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Post by Pauline on Jul 19, 2003 14:32:02 GMT -5
hello. I am in a bit of a mess tonight. I am 22 and veyr shy. I don't have many friends. I work in an office. I was working today. I have no friends at work and I sometimes each my lunch in a toilet cubicle. I sneak in and often eat a sandwhich. Nobody esle knows, well, I thought they didn't. I was in a cubicle today eating my lunch when someone, I don't know who, came into the cubicle beside me. I kept very quiet. A few moments later, I crumpled piece of paper came over from the next cubicle and landed on my lap. I opened it and it said: 'my name is pauline and i have no life.' I just burst into tears. I was in hysterics for a long time. I couln't go back intot he office. I walked out of the building and walked home. I left my coat on my chair. I phoned and told my boss that I was sick. I have to phone and let her know how I am tomorrow. I feel like packing it in. I am so hurt.
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Post by glennmiller on Jul 21, 2003 0:53:09 GMT -5
i understand how u feel. i am not that shy now. but i was when i was little. i would like to hear from u.
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Post by Twice-Shy on Jul 21, 2003 10:11:21 GMT -5
Sorry to hear about your trouble, Pauline. I hope you're feeling better today. I've been through periods where I've been poked fun at. It really can be devastating. Just keep your head up.
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Post by M1chael on Jul 21, 2003 18:14:09 GMT -5
I have thought about your post alot today pauline and i hope it went well for you...
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Post by RollingStone on Jul 22, 2003 21:10:52 GMT -5
That's a horrible thing for a co-worker to do! If I were the boss, I certainly wouldn't tolerate that kind of behavior.
You should tell someone - an authority or a co-worker who is nice to you. I realize that it would be scary, so maybe writing a letter would be more comfortable. Regardless of the outcome, I think you'd feel good about finally standing up for yourself.
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Post by inkysoftwhispers on Jul 23, 2003 11:46:32 GMT -5
I didn't think people did things like that out of school. Is awful..I would have been in tears too. But don't let it get to you too much -anyone who goes out of their way to deliberately hurt someone like that isn't anyone whose opinion you should be worried about. I'm sure i'd much rather live in your shoes than theirs.
Maybe if it's impossible to get on with the people in your office, a change of job would be good...you spend so much time there it's important to have friends...I don't know. Anyway, hope you're feeling better too.
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Post by Twice-Shy on Jul 26, 2003 13:47:39 GMT -5
I've seen a few things like that in my time as a temp. This one lad used to talk to himself when nobody was in the room. One day, before he came into work somebosy wrote on the whiteboard: "my name is ##### and I talk to myself." The fella was devastated. As Rollingstone said, it's nothing short of bullying and maybe you should think about making a formal complaint.
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Post by g3netix on Jul 28, 2003 17:40:36 GMT -5
 4 you pauline.
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Post by glenn miller on Jul 31, 2003 11:48:55 GMT -5
hope all went well.
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Post by shysteven on Nov 3, 2003 18:29:09 GMT -5
sweet sweet pauline! i fear that this has happened to me too my ex colleagues know that i love mice (i'm totally obsessed with them - they are so cute!). anyway, one day i was in the toilet cubicle reading a book called "the pimp's bible" (you can buy it from amazon) because in a strange way it gives me confidence reading about other people's confidence. i heard the door to the toilets open and two or three people enter the toilets. i thought nothing of this but a few seconds later someone threw a dead mouse into my cubicle and it hit me on the head. i was so upset i started crying. however, i could not leave the poor dead mouse on its own and so i gave it a viking burial. i wrapped it up in lots of toilet roll and placed it in the wooden container i had my sandwiches in. i then set it on fire and then placed it into the toilet. after the flames had gone out i flushed the toilet and the mouse had gone. however, the silent smoke detectors had alerted the building security and they came into the toilet and asked me what i was doing. i told them i had been burying a dead mouse but they wouldn't believe me! i was marched out of the building and taken to the police. i was then questioned about my actions and after five long days in jail was released without prosecution on the grounds that i seek psychiatric help! i now have to see a psychiatrist 3 times a month and am not allowed to work so i have to claim benefits. i hate doing this as i am so shy and do not like meeting other people in the benefit office and so i don't go down there anymore. the rent on my bedsit is now overdue and there is no way i can pay it. my life is ruined i hope that you have found happiness now my sweet pauline. hello. I am in a bit of a mess tonight. I am 22 and veyr shy. I don't have many friends. I work in an office. I was working today. I have no friends at work and I sometimes each my lunch in a toilet cubicle. I sneak in and often eat a sandwhich. Nobody esle knows, well, I thought they didn't. I was in a cubicle today eating my lunch when someone, I don't know who, came into the cubicle beside me. I kept very quiet. A few moments later, I crumpled piece of paper came over from the next cubicle and landed on my lap. I opened it and it said: 'my name is pauline and i have no life.' I just burst into tears. I was in hysterics for a long time. I couln't go back intot he office. I walked out of the building and walked home. I left my coat on my chair. I phoned and told my boss that I was sick. I have to phone and let her know how I am tomorrow. I feel like packing it in. I am so hurt. |
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Post by Valerie on Nov 4, 2003 15:44:13 GMT -5
Pauline-I would love to be your friend! E-mail me at miaemeralds@yahoo.com.
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Post by shysteven on Nov 4, 2003 16:00:07 GMT -5
do you not want to be my friend aswell valerie? |
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Post by SADdaydreamer on Nov 5, 2003 3:04:40 GMT -5
anyone who goes out of their way to deliberately hurt someone like that isn't anyone whose opinion you should be worried about
Preach on sista! You have to wonder about people like that. Pauline, don't worry about someone like this. If you ask me it's pretty pathetic when you have to belittle someone to make yourself feel good! You are so far above this scum! I know it's easy to be hurt in the moment because things can be so easy to believe when you are shy w/ low self esteem. But you have to look at the big picture. Feel free to email me anytime, I would love to talk to you.
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Post by Valerie on Nov 5, 2003 16:35:04 GMT -5
I would be happy to be your friend!!!!  |
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Post by michael jackass on Nov 6, 2003 14:16:51 GMT -5
lovely
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4 you pauline.