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Post by shy 777 on Nov 4, 2004 15:14:41 GMT -5
Ok I wish you both the best of luck!  Let me know how it goes. If you have any other problems or questions I'll be glad to answer. |
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Post by Mela5 on Nov 4, 2004 20:51:50 GMT -5
Thanks Shy777! wow, ur such a kindred soul! lol no but seriously youve been soo much help and i cannot thank you enough!!  thanks ever soo much!! i wish u had MSN messenger! |
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Post by shy 777 on Nov 5, 2004 15:42:05 GMT -5
Cheers! Thanks for the compliments! I do have msn messenger but I never use it. (surprise, surprise lol) |
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Post by Mela5 on Nov 5, 2004 15:56:11 GMT -5
OOH! you have it u just dont use it....well that sucks!! lol anyways....i had a tear fest today!...last night we were pretty close to breaking up i think....i really need to talk to him about us....but i just cant....im such a retard....but yea yesterday we were talking about how its not going too well because we dont talk very much and then he had to go so it was just kinda left in a stick mucky situation and it was sooo weird and confusing...so me being the baby that i am cried myself to sleep last night and also when i got to school in my first period class my teacher noticed that i wasnt as happy as i usualy am and as soon as she asked me if i was okay my tears started streaming! i felt like a HUGE baby....but oh well it kinda felt nice to get it out and have someone listen....not that ur not a someone i just mean....*its hard to type ur feelings....lol* but yea....it was awkward a bit....anyways....i must be off but ill talk to you again soon.....hopefully |
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Post by shy 777 on Nov 5, 2004 16:19:32 GMT -5
Yeah, shy guys can be really sensitive when someone tells them they do not talk enough. It feels like someone saying to a person in a wheel chair, “your legs don’t work.” We have had enough people telling us that and we tend to know it but it still hurts. I don’t think it is wrong that you had that discussion with him. Maybe it will make him try harder to communicate more. Maybe it will push him away because he thinks you don’t like someone who doesn’t talk enough. It’s a gamble. If you show that you still like him since you were so upset about it you probably do, then the former should be the more likely scenario. Although, he has to want to put effort into talking more too.
Once a shy person gets comfortable with someone, he or she has no excuse not to talk. It doesn’t mean we will act like chatter boxes but it means we won’t fear talking to that person. The fear is the unknown/unexpected results from people to a shy person when he says something. So if you can get him comfortable with you then you should be ok.
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Post by Mela5 on Nov 5, 2004 19:44:04 GMT -5
okay well i definitely made sure he knew i liked him! i emphasized it a lot. And i dont know....he was in a really bad moood with his friends today...and they all think it has something to do with our little....not fight but....it was a really weird shocker....u know...but i think maybe it was good that we talked about it...we just need to talk about it more....i really really really do like him and i will wait as long as i need to until he gets comfortable with me.... i hope its soon tho. But okay in the same conversation we had last night he was kinda putting himself down.....it was weird cuz hes not one to usually do that....and like one of the things he said was: why do u like me? if i was you and i liked guys i wouldnt go out with me...im annoying and retarded.....so i had to explain to him why i liked him and i felt soo bad for him cuz he thinks that.....i honestly like him soo much and i dont find him annoying at all....but i dont know its just weird that he thinks that of himself.....but yea...i have to go and clean up the kitchen....soill talk to you later! |
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Post by mela5 on Nov 5, 2004 22:35:09 GMT -5
wow! second tear fest of the day....we just broke up...he said he would rather just being friends....i guess it was for the best....im soo i dunno, ive been crying for the last hour...and i cant stop...i liked him sooo much it came to me as a shock for that to happen....but whatever....like its not like we did anything...but still i liked him a lot...and it was just really shocking for that to happen  ....oh well...i guess it wasnt meant to be :S |
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Post by lonelyone on Nov 6, 2004 5:25:41 GMT -5
i'm sorry you're feeling sad  from what i read, you were ready for a relationship and he was not don't take it personally cuz i'm sure it's not hang in there hope you feel better soon |
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Post by shy 777 on Nov 6, 2004 9:56:52 GMT -5
okay well i definitely made sure he knew i liked him! i emphasized it a lot. And i dont know....he was in a really bad moood with his friends today...and they all think it has something to do with our little....not fight but....it was a really weird shocker....u know...but i think maybe it was good that we talked about it...we just need to talk about it more....i really really really do like him and i will wait as long as i need to until he gets comfortable with me.... i hope its soon tho. But okay in the same conversation we had last night he was kinda putting himself down..... That’s great! I wish there were more girls like that but he would have to work at it too. It takes two… He obviously has very low self-esteem. I don’t feel this way and even if I did, I wouldn’t tell anyone about it. His reasons for feeling this way are his own. It sounds like he is using this as an excuse for you not to like him because if I felt that way, I wouldn’t say anything like that to a girl I liked. Did he believe you? wow! second tear fest of the day....we just broke up...he said he would rather just being friends.... His loss because you really liked him… If he is really that shy and especially if he feels that way about himself, he may not get another girl friend for a longggggggg time. I’m sorry that you’re upset. He obviously isn’t mature enough to handle a relationship now. If you wish, feel free to IM me or email me if you have any questions about it. |
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Post by Mela5 on Nov 6, 2004 14:29:07 GMT -5
thanks anyways...i guess ill just have to get over this by myself....its sad but i guess it couldnt last forever...oh well
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Post by CaryGrant on Nov 13, 2004 14:40:55 GMT -5
Sounds like you're pursing him? Maybe back off a bit, and see if he leans back in.
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Post by mela5 on Nov 15, 2004 20:43:41 GMT -5
haha i dont know...its over now...and hes not being a very good friend....when i talk to him he doesnt seem to want to talk to me....which hurts me even more than the pain i am already in but umm i think ive moved on and got over him.....my best friend is trying to hook me up with her boyfriends twin brother. Which i think would be really cool. Ive talked to him many times and he is soo nice and really cool and he seems like a cool guy....but how long should i give it before jumping into a nother relationship? i dont want to look really skanky or anything but at the same time i dont want to look like im never gonna find someone cuz he broke my heart.....its been about two weeks or so...is that too soon?....i dont know...i just dont want to look like a skank.... thanks.... |
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Let me know how it goes. If you have any other problems or questions I'll be glad to answer. 
thanks ever soo much!! i wish u had MSN messenger!
....oh well...i guess it wasnt meant to be :S
