Melanie
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"Beneath my shyness is someone with talent, love for life, and hope for the future!"
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Post by Melanie on Apr 20, 2003 21:44:31 GMT -5
Hi peeps,
does or did anyone ever try and fit in with a group of people, but there's that ONE rotton person who is aware of your shyness and makes your life a living hell trying to fit in with HER or HIS group.
i'm talkin about that SNOB who holds a stigma against shy people, like they're not worthy of being in a crowd of non-shys. This happened 2 me once and it literally made me soooo mad at this girl. she'd make it known that she didn't want me around HER crowd, even though her entire group liked my company! i can't stand her to this day!! she's a real snot and i don't know why people like her and can't see through her. She's really popular and KNOWS it too!
can anyone here relate ??
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Post by spitzig on Apr 21, 2003 1:41:52 GMT -5
I got that in high school. I don't know whether you are in high school, but I tend to think people are not like that much outside high school. Cliques just don't really exist, at least not as "self-importantly" as in high school. Life outside high school isn't a popularity contest.
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Post by unionjackattack86 on Apr 21, 2003 3:45:01 GMT -5
There's a bloke where I work who always comments that i'm quiet and jokes about it, by telling me to shut up and stuff when I haven't said anything and stuff like that, I don't mind it when its a once off but when he constantly does it; it is annoying and its nothing I haven't heard before.
Another thing he picks up on is the fact I don't smile very much, I must admit I do look solemn/serious most of the time but i'm fed up of people repeatedly telling me to cheer up and you look as though it never happened and you look dead miserable you e.t.c. e.t.c.
Its not like i'm going to go round smiling 24/7 anyway, i'll say something if I have something to say and I'll smile if its necessary, like I say, I don't mind it as a once off and a joke but when its all the time, it does get boring after a while.
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Melanie
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"Beneath my shyness is someone with talent, love for life, and hope for the future!"
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Post by Melanie on Apr 21, 2003 6:42:31 GMT -5
No, I am not in highschool. Doing my undergrad at uni. 26 yrs old. Highschool is just a venue for cliques. I've seen this type of behaviour in workplace situations, religious organizations, etc. People are people. Some habits are difficult to drop, such as snobbery. This girl could also feel threatened by a new group member who gets along with her friends. Maybe she's the leader of the pack and thinks that I might take away her role since her friends like to hang out with me. I guess she's just intimidated and insecure. That's my personal impression of her. I have met various forms of this personality trait over the years, and maybe I was so fed up with seeing it over and over again, especially in university. Snobs suck, big time.  Melanie |
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Post by Twice-Shy on Apr 21, 2003 11:26:11 GMT -5
I had a bit of a problem with this when I worked in a supermarket a few years ago. The main person I worked with used to tell me to smile and all that. You just find that a lot of the time they're showing off to their mates.
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Post by moogle on Apr 22, 2003 0:55:22 GMT -5
i haven't had too many people give me a hard time. not consistently at least. there were some comments made in high school about whether i was still alive or not..but stuff like that always came from teachers.
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Post by unionjackattack86 on Apr 22, 2003 2:57:23 GMT -5
Lol they use to call me mr dead when I first started high school and one time, the older pupils turned off the lights in the corridor as I was walking through, it didn't bother me though, most of the time I just take people putting me down in my stride.
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Post by Diva on Jun 12, 2003 11:33:59 GMT -5
There is this bartender at this club that I go to who called me mute and said I made him nervous 'cos I'm so quiet like I $#@& care. Since then he never talks to me (which I am not bummed out about though he is cute). It only gets to me sometimes when two of the girls I hang out with are at the bar and by now he knows "the three musketeers" although somebody else did call us Charlie's Angels! I digress, sorry. Anyway this bartender always serves my two friends and just ignores me. People who tell me to smile get to me to. I usually very rudely turn to them and tell them no. Are they stupid? Should I go around with a smile pasted to my face like an idiot.
holla
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Post by spitzig on Jun 12, 2003 12:31:37 GMT -5
Well, can you go to another bar? Or have your friends go to another bartender? Or have your friends not leave a tip whenever he gives one of you bad service(meaning you)? Haven't read it yet, but there's an article on www.shyrelease.com about smiling, and why it's not fake to do so. Or, something like that. |
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Post by diva on Jun 12, 2003 12:51:47 GMT -5
Well my two friends get along with him just fine and one of my friends who is a real flirt enjoys flirting with him. We do go to other bartenders but flirting with this one bartender is really a highlight of her evening so getting ignored by one bartender isn't gonna kill me.
You misunderstood me about the smiling part. I am not saying I don't smile at all. I do that a whole lot (too much if you ask me), I laugh a lot too ;D. My point is there has to be a good reason for it.
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Post by Mildman1 on Jun 12, 2003 15:11:35 GMT -5
Sounds like that bartender is used to girls falling about all over him and can't take it if someone doesn't - sounds like he's insecure. You may say he's "cute" but he doesn't sound like a nice person.
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