written up for sexual harrassment. But somehow, they think it's OK to pinch your butt and treat you like their own personal boy toy? Even if it was all in good fun, adults just don't go around pinching each others'asses, especially at work. Hopefully it was a one-time thing, maybe they just thought you were cute and acted on impulse, emboldened by being in a group of female support. Guaranteed they'd never do something like that on their own. Maybe if you get to know them better on a one-on-one basis, joke about the ass-pinching and see if they take the bait and admit who did it. They probably won't but you'll show them you're a good sport about it, and if they know you, they'll be less likely to do stuff like that.
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Post by perverted loner on Oct 19, 2004 15:47:08 GMT -5
I would propose a trade: "You can grope my butt if I can do likewise to your butt and/or your breasts." But if she did that to me and wouldn't make a deal, I would do what Kitten said a girl would likely do if the situation was reversed and rat her out to get her canned. haha! Either "her ass is mine - literally" or "her ass is mine - figuratively!" haha... My personal choice would depend on how hott she is.
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