Post by Max Power on Nov 13, 2004 2:28:13 GMT -5
Some of you may know about my story involving a girl in the cafeteria who I liked for 3 years, but never apporached her. Basically, three years ago there was this Girl With Glasses who I fell in love with. I rarely looked at her, only catching glances when she was not looking. For about a year I never made eye contact with her until later on I got clue after clue after clue that she either liked me from afar as well or she noticed that I liked her from afar. Either way, there was something up, but I had no courage, no confidence in myself, no esteem. Everytime I was near her or her friends, I clammed up and ignored them. 
Only over the last few months have I begun to appreciate myself for my humor and other self awareness stuff, and gradually made more eye contact. I did not believe that this girl, who if I was asked to paint a picture of the perfect woman it would be her, actually noticed me in some capacity.
Problem is, The Girl With The Glasses has been gone for over 3 months now.
But today was strange. Real strange. I was standing on a long line to pay for my lunch when I saw her friend sitting and having lunch next to the table where my co-workers were sitting (I usually have lunch with my co-workers, but today I was eating with a friend and her boyfriend.) But what was strange was that this girl was sitting with a woman with glasses. I started shaking, really bad, to the point where I had to lean on something to keep from falling. Could this be her? It wasn't, but it was darn close. What was strange was that her friend was staring at me. I kept looking away, but everytime I would dart my eye over there, she was looking at me. Then I noticed something that made me shake even more. I saw that the other girl with glasses was looking around, while the girl was talking to her, and when she spotted me, she stared for a brief while. I made sure I was not staring, and everytime I looked that way, they were looking at me.
Before I realized that this wasn't my Girl With Glasses, I was ready to make my move. I was going to walk over to my co-worker's table, casually look over to her table and say, "hi, how are you" with a smile. This would've been a big breakthrough for me, and it would've opened a door because I would've finally acknowledged her presence, which I rarely did.
Now here's my question. I want to put closure to this if I can. Is there a way that I can approach her friend and ask her about The Girl With The Glasses without coming off like a stalker? I really want to know if it's not too late. I am totally baffled as to what to say without looking like a stalker or creep. Her friend is aware of me obviously. The Girl with The Glasses used to have lunch with another girl, and then this new friend came along. The original friend is gone, too.
If you can offer some suggestions, please feel free. It's killing me that I may have missed something special, or at the very least dating someone who I find interesting and attractive. I am slowly accepting myself as boyfriend material, and I am trying to escape my endless loop of hopelessness and rotting in my own self pity. And, with my feint psychic abilities, I think it's not too late.
Only over the last few months have I begun to appreciate myself for my humor and other self awareness stuff, and gradually made more eye contact. I did not believe that this girl, who if I was asked to paint a picture of the perfect woman it would be her, actually noticed me in some capacity.Problem is, The Girl With The Glasses has been gone for over 3 months now.
But today was strange. Real strange. I was standing on a long line to pay for my lunch when I saw her friend sitting and having lunch next to the table where my co-workers were sitting (I usually have lunch with my co-workers, but today I was eating with a friend and her boyfriend.) But what was strange was that this girl was sitting with a woman with glasses. I started shaking, really bad, to the point where I had to lean on something to keep from falling. Could this be her? It wasn't, but it was darn close. What was strange was that her friend was staring at me. I kept looking away, but everytime I would dart my eye over there, she was looking at me. Then I noticed something that made me shake even more. I saw that the other girl with glasses was looking around, while the girl was talking to her, and when she spotted me, she stared for a brief while. I made sure I was not staring, and everytime I looked that way, they were looking at me.
Before I realized that this wasn't my Girl With Glasses, I was ready to make my move. I was going to walk over to my co-worker's table, casually look over to her table and say, "hi, how are you" with a smile. This would've been a big breakthrough for me, and it would've opened a door because I would've finally acknowledged her presence, which I rarely did.
Now here's my question. I want to put closure to this if I can. Is there a way that I can approach her friend and ask her about The Girl With The Glasses without coming off like a stalker? I really want to know if it's not too late. I am totally baffled as to what to say without looking like a stalker or creep. Her friend is aware of me obviously. The Girl with The Glasses used to have lunch with another girl, and then this new friend came along. The original friend is gone, too.
If you can offer some suggestions, please feel free. It's killing me that I may have missed something special, or at the very least dating someone who I find interesting and attractive. I am slowly accepting myself as boyfriend material, and I am trying to escape my endless loop of hopelessness and rotting in my own self pity. And, with my feint psychic abilities, I think it's not too late.