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Post by Sweet Pea on Aug 16, 2007 7:27:35 GMT -5
I'll play the other side of the coin for a bit. Why is it when someone talks about someone's girlfriend or wife, the first thing usually mentioned is her appearance? Oh so and so has a hot wife. Why is it when someone talks about someone's boyfriend or husband they usually mention his accomplishments such as so and so's husband is rolling in the dough, he's a doctor. If these things have absolutely no bearing, then why do people mention it so much? I realize that some people don't feel appearance and position in life are that important but there are enough people who think that way to make it noticeable. I think those things do have a bearing. Men search for youthful looking women, women search for successful men. It's in our biology. A successful and confident man tends to provide better for a family, something a woman wants. While a youthful looking woman usually IS youthful and therefore is fertile and will/could make lots of babies, something a man wants. yeah, until he finds a new, younger woman and dumps the now older woman...cuz no man wants to pay child support.  |
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Post by audioalone on Aug 16, 2007 14:58:02 GMT -5
women are only going to open up if you're a) one of the best looking attrattive / confident guys in sight b) rich c) both I personally do not care about sex as much as i would have loving relationships but seeing as there is no women on this planet who could ever love me sex is about as much all i'll ever get, and even then id have to pay for it. Actually, for THIS female (of course I can't speak for ALL females) -the guy (of whom my latest creative thread offering was about) referred to himself as not that good looking; his ex thought the same also. But that's not the 100% thing I'm looking for in a man. I want a man who will put me first, second only to God. And who will treat me well. I don't know if the opening statement post is true or not, but lately I've been emotionally agreeing with it. For myself, also I have to say that money is not the #1 thing I'm looking for in a relationship with a man. My ex-husband was not rich; further, he was actually on the poor side. But that did not matter to me. Long as all our needs are met and we have love for/are happy with each other - that's what matters to me. |
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Post by madiocre on Jul 2, 2008 9:34:44 GMT -5
"Just as a woman needs love to open up to sex, a man needs sex to open up to love"....is this true? well that is the culture we live in .we are raised with that gender construction and expectations of what it means to be of one gender or another . offcourse above it all we are told how equal it all is and that truly we are all free but socially its not that true . if a girl is seen as wanting sex before love she is labeled a slut . If a guy is seen as wanting love before sex he may be labeled something else unfair ( sorry i dont mean to make it one sided i just m talking about my experience and as im not a male im not that knowledgeable to that side .) In some ways it seems to be put forward as an exchange of sorts love for sex . if the guy shows love he gets sex if the girl "puts out "( because apparently having sex is such a put out for us women???) she gets love ( in the form of flowers and cards and being driven places). Really we are both capable of both love and sex on equal terms i think it s not quite a biological thing but more a social thing that is put upon us from an early age b4 many of us even know what these things are . so in a way it not that we need it that way its that we think we do. |
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