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Post by sunkissed on Apr 12, 2008 19:39:20 GMT -5
So, I'm curious is there anyone here who has conquered their shyness of intimacy (both of physical and emotional)? This seems to be my biggest obstacle atm. And if so, how did you go about doing this? I'd like detailed answers, please.
And I am going to see a therapist about this sometime in June, but that's months from now and a little insight from others is never a bad thing, so...any takers?
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Post by lennythegiant on Apr 12, 2008 20:25:21 GMT -5
I wish I had shyness of intimacy to worry about. I mean I've never gotten that far before.  |
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Post by gaia on Apr 12, 2008 22:35:08 GMT -5
I've read stuff on the matter, but never put it into practise (physically). Emotionally i've never had a problem with sharing my thoughts and feelings with people I can trust... so I couldn't tell you "how to overcome it". I suppose you need to ask yourself what you are afraid of, and deal with it accordingly. Will you let us know how you get on with the therapist in June? Obviously I don't mean share all your personal details with us..  But let us know if it's helpful / how scary it all is / if it's worth doing? |
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Post by I am Jack's wasted life on Apr 13, 2008 14:34:28 GMT -5
I have the same problem. Any volunteers to share with us their experience?  |
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Post by Rosiemoore on May 22, 2008 7:30:07 GMT -5
Ohhh yes, I have so much fear of intimacy  Most people are shy of rejection, but I am shy even when I know the person likes me too!! I have recently realised that I am scared of myself.... scared that I will freeze up in an intimate situation, thus creating awkwardness and misundertstanding.  That's why I live such a lonely life, a virgin at 30. I feel so useless and not worthy of love, I know men like virgins but who wants a woman who is scared she cannot open up?? BTW, I love Edward Norton too!!!!! |
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Post by Bodhi on May 25, 2008 11:29:28 GMT -5
I think experience is a big help, and makes you more able in the future to become more intimate with other people, especially on a physical level. The problem is initially gaining that experience. You should try to seek out people that you can be comfortable around. That comfort level is a key thing, and makes it much easier to open up to someone and move to those more intimate levels.
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Post by Sweet Pea on May 25, 2008 11:58:07 GMT -5
i think i'm actually more comfortable in intimate relationships than any other kind. i tend to move rather quickly to that level when possible, because that's where i'm more comfortable. i have more problems with relationships that require me to remain on more of a formal, distant level...like at work. ugh...
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