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Post by shoppinggirl on Jun 30, 2007 9:33:17 GMT -5
"Just as a woman needs love to open up to sex, a man needs sex to open up to love"....is this true?  ![]() [/img] ShoppingGirl hawaiibhms@gmail.com |
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Post by Astroruss on Jun 30, 2007 22:28:18 GMT -5
This does seem to be a recurring theme in popular culture, isn't it?  |
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Post by noselfworth on Jul 1, 2007 2:28:55 GMT -5
women are only going to open up if you're a) one of the best looking attrattive / confident guys in sight
b) rich
c) both
I personally do not care about sex as much as i would have loving relationships but seeing as there is no women on this planet who could ever love me sex is about as much all i'll ever get, and even then id have to pay for it.
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Post by Sweet Pea on Jul 1, 2007 3:05:30 GMT -5
women are only going to open up if you're a) one of the best looking attrattive / confident guys in sight b) rich c) both I personally do not care about sex as much as i would have loving relationships but seeing as there is no women on this planet who could ever love me sex is about as much all i'll ever get, and even then id have to pay for it. would you even let a woman love you? |
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Post by pnoopiepnats on Jul 2, 2007 10:45:45 GMT -5
"Just as a woman needs love to open up to sex, a man needs sex to open up to love"....is this true? A lot of men claim to be able to have sex without love so that kind of negates the sex to open up to love theory. I need to feel loved to have sex. If I'm being neglected, I'm not going to be too keen to get naked. |
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Post by naganuma on Jul 2, 2007 20:14:01 GMT -5
"Just as a woman needs love to open up to sex, a man needs sex to open up to love"....is this true? its false just like any other statement that tries to say a whole gender thinks the same way, people are diffrent. |
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Post by annaa on Jul 5, 2007 17:55:58 GMT -5
It really isn't fair to make these generalisations. People have got to stop!
It may well be true for some people, but for others that very idea may seem crazy.
In answer to what noselfworth said, I disagree completely. Wealth and confidence have nothing to do with it. Whether or not I open up to a guy depends on what he's like as a person. If I think for one second that he'll laugh at me/tell all his friends/stop talking to me/make a judgement because of something i've told him about myself, then I won't say it (even if he's a millionaire). End of.
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Post by pnoopiepnats on Jul 5, 2007 19:15:49 GMT -5
I'll play the other side of the coin for a bit. Why is it when someone talks about someone's girlfriend or wife, the first thing usually mentioned is her appearance? Oh so and so has a hot wife. Why is it when someone talks about someone's boyfriend or husband they usually mention his accomplishments such as so and so's husband is rolling in the dough, he's a doctor.
If these things have absolutely no bearing, then why do people mention it so much?
I realize that some people don't feel appearance and position in life are that important but there are enough people who think that way to make it noticeable.
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Post by MrNice on Jul 5, 2007 19:24:06 GMT -5
there are very few people who actually feel like this - and a lot of people that SAY they feel like this does this help you?
women say all the time that they want a guy that doesn't care about appearence - so the guys claim not to care about appearance
its very simple
people say many many things that contradict what they do
in our society, its proper to claim that you don't care about appearance - if you say that you care about appearance, you are deemed as shallow
of course if you are confident and don't care what others think, you can care about the appearance and still get the girl
in fact I have observed that guys that can easily get women can have much lower standards in terms of appearance then the ones who can't
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Post by phoenixferret on Jul 5, 2007 19:26:24 GMT -5
I'll play the other side of the coin for a bit. Why is it when someone talks about someone's girlfriend or wife, the first thing usually mentioned is her appearance? Oh so and so has a hot wife. Why is it when someone talks about someone's boyfriend or husband they usually mention his accomplishments such as so and so's husband is rolling in the dough, he's a doctor. If these things have absolutely no bearing, then why do people mention it so much? I realize that some people don't feel appearance and position in life are that important but there are enough people who think that way to make it noticeable. Women are still valued mainly for their looks, with intelligence these days being icing on the cake. And men are still valued mainly for what they do or are capable of, with looks as the icing. These are sweeping generalizations, but they hold a nugget of truth in them. |
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Post by annaa on Jul 5, 2007 20:08:45 GMT -5
Ok I realise some people say appearance doesn't matter, when really it does.
But I really don't mind.
Initial physical attraction can only work for so long; after a while, if someone is not the person you like, it's not going to work.
I'd prefer to get involved in a long-term relationship (when I have a realtionship), because I need security.
My emotional needs outweigh my 'physical needs', and so it's only logical to go for a good person that can be there for me emotionally.
I suppose that in a way, because I don't like my own appearance, i'm going to need someone that feels the same about themselves in order for them to understand my thinking.
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Post by pnoopiepnats on Jul 5, 2007 20:52:06 GMT -5
There has to be some initial spark or chemistry with a person. People are attracted to different things though too. A type of guy someone else finds attractive, I may not find attractive at all and visa versa.
I guess if the only thing there is is the physical attraction that does fade rather fast and there is nothing left after lust is gone.
I still find my sweetie physically attractive but there is more than just lust or we wouldn't have lasted this long.
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Post by Sweet Pea on Jul 8, 2007 2:32:02 GMT -5
I still find my sweetie physically attractive but there is more than just lust or we wouldn't have lasted this long. i agree...strong feelings for someone won't last unless there's more to it than physical attraction. |
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Post by iroseiroared3 on Aug 5, 2007 5:20:08 GMT -5
That's not true for all women. At least not for me.
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Post by k151 on Aug 15, 2007 23:13:30 GMT -5
I'll play the other side of the coin for a bit. Why is it when someone talks about someone's girlfriend or wife, the first thing usually mentioned is her appearance? Oh so and so has a hot wife. Why is it when someone talks about someone's boyfriend or husband they usually mention his accomplishments such as so and so's husband is rolling in the dough, he's a doctor. If these things have absolutely no bearing, then why do people mention it so much? I realize that some people don't feel appearance and position in life are that important but there are enough people who think that way to make it noticeable. I think those things do have a bearing. Men search for youthful looking women, women search for successful men. It's in our biology. A successful and confident man tends to provide better for a family, something a woman wants. While a youthful looking woman usually IS youthful and therefore is fertile and will/could make lots of babies, something a man wants. |
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