too far?

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littlesongbird said:

UPDATE: I met him last night for dinner! And he was actually really nice! Yay! Oh and he came and picked me up and not once mentioned it being too far. It was so nice to meet someone new and to get out!

Thank you guys!

That's cool, just remember not to mention to him that the price of oil was $100 a barrel recently.

[audioalone]

Definitely not, Little Song Bird!!! 20 miles is not too far away, IMO.

In my experience: (this might be long)

My first boyfriend lived about 10 miles from me. No biggie.

BUT - when I was 18, I talked to a guy on the CB radio who lived in Perry, ME. I was in Southern NB (Canada). We talked a lot on the CB, he called me EVERY night 6 o'clock his time, 7 mine. I came down to see him twice. He met me at the Greyhound bus station. I don't know the exact mileage, but it was far enough I had to take one of these kinds of buses!!! I usually stayed at his place (he still lived at home with his mother, brothers and sisters; I stayed in a guest room). We were boyfriend/girlfriend for about a year - it might have been two (it was so long ago, it's hard to remember). We actually parted as friends. I do actually think of him from time to time hoping he's doing well. Sorry about my rambling again, LSB.

So in my experience I do have to say 20 miles is not too long a distance. If he is interested, he should be willing to come to where you are.

Then again, he may be using that as an excuse. I don't know.

Just putting in my 2 cents worth.

I hope I didn't disccourage you by saying this, LSB.

Take care!

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littlesongbird said:

ok my little conclusion. he still says its too far. so we're just friends.

That's good then. Now you know so you can move on to dating others.

[Sweet Pea]

littlesongbird said:

ok my little conclusion. he still says its too far. so we're just friends.

hmmm...he says it's too far, but then he decides to go out with you anyway, and now he's saying it's too far again. i don't like the sound of that lsb. he might not even be good friend material. he might just be manipulating you. there's alot of guys online who are into that. just look at it as practice to get comfortable with dating, and don't look back.

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he might just be manipulating you.

manipulating her into what? getting out of the house and eating dinner? what a great manipulator

just look at it as practice to get comfortable with dating, and don't look back.

or could he possibly be unsure? Guess only girls get that privelege. A guy should be 100% in love before he makes any moves.

[Sweet Pea]

lsdima said:

he might just be manipulating you.

manipulating her into what? getting out of the house and eating dinner? what a great manipulator

you may not be aware of this, since i'm sure you're an honorable guy and all, but there's a helluva lotta guys on the internet who are trying to make sure they're gonna get laid before they set a foot out the door or spend a nickel. they might tell you their indecisiveness is because of practical matters such as distance, but what they're really dithering around about is they really aren't interested in a relationship at all. most of these guys won't hesitate to lie and say they're interested in a relationship to get laid, but they really just want to make sure it's gonna happen as quickly and inexpensively as possible. i don't know if that's the case here or not for sure. but since he has decided for whatever reason that she lives too far to date, i couldn't recommend she give him a second thought.

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sweetpea said:

lsdima said:

manipulating her into what? getting out of the house and eating dinner? what a great manipulator

you may not be aware of this, since i'm sure you're an honorable guy and all, but there's a helluva lotta guys on the internet who are trying to make sure they're gonna get laid before they set a foot out the door or spend a nickel. they might tell you their indecisiveness is because of practical matters such as distance, but what they're really dithering around about is they really aren't interested in a relationship at all. most of these guys won't hesitate to lie and say they're interested in a relationship to get laid, but they really just want to make sure it's gonna happen as quickly and inexpensively as possible. i don't know if that's the case here or not for sure. but since he has decided for whatever reason that she lives too far to date, i couldn't recommend she give him a second thought.

Very true. I've heard lots of guy online dating see it as one big all you can bang buffet.