intentions

[MrNice]

I have been accused of doubting the sincerity of someone's intentions
That is not what I meant to do and I would like to elaborate a bit on that

Good intentions don't always translate into something positive. Nor do intentions in general always work out the way things were planned.

Any sane person would prefer someone that is honest and loyal to a deceitful cheater. Of course you want to click with, be compatible with and get along with your mate. Who would want otherwise? When people start relationships they don't intend to have problems or end up in an abusive one and their intentions are usually pure.

But life often does not go according to the fantasy script that accompanies our intentions. Yes, we can't always avoid risk and life is life, however to understand why we end up in less then favorable situations time after time it pays to examine if our intentions are in tune with reality.

[Sweet Pea]

lsdima said:

I have been accused of doubting the sincerity of someone's intentions
That is not what I meant to do and I would like to elaborate a bit on that

Good intentions don't always translate into something positive. Nor do intentions in general always work out the way things were planned.

Any sane person would prefer someone that is honest and loyal to a deceitful cheater. Of course you want to click with, be compatible with and get along with your mate. Who would want otherwise? When people start relationships they don't intend to have problems or end up in an abusive one and their intentions are usually pure.

But life often does not go according to the fantasy script that accompanies our intentions. Yes, we can't always avoid risk and life is life, however to understand why we end up in less then favorable situations time after time it pays to examine if our intentions are in tune with reality.

i think i've seen you post long enough to have a pretty good idea where you're coming from. i get that you're trying to help people. however, in future we need to keep the board civil and safe for everyone to express themselves. so we need to ramp back on the arguing a bit. if things are getting heated, it's best to back off a tad and just cool it for awhile. the mods will be asking everyone to do that. i think it's important to remember that being right is not the most important thing on a support site.

[gaia]

My intention is never to damage anyone by the advice I give.

Perhaps my intentions aren't totally in tune with reality, and maybe with more 'life experience' I can improve on that? Who knows...?

Thank you for giving some clarification, anyway.

[Astroruss]

I've found it is better to talk about things in the abstract, rather than directed at specific persons.

Honesty is a great virtue for the human race, but so is the ability to exercise selective judgement in the verbalization of our own thoughts.

As such, there's a fine line between saying what needs to be said and using the proper amount of tact.