Women making the approach

[reddragon]

I was wondering Girls, exactly what is it in a man that could cause you to abandon society norms and make the first move on him ?

[annaa]

I may have said somewhere else, but actually shyness is one thing that might make me approach someone. If I thought a guy shared the same feeling that I did (wanting a relationship), but neither of us seemed as though we were going to make a move, i'd probably then 'take the lead' and go for it.
Though before I did anything i'd like to be really sure he liked me. I wouldn't want to face rejection because I got the wrong idea.

From a more practical point of view, i'd need good opportunities - if I never had a chance to talk to this guy alone then there's no way i'd ask him out.

Also i'd approach a guy if one of my friends told me he liked me. As annoying and embarassing as it might seem, actually telling a girl's friend you've got something for her could help; it's one way to get her thinking about you and hopefully, if the friend thinks you're a decent guy, she/he may even be able to persuade the girl to go out with you... *having said that, it's important not to let a third party get too involved. Telling a friend is fine, but nagging them isn't.

Hope this gives you some ideas.

[Sweet Pea]

basically, if i like what i see alot and he hasn't made a move...but seems open/interested...i'll do it. it's 2007 not 1807...why not?

[phoenixferret]

I've approached guys because... I really like them. Nothing ventured, nothing gained.

[HybridMoment]

Where my sister goes to college this is normal. In fact I know that she has asked many guys out on dates, because in the sorority she joined every girl has a book where they write down names of guys they have asked out (I'm not sure what the purpose of that is?)

In high school I knew of a few girls that asked out guys, but I think they were rejected.

[audioalone]

In the first instance (1985) I was very attracted to the man.

In the second instance (1993) I think it was lust. (Well, he was shy and I was weak lol!)