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Post by spitzig on Apr 2, 2003 0:38:07 GMT -5
Charlie - that's good. One thing about living on your own is it is great for your independence, finding your own life..etc. Actually, I've never depended on my roommates(since I graduated and moved out of the fraternity house) for a life. Having a life just seemed irrelevant to my roommates. My last roommate and I didn't have anything in common. My current roommate and I haven't done much together, largely because of my schoolwork(time). He doesn't seem to have much of a life, either, though. Yeah, I was fired. Not because I was shy. I got a bad review. Later, my boss said I'd "improved significantly"--I specifically asked, to avoid this situation. I found out later(when I got fired), that it apparently was not enough. However 16 other people (out of like 120) were fired soon after. I don't think I'd react well to being "forced". I don't like being "forced" to do things I hate, especially if I don't know how to do them(like initiate conversations). I mean, I don't have a problem going to someone and asking them a specific technical question, or explaining it to them. Actual business-type schmoozing, where you have to get people to like you, I'd suck at.
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Tiff
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Post by Tiff on Apr 2, 2003 5:11:48 GMT -5
Actually, I've never depended on my roommates(since I graduated and moved out of the fraternity house) for a life. Having a life just seemed irrelevant to my roommates. My last roommate and I didn't have anything in common. My current roommate and I haven't done much together, largely because of my schoolwork(time). He doesn't seem to have much of a life, either, though. Yeah, I was fired. Not because I was shy. I got a bad review. Later, my boss said I'd "improved significantly"--I specifically asked, to avoid this situation. I found out later(when I got fired), that it apparently was not enough. However 16 other people (out of like 120) were fired soon after. I don't think I'd react well to being "forced". I don't like being "forced" to do things I hate, especially if I don't know how to do them(like initiate conversations). I mean, I don't have a problem going to someone and asking them a specific technical question, or explaining it to them. Actual business-type schmoozing, where you have to get people to like you, I'd suck at. I don't necessarily like being "forced", however, in some instances I have to force myself to do somethings just to become more independent and try new things...at the expense of my shyness. But it's a rarity when i do that. Only in the past few years have I done so, mainly because for me still living at home I am trying to establish a life outside of my homelife with friends, outside hobbies..etc. Moving out eventually will contribute to that someday. Sorry you had gotten fired. I am sure there is a job out there to your liking and a better atmosphere for you to work better in.
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Post by Michael1973 on Apr 2, 2003 14:26:25 GMT -5
I too will force myself to do things sometimes, mainly because I know that if I don't I will forever wonder what might have happened if I had. Nothing worse than regret...
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Post by S on May 4, 2003 5:51:18 GMT -5
I don't think I'd react well to being "forced". I don't like being "forced" to do things I hate, especially if I don't know how to do them(like initiate conversations). I mean, I don't have a problem going to someone and asking them a specific technical question, or explaining it to them. Actual business-type schmoozing, where you have to get people to like you, I'd suck at. I've just accepted a job in a factory as an engineer and to get that job I had to attend 2 interviews. How the hell can I get through 2 interviews for quite a well paid job (well paid for a 22 year old) and still be crap at asking people for anything? I thought that half of the job selection process was about personality and how good an impression you made to the manager but now I think that anybody can put a suit on and give convincing answers to questions, no matter how they get on in the rest of their life. Maybe it just forces you to try hard for an hour at the interview and then you can go back to normal and stay at home in the evening. When I was at college lots of people had part time jobs and I thought "it's all right for them, they can go round stores asking for a job and being friendly and outgoing to people", even if the pay was bad.
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