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Post by Astroruss on Jul 4, 2008 22:20:50 GMT -5
It worked out for Apu on the Simpsons. 8 kids? Sounds delightful..  And his wife had them all at once too!  ;D "Don't worry. Our kids will live on love"  |
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Post by adion on Jul 8, 2008 2:16:35 GMT -5
We spoke of arranged marriages in my Anthropology classes in college. I remember the professors mentioning one reason for their success in some cultures is because the two people usually work harder at maintaining their marriage so they don't shame and disappoint their families. I agree; I think arranged marriages work out because the wife and husband work harder at maintaining their relationship. I think they do this because their own parents probably came from arranged marriages too, and so respect the tradition more. I have heard the same also and I agree with what was already said above ^^^. In some cultures/Religions arranged marriages are more common place so that option is always open. Also I think arranged marriages are less stressful on the people in them because they don't have the added pressures of finding a mate and having kids etc. |
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Post by etn on Jul 10, 2008 12:33:55 GMT -5
8 kids? Sounds delightful.. And his wife had them all at once too! ;D "Don't worry. Our kids will live on love" And banana bread!  But seriously, there are times I envy cultures with arranged marriages. Sounds like it would cut a lot of the hassle out of life. On the other hand, I'm sure there is some concern about who you may be arranged to be married to. Personally, I think I'm better off having the opportunity to choose a mate. But, I'm a hopless romantic... |
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Post by gaia on Jul 10, 2008 13:32:12 GMT -5
But seriously, there are times I envy cultures with arranged marriages. Sounds like it would cut a lot of the hassle out of life. On the other hand, I'm sure there is some concern about who you may be arranged to be married to. Personally, I think I'm better off having the opportunity to choose a mate. But, I'm a hopless romantic... Hmm... i've thought about it, and I sort of wish I could have an arranged marriage... Or maybe have my Dad find a partner for me by asking one of his friends about their sons (like in the Olde days). But then there's always a risk that you won't get on with that person at all. I suppose i'm just going to keep my fingers crossed that a good guy will come my way soon (hint.. hint..). |
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Post by adion on Jul 10, 2008 16:02:19 GMT -5
But seriously, there are times I envy cultures with arranged marriages. Sounds like it would cut a lot of the hassle out of life. On the other hand, I'm sure there is some concern about who you may be arranged to be married to. Personally, I think I'm better off having the opportunity to choose a mate. But, I'm a hopless romantic... Hmm... i've thought about it, and I sort of wish I could have an arranged marriage... Or maybe have my Dad find a partner for me by asking one of his friends about their sons (like in the Olde days). But then there's always a risk that you won't get on with that person at all. I suppose i'm just going to keep my fingers crossed that a good guy will come my way soon (hint.. hint..). ^^Ditto, that would cut a lot of hassles out of my life too. Except the only thing I would worry about is if I was not attracted to the person or if we didn't get along. |
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Post by etn on Jul 10, 2008 21:57:07 GMT -5
But seriously, there are times I envy cultures with arranged marriages. Sounds like it would cut a lot of the hassle out of life. On the other hand, I'm sure there is some concern about who you may be arranged to be married to. Personally, I think I'm better off having the opportunity to choose a mate. But, I'm a hopless romantic... Hmm... i've thought about it, and I sort of wish I could have an arranged marriage... Or maybe have my Dad find a partner for me by asking one of his friends about their sons (like in the Olde days). But then there's always a risk that you won't get on with that person at all. I suppose i'm just going to keep my fingers crossed that a good guy will come my way soon (hint.. hint..). So where do you want to have the wedding Anna? My country or yours? ;D |
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Post by strawberrysweetie on Jul 10, 2008 22:02:45 GMT -5
I'd be more afraid of the other person not liking me...  |
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Post by Sweet Pea on Jul 10, 2008 23:20:00 GMT -5
arranged marriages seem to be accompanied by alot of not so pleasant stuff, like family pressure to uphold the honor of the family name blah blah blah...no thanks. |
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Post by gaia on Jul 11, 2008 14:16:18 GMT -5
So where do you want to have the wedding Anna? My country or yours? ;D You're the man. You make all the decisions... I'd be more afraid of the other person not liking me... Yeah, but the beauty of marriage is they're trapped. I'm kidding... sort of... |
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Post by urbanspaceman on Jul 11, 2008 15:02:07 GMT -5
I'd be more afraid of the other person not liking me... Yeah, but the beauty of marriage is they're trapped. I'm kidding... sort of... She's not. I've been locked in her garden shed for the last 3 years. I only communicate on these forums through awesome telekinetic typing powers on her computer when I know she's out buying torture equipment...  |
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Post by gaia on Jul 11, 2008 17:37:21 GMT -5
Yeah, but the beauty of marriage is they're trapped. I'm kidding... sort of... She's not. I've been locked in her garden shed for the last 3 years. I only communicate on these forums through awesome telekinetic typing powers on her computer when I know she's out buying torture equipment... Ok mister... I upgraded you to the luxury suite because the box wasn't good enough for you. You're given water, bread, a candle and a bucket in that shed. What more do you want?? If you continue to be so picky, i'll add another bolt to the door. Your choice... ;D |
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Post by Sweet Pea on Jul 11, 2008 20:06:03 GMT -5
She's not. I've been locked in her garden shed for the last 3 years. I only communicate on these forums through awesome telekinetic typing powers on her computer when I know she's out buying torture equipment... Ok mister... I upgraded you to the luxury suite because the box wasn't good enough for you. You're given water, bread, a candle and a bucket in that shed. What more do you want?? If you continue to be so picky, i'll add another bolt to the door. Your choice... ;D and a bucket!!! omg! that's is the height of luxury.  |
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Post by etn on Jul 11, 2008 21:13:48 GMT -5
So where do you want to have the wedding Anna? My country or yours? ;D You're the man. You make all the decisions... Your brave, you've never seen the results of some fo my decisions It's humid were I am, how's the weather in the UK? |
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Post by gaia on Jul 11, 2008 21:30:35 GMT -5
You're the man. You make all the decisions... Your brave, you've never seen the results of some fo my decisions It's humid were I am, how's the weather in the UK? It's absolutely pissing down. Rain, rain and more rain.  |
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Post by strawberrysweetie on Jul 11, 2008 22:53:42 GMT -5
I'd be more afraid of the other person not liking me... Yeah, but the beauty of marriage is they're trapped. I'm kidding... sort of... Yeah....but, that can also bad. I would hate to have an unfaithful partner. I think that's my worst fear next to being lonely for the rest of my life.....getting married, ending up with the guy despising me/thinking I'm ugly or unfit as a wife and running out on me. I don't want to change the subject.....but you know how people on tv make those 'pacts' with a female or male friend...."If we're 40 and not married yet, let's get married." Do people actually do that? lol |
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